There have been many posts and topics about people writing about Ryan and what he meant to them personally or to the site/industry etc. Its really great to see so many people honoring him that way. But of course its also a way of coping with his loss. I won't join that massive group because most of the time i cope in silence with or without a good glass of whiskey. (Sorry Ryan no bourbon, Laphroaig or Highland Park 12 is where its at.)
But for the most part i cope with loss or get through tough times with humour. That for me is the healing elixir. It helps when the person in question was extremely funny.
Sometimes its better not to talk about something because its offensive or just has no place in the conversation. (I'm looking at you people posting on IGN about Ryan's weight.)
But i feel comedy has different rules. "Too soon" to me has never made sense. I feel double that way when comedy is used as a way to deal with the situation or your own emotions.
a couple of examples is when someone (can't remember who) said on twitter : it was the breastmilk. Or when Ryan's wife made a joke about her marriage being shorter than Kardashians. Both might seem offensive to some and both caught some small amount of shit for it on twitter. But how can someone feel he has the right to say "too soon" to Ryan's WIFE?
I just finished listening to the bombcast, and the only way they filled 2 hours was by making jokes. when things got serious it was silence. Joking around is what made them have at least some amount of fun while making a podcast about their friend that just passed away.
In the podcast Jeff talked about not posting some jokes on twitter because he had some negative feedback on it. i believe brad said he found some of it "too soon". Which i totally understand and respect! But I would urge jeff and everyone to just mourn in their own way. If that means posting some really sick joke, Go for it! It may offend some, but it will be a beacon of comfort for others.
So with this waaaaay to long article I would like to retire "Too soon"
I will continue my way of mourning. which is fantasizing how every single monty python sketch i know would play out if Ryan was a part of it. Starting with these 3.