One time my parents noticed that I looked sad and they asked why. I told them about Ryan describing it as the passing of someone who worked on a website I loved for four years just passed away in less than a week after he got married. Even though they learned that Ryan isn't a personal friend of mine, they were sorry to hear this news and they were able to understand why I was so bummed that night.
Yeah. I told my Mother and Grandma, since I was obviously pretty down and depressed that day. They feel for me, but I don't think they really understand how I can care so much for someone I was a fan of on the internet. They've seen my Giant Bomb shirts, and that's probably the only thing they know of the site. They don't really know how much Giant Bomb has helped me get through the years, and how much that is thanks to Ryan.
I play in a casual softball league and all of my teammates have specific batting music to pump them up. Last night as a tribute to Ryan I changed my batting music to the Giant Bombcast theme. After the game I had more than one person in the league come up and ask me if that was for Ryan, I had no idea that these people were fans but we bonded and cried and drank beer (and poured one out) and talked about Ryan and what GB has meant for us. It was was cathartic and just what I needed.
I even told my GF and she was surprisingly sympathetic. I guess she understood what it meant to me... I'm gonna have to buy her some flowers or something.
My mother called me yesterday afternoon and though I didn't intend to tell her about it, I did. My "it's nothing mother leave me alone!" was too weak to pass her senses. I had never really spoken to anyone in my family about Giant Bomb, except when Jeff got fired maybe, but I hadn't talked to anyone about it yet, and, after all, mom's easy to talk to.
I told my wife immediately and she was shocked (her response was "but he just got married!"). While she doesn't watch GiantBomb videos on her own, she will when I am watching them from time to time and she gets a lot of exposure to the Bombcast when we're in the car. Later she also understood and was very supportive when I explained why I had been crying and that I had drank (drunk?) the rest of her wine.
Didn't really talk to anyone about it because I had a feeling they'd just shrug it off. I did make a couple Facebook posts about it, though. After that, my mom and my cousin offered their condolences. They both knew how much this site means to me. Girlfriend was right on the ball though, she did her best to comfort me as soon as she found out.
@loganwtf What a great story, man.
My mother was familiar with the bomb crew, she especially liked Ryan. When I told her what happened, she hugged me and said she was so sorry that I lost my friend. That meant a lot, I may not have knew him personally...but I spent enough time with him weekly to feel like he was my friend, and to have someone else notice that meant a lot.
I was alone when I found out and for a couple hours after, so I got a fair share of crying done. Then my mom called me and I guess I did a terrible job of trying to make my voice sound normal because she asked me right away what was wrong. After starting with "I don't know how to say this so it doesn't sound lame", I explained it to her, and she almost immediately started crying too. I don't think I used the word "friend" but I guess my message came across well enough because later that day when my Dad came by he said "Sorry about your friend."
@loganwtf That's an awesome story.
My family was extremely understanding of the sadness I felt. I made it very clear I had never met Ryan but emphasized how special his contributions to my life were. Didn't make them double take at all (they know how much I'm on the site) and their support has been great.
I told my mum. She's familiar with some of the crew's work, because I've showed her some of the GoTY vids (she loved the Office spoof from last year) and she understood to a point. I know that if say, one of her favourite radio hosts died, she'd be pretty upset, but I don't think any of those people are as important to her as the GB crew (who have been a huge part of my daily life since about 2005 when they were still on Gamespot) are to me. Still, it was nice to share with someone out loud and have them understand at least a bit. She mostly thought it was a huge waste for someone so funny to die so young.
I got pretty teary last night while browsing the forums, and when my brother walked in he asked me what was wrong. I told him that a friend of mine died because I couldn't think of how else to explain it. Before that I also told my two friends just cause I needed to say something about it. They could tell how tragic it was.
I told my brother and my parents. The easy explanation being that I've spent hundreds of hours listening to Ryan about his personal life and video games every Tuesday and most Thursdays and Fridays. It's someone that made me happy passing away, so of course I'm going to be sad about it.
Told my wife as she knew who he was and was pretty shocked, especially just after being married and going from the GB crew were saying while he was getting married, the happiest he had ever been in his life, and I guess that is just something I personally can hold on to that he was....happy..........
I told my wife. When I showed her his picture she said "oh no, the cute one!"
She never listened to the bombcast but she has seen him in videos and liked him. She likes quick looks the most. Shes upset especially because he just got married a week ago. She also had a co-worker pass away last week, one week before his marriage.
I had to share with my wife because she needed to know why I was so upset. She doesn't understand the feelings.. but at least I got to say it out loud.
Same as me, I actually broke down into tears when she tried to talk to me about it. I was holding it in all day and just let the tears role. She doesn't really understand why but understands that I'm emotional over this and that is why I love her. Ryan and the GB crew have been a big part of my life since I starting visiting, listening and watching them 2 years ago and his death felt like loosing a family member or at least a close friend. It was just the sudden lose of him that gets me the most, I've lost grandparents but that at least seems natural in context of their health. Ryan was 34, that would be like loosing my brother of the same age, just really gets to me emotionally.
When I was reading the article for the first time last night my wife was sitting next to me and audibly heard me just say, "Oh... shit," so she glanced over my shoulder and quickly went over the article herself. When she got to the part about him being married recently she just quietly got up, walked to the bedroom, and went to sleep. I think it actually bugged her a bit more than me just because of that. To even an outsider looking in it's heartbreakingly sad. When I went to bed a couple hours later all she said was, "I'm sorry," and then wrapped her arm around me.
I wasn't bawling my eyes out... but she knew that I naturally liked Ryan after watching me laugh at various Quick Looks or TNT's. Honestly if she didn't find out for herself I probably wouldn't have told her, and she knows that. But having her know and having her be there to lean on even though I personally didn't need it meant more than she'll ever know.
Other than that I'm not going to tell anyone. I hardly told anybody about my grandparents passing away unless they were on a need to know basis, and most people didn't need to know.
I haven't told anyone, haven't felt the need to. I dunno, it's too weird I guess? I'm totally distraught over the death of a man I've never met, who I've followed on the internet for years, and I don't think I know anyone in person who can identify with that. That's why I'm glad I'm part of this community. You dudes are each as or more sad than I am, and this is somewhere we've all been able to share that sadness in the past two days and sort of virtually pat eachother on the back and give a 'there, there'. Because we're fucking Giant Bomb, and being a badass community that supports each other is what we god damn do.
One of my two closest friends happens to be the one who introduced me to Giant Bomb in the first place. So I was able to talk with him about it. We were both devastated. We spent a while just talking through Facebook since he lives in a different state now.
I told one of my closer friends and all I really got was a "oh that sucks" but they quickly lost interest. I guess I understand that even when I explain how large a part of my life Ryan was it still sounds dumb to the uninitiated. That more or less put me off sharing my grief with any other friends or family members. None of them would be able to see this loss as legitimate, so I've turned to the forums for my comfort, quietly sobbing in isolation.
I tried to talk on various forms of social media, and to a couple of friends, but I just came off as the "Leave Britney Alone" guy. Or that's how I felt.
I was (and maybe am again) literally inconsolable. But then I talked to my newish relationship friend-girl, and she seemed to actually understand. Or faked it enough for me not to tell the difference. Either way, I'mma continue dating the shit out of her.
I had a major medical emergency in my family the same day that we all learned about Ryan. It felt weird to bring it up when there was a serious event happening right in front of me, so I didn't burden anybody.
Fortunately, two of my closest friends are also deeply into GB, and we are all commiserating daily.
I was on the sofa with my girlfriend and she could tell something was wrong. She was very understanding, she knows how much Giant Bomb stuff I watch, even if she thinks it's dumb. She might not have immediately got it, but I think in a small way she knew what this meant to me.
She's been uncharacteristically nice to me since, it's weird...
I told my wife, and naturally she had to drag it out of me how much it was actually affecting me because I tend to want to hide such things. I finally let her read my blog post about it and she almost started crying. She understands why I feel the way I do and I really do appreciate her support. But she's probably the only one I would tell as the explanation needed for other people would be such a hassle and they still probably wouldn't get it.