@truthtellah:
Well, since we're trying to drag this back on-topic...
I think it's commendable that Gabe has taken a long, hard look at himself, identified his problem and is trying to solve it. Lashing out verbally whenever you're threatened is a great way to deal with bullies when you're a kid. As is hiding, retreating into your own Fortress of Solitude. Or pretending there's nothing wrong.
But those are not good ways of coping with issues when you're (supposedly) an adult. It's going to be hard to lose those habits, those walls you've built up in all those years.
On the other hand, the real tragedy is probably that to a large group of similarly marginalized and bullied people (gamers), he was a hero. He didn't take shit from anyone, stood his ground, said what he wanted to. The inevitable backlash is going to be that the "Social Justice Warriors" got to him; he's just saying this because he just wants some peace and quiet, but he actually doesn't believe it, still one of us; they might've have gotten to him, but not me! I'll fight the good fight!
And even more tragic: every group that has been marginalized, bullied or stigmatized in the past is doing that exact same thing to other groups. Whether it's nerds, geeks, gamers, women, ethnic minorities, LGBT, cis, whatever: whenever an ill-thought out comment is aired, someone immediately cries foul, rallies the troops and goes on a terrible crusade to fight for their cause. And it's always their fault. Because being considerate of other people is censorship, right? Free speech and all that?
Well, who knows, you might even find out, you might find out (as Gabe did), you inadvertently hurt someone close to you.
That being said, I wanted to let you know that, when I read your words, it makes me instantly uncomfortable, because I wonder what you think of me. My thought and impression was that we were on good grounds, and I appreciated all the kind words you sent my way. But when I wasn’t around, did you talk about me as a guy in drag? Those are the sorts of questions and insecurities that filter into my mind.
Credit: Sophie Prell, games journalist and transgender.
God, this must be the corniest / sincerest thing I've written. I feel dirty.
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