I'm having a crisis of conscience, please help me out!
This has been bothering me for a while. One of my closest friends got togheter with this girl about a year ago. She's a cute and super nice girl, and generally the type of girl you bring home to meet the fam. Anyway, shortly after getting togheter with this girl, my buddy and my cousin left for a three month back packer trip. After this trip, he moved to basically the other side of the country, not to far away from where I'm currently studying.
Now, he's still with the girl, and he always tells me how great she is and stuff. But the thing that bothers me is that he always picks up random girls. He's been sleeping around both when he went on that trip, as well as after he's moved. He keeps justifying this with the fact that we're still young (we're 20), and we're supposed to experience life now. And I totally agree with him. But I think it's a dick move for him to have a girlfriend at the same time.
Like I said, he's one of my closest friends, so I would never tell on him. But now I just might have to. I've been home on christmas break for a while, and he set me up with a close friend of his girlfriend. One thing led to another, and now we're togheter, and that has left me in an awkward situation. She told me that his girlfriend was suspicious of his activities, and asked me if I knew anything about it. I of course told her that I didn't, and that he was a good guy and all that stuff.
When I had a chance to think about it, it really pissed me the fuck off. I don't see why I should have to lie to my girlfriend, just to keep his girlfriend from finding out about him. At the same time, it was him (and his girlfriend) who set me up with my girlfriend. Thing is, she's been on my radar for quite a bit, and she's way out of my league. If she's willing to be with a goof like me, she's got to have something special. I'm thinking there's actually a future with her. Basically, we're pretty serious, and I know I won't be sleeping around when I get back to where I'm living now. Fuck it.
So it boils down to this:
- Keep lying to my girlfriend, and risk losing her.
- Tell the truth about my friend, even though he was the one who set me up with her.
I'm having a tough time with this, and it's keeping me up at night. It's 6 in the AM, and I have slept a fucking second. Just been watching my girlfriend sleeping (sounds creepy), and thinking I really don't want to lose her, which is a possibility if I keep lying to her. At the same time, I don't want to lose my closest friend, because who knows how long I'll be togheter with his girl? I'm hoping for a long, long time...