(conclusion) my girlfriend joined the army (conclusion)

here is the original thread if you dont know what this is about.   http://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/my-girlfriend-has-signed-up-for-the-army/512725/?
I just wanted to thank the people with real advice and say fuck you to the assholes with the comments like "shes gonna fuck 100 guys" 
shes a good person and wouldnt cheat on me. 
But the bottom line is this. 
She decided she wants to stay in the military for a while then hopefully get into the CIA in Virginia.  Im in arizona... 
So she has told me shes not coming back. There is now nothing for me to think about. 
Its over. I have no way of going with her and shes not coming back here. :'( 
this breaks my heart. I feel like pure shit. I dont know how to get through it. 
But theres nothing i can do. 
Once again thanks for the nice comments and advice.  
And eat shit to the assholes with thier bullshit comments...

Hey man, no need to put this in another thread-you can just edit the old one.
 On the other hand, it's sad that you had to do it. Necessary, but sad.

Sorry to hear that man, but some times people just move apart as they get older and decide what they want to do with their life. Just hang in there, and the more time goes by the easier it will be to keep on keeping on.

@tunaburn: Every time I've gone through a tough breakup, I always poured myself into something productive for a while. The key word being productive. Pick something and do it. Whether it's the gym (will help with future relationships), learning an instrument (also), art (also), or any type of sport, do something where you'll have acquired something useful. Also, gaming and friends. Sucks. It happens to pretty much everyone and most people survive and you will to.

She's not gonna fuck 100 guys but she's gonna be fucking one guy who is not you sooner or later. So enjoy the single life~

I read the previous thread but felt like I didn't have the right to comment as I've not been in a serious relationship and have no experience to draw on in order to give advice or an opinion.
I'm sorry to hear that your situation ended this way.

She's not gonna fuck 100 guys but she's gonna be fucking one guy who is not you sooner or later. So enjoy the single life~

@tunaburn said:

@thehexeditor said:

She's not gonna fuck 100 guys but she's gonna be fucking one guy who is not you sooner or later. So enjoy the single life~

that i agree with. but i was hoping that she wouldn't and would come back after her contract was up. we would visit and all that stuff. but, not gonna happen.

Just as dark is the absence of light, being single is the absence of a girlfriend. Not all of us are afraid of the dark.

With that said, I've got nothing more to contribute to this thread.

I dont know how to get through it. But theres nothing i can do

@tunaburn said:

I dont know how to get through it. But theres nothing i can do

No one ever really knows how, but they do. Ride it out Tuna.

I'm not trying to be mean but get over it, fast. I'm not saying go out and meet some other lady right now, unless that is what you want, but even thinking about it is going to get you nowhere. While my first break-up from a long term relationship was mutual it was still tough. Looking back it would have been easier if I just never thought about it after. Luckily I only really spent like a month feeling sorry for myself than I snapped out of it. Plenty of fish in the sea my man, you'll catch another one soon.

:(

Dude, been there recently as well. I know how it feels and at times like this I can only advice you to think about all the good things that will come from the business you've created (or will create) and try not to lose the friendship. I'm really sorry for you both. 

sadface

@tunaburn: Well duder at least you got certainty .... sucks anyway :(

, but look at the good side , you can now come over to GB more and be nerdy without guilt

sorry you two felt it couldn't work.

Sorry yall couldnt work it out bro. Chin up. There is literally billions of girls out there.

@tunaburn:

It's Friday night man. TIme to call some friends you might not have heard from for a while and get fuckin' krunk, commiserate some place loud and rowdy. Labor day weekend, baby!

@lazyturtle:

I wouldn't do it until he's moved on, when they're both on equal footing. The biggest mistake I see people make is keeping in touch with their ex, it never moves on. She's moving away for good, leaving him without the person he loves. She can forage ahead just fine.

And Tuna, if she calls and needs your help man, remember this: She's big-girl enough to leave you for her ideals, that means she's big-girl enough to deal with her own shit.Do not white knight for someone who leaves you high and dry.

Your situation reminded me of an episode of 'How I Met Your Mother'.
 
All I can say is, good luck with anything in the future, I'm sure things will work out for the better :). Stay positive.

I wish you the best in your tough time. I hope that you are able to eventually pick yourself up and move on. There will be a grieving process for a while, so allow yourself time to come to terms with everything and you'll be all the better for it! Once again, good luck!

They are plenty girls out there, don't worry about it...may be use a rebound girl, they always work!!!!

That sucks bro. Take a few weeks to get over the initial feeling of loss.

Platitude BS aside, shit's going to suck horribly for a long while if you take breakups as badly as I do, but when the weight finally lifts, and it WILL lift, it's a good feeling indeed.

well again that sucks. sorry to read about that.

@tunaburn:

It's Friday night man. TIme to call some friends you might not have heard from for a while and get fuckin' krunk, commiserate some place loud and rowdy. Labor day weekend, baby!

@lazyturtle:

I wouldn't do it until he's moved on, when they're both on equal footing. The biggest mistake I see people make is keeping in touch with their ex, it never moves on. She's moving away for good, leaving him without the person he loves. She can forage ahead just fine.

And Tuna, if she calls and needs your help man, remember this: She's big-girl enough to leave you for her ideals, that means she's big-girl enough to deal with her own shit.Do not white knight for someone who leaves you high and dry.

As others have stated: there are tons of others out there.  
 
I advise everyone to read the OP again while listening to this song. Basedgod 
 
  

you know i said what i know from first hand experience? lol 
 
sorry but the truth hurts if i had a girl, well if your married with 4 kids for 12 years its a weee tad different but EVEN then i seen it happen everywhere. but yeah back to that if i had a girl i wouldnt trust her one bit or even myself its impossible. life is to diverse.

Sorry to hear that man, it's a shame things couldn't workout.

Time soothes. 

Sucks. Just try to enjoy life for now.

Sorry to hear that.

You'll find someone else, this one wasn't meant to be. And it seems like she's had already chosen her career over the relationship so it's best to find someone who's more committed than she was, there's nothing you could have done.

Shit man, that must really fucking suck. All you can do is keep pushing forward.

@tunaburn: Sorry man. Just hang in there, and you'll find someone else. I know how it feels losing someone after years because one of you wants one thing and the other isn't willing to maintain that, but in the end it's probably for the best. Sounds like you need someone with a little more comparability with your life. I wish you the best!

I'm sorry to hear it, man. Those things are always tough

Same thing just happened to my cousin. Its going to suck for the first 2 weeks or so. Then it gets easier and easier man. One day she'll just be a memory and you'll find someone else that it will work out with. Just give it some time.

That really sucks man.. don't kill yourself over this ...i really hope you have a hobby , and talk to other girls.
Talk to other girls man, it really helps.

wait a second. she goes to military, try to get a chance to CIA? what is this? is this joke or something? CIA has very strict policy to get new people. because she serves army, that doesn't mean she just go to CIA. have you even search for more detail or information or just troll? of course, now it is not matter anyway. you broke up. man, just get over her. as long as you still remember her, the memory will make you pain.  

Welcome to the singles club man. We have more time to play video games here. That probably isn't comforting, but it's all I've got.

That really sucks man.. don't kill yourself over this ...i really hope you have a hobby , and talk to other girls. Talk to other girls man, it really helps.

@BoG said:

Welcome to the singles club man. We have more time to play video games here. That probably isn't comforting, but it's all I've got.

haha thats true i suppose. but sometimes, there are other "needs" a man has.... if you smell what im steppin in

Sucks, but what can you do ya know? Sometimes life just gives you the finger. Here's hoping for the best for you AND her.

Over 6 billion people on the planet, you'll find your one.