I'm not exactly sure how to start. And considering I live in the suburbs of a small to medium sized town in Oklahoma, I have never had such a situation, as I will try to explain below, occur. So I hope I won't botch this up too bad, as I try to piece together something that, to me, ended as a weird night. As I thought about the issue today, in reality, it's really no big deal. But I also wonder if I was using poor judgement, and if the whole deal could of possibly went way bad.
Last night around 10pm, I decided to take a drive to the local QuikTrip and grab a drink before playing some Battlefield 3 with a buddy of mine. As I pulled into the parking lot, I noticed that it was just myself and the QT tanker. I thought to myself "nice, no waiting, I can just get what I want and go." As I was getting out of my car, I see this girl quickly walking my way, waving at me, and she says "Hey...hey... I know this sounds weird, but I don't have a phone. Can I please use yours to call a friend of mine, I'm sorry." Being kinda startled, and in what I saw as an awkward situation, I thought to myself "ahh... shit...." But seeing as I was, for the most part, the only one around, I decided to by a nice guy and let her use my phone. She then says "I'm sorry, I know this is kinda weird, and I hate to ask, but can I sit in your car. I've been walking from that'a way for the past several hours and I am tired....Please, i'm cold." And I couldn't help but to think, "WOW, what have I got myself into." But I didn't want to be a shitty person to the poor girl, so I said "Yeah, sure." As she gets in, she again says sorry for the whole situation being so weird and that random people had offered her rides as she was walking. But didn't take them because it was dark, and wanted to get to a well lit place before asking someone, "who looked like a nice person," for help. As we sat there she began trying to call her friends, and continued saying sorry about the weird situation and "thank you so much" and "thank you for being nice." Of course, none of her friends answered the phone, so I found myself listening to her tell me her life story, and why she had been out walking by herself for several hours.
Supposedly, her family has constantly moved around the U.S. most of her life. Making school, and creating friendships, difficult, as well as, creating tension between her and her parents. Since moving to Oklahoma, she tells me she has dropped out of high-school and is attempting to get her GED, but earlier that night her parents had kicked her out of their house and told her not to come back. Then it hit me, and I hadn't even crossed my mind, "wait...a high-school kid who doesn't get along with their parents, go figure. Getting "kicked out" was sounding like a shady excuse." So I sat kinda skeptical for awhile, but as she began to tell me more of her life at home with her close and extended family, it started sounding like she was from a rather broken and possibly mildly abusive family life. Her parents are apparently raging alcoholics, who constantly look down on her and her sister and have often run them out; She tells me her extended family isn't much better. Supposedly, earlier in the night her parents had returned home extremely intoxicated and began accusing her of things, calling her a failure, and telling her that "she is the reason why their life is so shitty." From there she told me things began to escalate out of control and I guess that's when her parents told her to get out, and not come back. She then randomly says she has some type of nerve disorder that occasionally causes sharp pains throughout her body, and makes her extremely irritable. She ends with saying that she ended up fueling the argument, because her disorder happened to be affecting her at the time this all occurred.
An hour has passed, and these friends she had been calling finally answer the phone. As she talks to them, she is told that they are currently at some party and they will let her know a little later if they can come pick her up. She then calls some other random guy, but the guy was to busy or far away to come pick her up I guess.
So here we are again, waiting, and now it's past 11pm. So I tell her if we are going to be waiting, then I'm going inside QT to buy a drink, and also offer to buy her a drink as well. She says sure, and continues to say I'm a nice guy, and sorry for all the trouble. I wasn't really worried about her stealing anything from my car; A pen, a five hour energy, toll change...my backpack. Nothing of any real significant value. Once I returned, she continues on with stories about her family, and where she has lived, and explains that she wants to be an artist and tries to show me pictures of her artwork on her completely busted iTouch. Then things begin to start sounding weird and shady again, as she all of a sudden says "Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. I've been in trouble with the law quite a bit. In some places they know me by name." From there she tries to explain why it's not always her fault, and that she has just had some bad luck. We eventually land on the topic of drugs, and as we talk I tell her I have had my run in's here and there, because I have, but I do what I can to stay away from them and I keep out of trouble. She laughs and says that she has done her "fair share" of drugs, and tries to stay away from them, but when she parties "it's hard for her not to indulge." It is now nearing midnight and she continues to tell me about some sketchy and dangerous situations she has been in elsewhere, and of the various drugs she has done...etc...etc.
Finally, those friends call and say they will be there soon, but they have the munchies and it might be about fifteen minutes. They also wanted five bucks from her for gas, for coming to get her. Which, to me, they don't sound like much of a friend to her. By this time, things had began to sound conflicting, and I really didn't know if all she had said before was true. Perhaps she was telling the truth, maybe not. All I could really take away, is that she was a troubled individual with a lot of bad choices. I doubt I will ever find out. Her friends eventually showed up about fifteen minutes after midnight, and they looked blazed out of their minds. She said goodbye, and lastly said sorry for all the trouble and thanks a lot for helping her. They drove off, and that was the end to that.
As I drove home, I felt good about kinda being able to help someone. She was nice, I kinda felt bad for her, and contrary to what she said, didn't seem to be some drug addict. Also, she talked nearly nonstop for the entire two hours we sat in my car. So that made things much less awkward. Although, the more and more she told me, the less believable ,and more shady, some of it became. Maybe I was just a sucker ( a nice guy), who now just enabled her to go who knows where and do who knows what. But crime here is low, so unless she left town, I could assume things are fine. Right? Like I said, I'm a simple guy, from the suburbs of an Oklahoma town, who doesn't get out much. So something like this has never happened. I would usually never let some random ass person right into my car, but I let her right in. Why? Was it because she was female? Maybe, but I don't really know. Was it because she was alone? Possibly, but who knows. Randomly letting people into your car without thinking seems like a way for something to quickly go south, and end in a bad bad situation. Of course, I never felt in danger during this situation. Awkward, yes. But in danger, no. In the end, I was more concerned with being the enabler for someone to leave wherever or partake in who knows what. Or maybe I am thinking WAY to much about nothing at all. I have a problem with over examining things, so it's quite possible.
What are your thoughts/opinions? Have you been in a similar situation with a complete stranger? And what would you have done in my position?
** Sorry for the wall of text, but it's been on my mind all day. And I figured I would get a good variety of random comments and opinions here.