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#1 Edited by Errordotocx (115 posts) -

I'm not exactly sure how to start. And considering I live in the suburbs of a small to medium sized town in Oklahoma, I have never had such a situation, as I will try to explain below, occur. So I hope I won't botch this up too bad, as I try to piece together something that, to me, ended as a weird night. As I thought about the issue today, in reality, it's really no big deal. But I also wonder if I was using poor judgement, and if the whole deal could of possibly went way bad.

Last night around 10pm, I decided to take a drive to the local QuikTrip and grab a drink before playing some Battlefield 3 with a buddy of mine. As I pulled into the parking lot, I noticed that it was just myself and the QT tanker. I thought to myself "nice, no waiting, I can just get what I want and go." As I was getting out of my car, I see this girl quickly walking my way, waving at me, and she says "Hey...hey... I know this sounds weird, but I don't have a phone. Can I please use yours to call a friend of mine, I'm sorry." Being kinda startled, and in what I saw as an awkward situation, I thought to myself "ahh... shit...." But seeing as I was, for the most part, the only one around, I decided to by a nice guy and let her use my phone. She then says "I'm sorry, I know this is kinda weird, and I hate to ask, but can I sit in your car. I've been walking from that'a way for the past several hours and I am tired....Please, i'm cold." And I couldn't help but to think, "WOW, what have I got myself into." But I didn't want to be a shitty person to the poor girl, so I said "Yeah, sure." As she gets in, she again says sorry for the whole situation being so weird and that random people had offered her rides as she was walking. But didn't take them because it was dark, and wanted to get to a well lit place before asking someone, "who looked like a nice person," for help. As we sat there she began trying to call her friends, and continued saying sorry about the weird situation and "thank you so much" and "thank you for being nice." Of course, none of her friends answered the phone, so I found myself listening to her tell me her life story, and why she had been out walking by herself for several hours.

Supposedly, her family has constantly moved around the U.S. most of her life. Making school, and creating friendships, difficult, as well as, creating tension between her and her parents. Since moving to Oklahoma, she tells me she has dropped out of high-school and is attempting to get her GED, but earlier that night her parents had kicked her out of their house and told her not to come back. Then it hit me, and I hadn't even crossed my mind, "wait...a high-school kid who doesn't get along with their parents, go figure. Getting "kicked out" was sounding like a shady excuse." So I sat kinda skeptical for awhile, but as she began to tell me more of her life at home with her close and extended family, it started sounding like she was from a rather broken and possibly mildly abusive family life. Her parents are apparently raging alcoholics, who constantly look down on her and her sister and have often run them out; She tells me her extended family isn't much better. Supposedly, earlier in the night her parents had returned home extremely intoxicated and began accusing her of things, calling her a failure, and telling her that "she is the reason why their life is so shitty." From there she told me things began to escalate out of control and I guess that's when her parents told her to get out, and not come back. She then randomly says she has some type of nerve disorder that occasionally causes sharp pains throughout her body, and makes her extremely irritable. She ends with saying that she ended up fueling the argument, because her disorder happened to be affecting her at the time this all occurred.

An hour has passed, and these friends she had been calling finally answer the phone. As she talks to them, she is told that they are currently at some party and they will let her know a little later if they can come pick her up. She then calls some other random guy, but the guy was to busy or far away to come pick her up I guess.

So here we are again, waiting, and now it's past 11pm. So I tell her if we are going to be waiting, then I'm going inside QT to buy a drink, and also offer to buy her a drink as well. She says sure, and continues to say I'm a nice guy, and sorry for all the trouble. I wasn't really worried about her stealing anything from my car; A pen, a five hour energy, toll change...my backpack. Nothing of any real significant value. Once I returned, she continues on with stories about her family, and where she has lived, and explains that she wants to be an artist and tries to show me pictures of her artwork on her completely busted iTouch. Then things begin to start sounding weird and shady again, as she all of a sudden says "Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. I've been in trouble with the law quite a bit. In some places they know me by name." From there she tries to explain why it's not always her fault, and that she has just had some bad luck. We eventually land on the topic of drugs, and as we talk I tell her I have had my run in's here and there, because I have, but I do what I can to stay away from them and I keep out of trouble. She laughs and says that she has done her "fair share" of drugs, and tries to stay away from them, but when she parties "it's hard for her not to indulge." It is now nearing midnight and she continues to tell me about some sketchy and dangerous situations she has been in elsewhere, and of the various drugs she has done...etc...etc.

Finally, those friends call and say they will be there soon, but they have the munchies and it might be about fifteen minutes. They also wanted five bucks from her for gas, for coming to get her. Which, to me, they don't sound like much of a friend to her. By this time, things had began to sound conflicting, and I really didn't know if all she had said before was true. Perhaps she was telling the truth, maybe not. All I could really take away, is that she was a troubled individual with a lot of bad choices. I doubt I will ever find out. Her friends eventually showed up about fifteen minutes after midnight, and they looked blazed out of their minds. She said goodbye, and lastly said sorry for all the trouble and thanks a lot for helping her. They drove off, and that was the end to that.

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As I drove home, I felt good about kinda being able to help someone. She was nice, I kinda felt bad for her, and contrary to what she said, didn't seem to be some drug addict. Also, she talked nearly nonstop for the entire two hours we sat in my car. So that made things much less awkward. Although, the more and more she told me, the less believable ,and more shady, some of it became. Maybe I was just a sucker ( a nice guy), who now just enabled her to go who knows where and do who knows what. But crime here is low, so unless she left town, I could assume things are fine. Right? Like I said, I'm a simple guy, from the suburbs of an Oklahoma town, who doesn't get out much. So something like this has never happened. I would usually never let some random ass person right into my car, but I let her right in. Why? Was it because she was female? Maybe, but I don't really know. Was it because she was alone? Possibly, but who knows. Randomly letting people into your car without thinking seems like a way for something to quickly go south, and end in a bad bad situation. Of course, I never felt in danger during this situation. Awkward, yes. But in danger, no. In the end, I was more concerned with being the enabler for someone to leave wherever or partake in who knows what. Or maybe I am thinking WAY to much about nothing at all. I have a problem with over examining things, so it's quite possible.

What are your thoughts/opinions? Have you been in a similar situation with a complete stranger? And what would you have done in my position?

** Sorry for the wall of text, but it's been on my mind all day. And I figured I would get a good variety of random comments and opinions here.

#2 Posted by OllyOxenFree (4969 posts) -

Was she hot?

#3 Posted by JasonR86 (9379 posts) -

@Errordotocx:

...not to sound like a dumb guy but was she hot? For all that shit you went through you should have at least gotten a number and a date. I'm all for being a nice guy but that was crazy. You deserved something for all that. At least a charity date.

#4 Posted by McGhee (6091 posts) -

I would've told her to fuck off, but luckily there are nice guys in the world like you.

#5 Posted by yoshimitz707 (2446 posts) -

I'm glad it turned out okay but if it had been me I would have been too worried about getting my phone stolen to have even let her use it.

#6 Edited by BraveToaster (12590 posts) -

I was expecting something interesting. Your first paragraph suggested that something worth telling actually happened.

#7 Posted by fullmetal5550 (345 posts) -

If she turns out to be a serial killer I am going to laugh.

#8 Posted by Blackout62 (1303 posts) -

@OllyOxenFree said:

Was she hot?

Seriously was she? I mean sure it was all sketch as hell, but you did manage to spend a night just talking with a nice enough girl, who knows maybe everything she said was true and she needed to spill everything out to feel better. Or she's a wicked liar full of malicious intent preying on unsuspecting Oklahomaites (Is that right?) by spending the night talking to them outside a convenience store. As long as you didn't give her any of your information you're probably safe from her finding you again. So the only thing up in the air is again: was she hot?

#9 Posted by wickedsc3 (1046 posts) -

I think your over examining it, I doubt you were enabling anything, It would have happened anyways. Since you didn't get robbed or car jacked I think her story is probably legit and I doubt that you have to worry about enabling anything bad as she just sounds like someone who's had it a little rough.

I think random stuff like that is interesting and fun. Personally, I probably would have ended up asking her if she wanted to go do something.

#10 Posted by CrazyBagMan (801 posts) -

I skimmed it. Sounds like you're worried because you let some chick use your phone and sit in your car for an admittedly really long time. I don't get the problem. Stop looking for things to worry about. If she's the type who got into trouble because she used your phone, she was going to get into trouble without you "assistance" if you can even call it that.

#11 Posted by IzzyGraze (838 posts) -

You are over thinking it. But I would be more careful in the future. Anyone coming up to you when you are all alone and no one else is around...be suspicious. Glad things didn't go south for you. As I was reading I was expecting: "And then her boyfriend came around the corner and hit me with a bat.", "Then her friends pull up and steal my car.", "Then she asked if I thought she was pretty and if I wanted to have a 'good time'", or just plain tried to sell you drugs. Tip for the future, if a woman screams for you to help but won't say why she needs your help....don't follow her.

#12 Posted by Muerthoz (344 posts) -

While you were inside buying drinks, she was still inside your car searching for your registration. She got your address off the registration and she is going to rob you later (or maybe swing by your house for trick-or-treating). 

#13 Posted by McShank (1628 posts) -

@Muerthoz said:

(or maybe swing by your house for trick-or-treating).

Hey, this is a very very hopeful idea and i like it.. :D Highschool girls.. You get older while they stay the same age.

#14 Posted by OllyOxenFree (4969 posts) -

@Muerthoz said:

While you were inside buying drinks, she was still inside your car searching for your registration. She got your address off the registration and she is going to rob you later (or maybe swing by your house for trick-or-treating).

Also, she might have turned your phone into an activator for a bomb. You might be getting a call from Death soon...

#15 Posted by MechaKirby (181 posts) -

being completely honest, whether she was hot or not totally changes my answer

#16 Edited by redbliss (647 posts) -

You acted like an idiot, and usually when men act like idiots it is because of a girl they thought was at least somewhat attractive. So that is probably why you did it. If you would have done that and it was some sort of trick to steal money or your car or something, you would have been completely screwed. Next time you are put in that type of situation, tell the stranger you will call the police, who will then make sure they are taken care of. Dont take matters into your own hands because that is when bad people will take advantage of you.

#17 Posted by buzz_clik (6837 posts) -

Nothing wrong with being a decent human towards another human and having it pan out for you. I'm not saying it's the right thing to do next time, but on this occasion I think you were pretty cool.

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#18 Posted by Subjugation (4693 posts) -

What a strange story. I don't know if I would have done what you did even though it was a girl. A chick can murder you just as easily as a dude.

Anyway, from what I gather your story is girl wanders into gas station, says she has been walking for hours because she had a fight with her parents and they kicked her out, she asks to call friends, friends are partying/getting blazed so they take hours to show up, and then she leaves. Sounds like you just ran into a troubled teen and helped her out. I don't think you did anything wrong.

#19 Posted by N7 (3570 posts) -

That seems bizarre. Almost like it was meant to happen.
 
Do you love her?

#20 Posted by MechaKirby (181 posts) -

Wait, what movie is this?

#21 Edited by Slag (3350 posts) -
@Errordotocx: What exactly is that you think you may have done wrong? Other than this? 

@redbliss

said:

You acted like an idiot, and usually when men act like idiots it is because of a girl they thought was at least somewhat attractive. So that is probably why you did it. If you would have done that and it was some sort of trick to steal money or your car or something, you would have been completely screwed. Next time you are put in that type of situation, tell the stranger you will call the police, who will then make sure they are taken care of. Dont take matters into your own hands because that is when bad people will take advantage of you.

+1 to redbliss. 
 
c'mon man you know if this was a middle aged homeless guy there is no way you would done all this for him, especially chillax with him in your car. Which is ok but let's be honest here. 

She sounds like a perhaps well meaning but screwed up kid to me, sounds like is also lieing to herself.  Every druggie chick I have ever met has talked about doing drugs in the past tense in the manner in which she did, but obviously still were.
You are probably better  off not being involved with her any further. The issues she's likely got are probably going to take some serious therapy and would be beyond what you could likely provide for her. The people who are saying it matters if she's hot or not are wrong. Crazy is crazy, messed up is messed up.  I know/ have known crazy women,  the hotness will not matter in short order if you get attached to them.

You can't save everybody kid and this girl didn't even seem to be asking you too. So be glad you didn't get ganked and chalk it up as a life lesson.
#22 Posted by Slag (3350 posts) -

that came a bit harsher than I meant it to. Anyway don't worry about it too much kid.

#23 Posted by Enigma777 (6047 posts) -
@OllyOxenFree said:

Was she hot?

That's what I want to know as well. 
#24 Posted by RandomInternetUser (6788 posts) -

Seems like a bad idea to let random people use your phone or get in your car when you're out alone at night, honestly. I certainly wouldn't have done that.

#25 Posted by AndrewBeardsley (372 posts) -

This sounds like the plot to a low budget indie flick...

#26 Edited by kingando420 (210 posts) -

Some people are so fucking selfish, she totally wasted your time and probably doesn't give a shit. I do think you did the right thing; you have to give people the benefit of the doubt sometimes else the world would be a cold and hostile place.

#27 Edited by clstirens (846 posts) -

@Errordotocx: Ok, this story is sounding SO MUCH like you actually live in the town I do. In fact, as I read the story I couldn't help but feel like you had run into one of my ex-coworkers....

Small, generic description: Was she short with medium-long blonde hair?

EDIT: Not to say that there were a whole lot of specific details, and the kind of person you described is kinda cookie cutter, yet I feel like the pattern matches up too much.

#28 Posted by Doctorchimp (4063 posts) -

Eh, sounds like most of the people I hung out with in high school.

Why didn't you take advantage of her?

#29 Posted by Dick_Mohawk (368 posts) -

You did a decent thing. Not enough people do unfortunately. Kudos.

#30 Edited by TheDudeOfGaming (6077 posts) -

Guys, wtf? You're really starting to drop the ball over here. 30 posts and no

I'm disappointed Giantbomb.

#31 Posted by Pinworm45 (4088 posts) -
@xobballox said:

Seems like a bad idea to let random people use your phone or get in your car when you're out alone at night, honestly. I certainly wouldn't have done that.

So if someone came up to you and said "hey im in a shitty spot, would it be alright if I make a call from your phone", and they're a young girl and it's the middle of the night and they're alone, you'd say.. what?
#32 Posted by RandomInternetUser (6788 posts) -

@Pinworm45 said:

@xobballox said:

Seems like a bad idea to let random people use your phone or get in your car when you're out alone at night, honestly. I certainly wouldn't have done that.

So if someone came up to you and said "hey im in a shitty spot, would it be alright if I make a call from your phone", and they're a young girl and it's the middle of the night and they're alone, you'd say.. what?

I would probably give her the phone, but I would not let her sit in my car for two hours to wait on her friends.

#33 Posted by RandyF (126 posts) -

Letting her use your phone, sure. Letting her get into your car with no questions asked... maybe not. It was late, she was alone, she had no phone and (seemingly, from your story) wouldn't tell you her name or anything. I've done stuff to help out random strangers, but don't ever risk your own safety for one. But I don't think you did anything wrong. As was said many times, you probably found her attractive, which made you act the way you did. The way I see it, though, is that you made it through the night with both of your kidneys, but you didn't ask her for a phone number or something to get a hold of her to maybe learn more about her?

You didn't do anything wrong, just be a little more careful next time.

#34 Posted by thehexeditor (1404 posts) -

This thread is proof that being a beautiful person can help you out in many situations.

I'm going to go ahead and assume the person that OP had the pleasure of interacting with was to his liking, aesthetically speaking.

#35 Posted by redbliss (647 posts) -

@Pinworm45 said:

@xobballox said:

Seems like a bad idea to let random people use your phone or get in your car when you're out alone at night, honestly. I certainly wouldn't have done that.

So if someone came up to you and said "hey im in a shitty spot, would it be alright if I make a call from your phone", and they're a young girl and it's the middle of the night and they're alone, you'd say.. what?

It is unfortunate, but those are the moments that people use when they are looking to take advantage of others. I am not saying you shouldnt help in those situations, but if you want to help you should do it on your terms so to speak. Find a way to help that wont put you in jeopardy. You should never put yourself at risk, especially late at night when you are alone, just hoping that the complete stranger is telling the truth. The moment you do that and you get screwed over, everyone will be say you should have known better. It isnt worth it.

#36 Posted by TaliciaDragonsong (8698 posts) -

You did all you could and should.
The gal was very confused probably and perhaps trying to look a bit stronger then she is, so during a longer conversation period (say, what you went through) you will notice conflicting things.
In the end you probably did help her, so feel good about that! I half expected you to dump her on the street to go play BF3! xD
 
I've had a experience like that, but that ended with a restraining order, so lets not go there.

#37 Posted by Meowshi (2911 posts) -

She's dead dude. Those guys were not her friends. You are an accomplice to murder and I hope you fry.

#38 Posted by StrikeALight (1111 posts) -

She sounds like a bit of a lost cause. You probably did the right thing, but at the end of the day, always look out for No.1.

#39 Edited by BlinkyTM (1054 posts) -

@McGhee_the_Insomniac said:

I would've told her to fuck off, but luckily there are nice guys in the world like you.

Lol. I'm not sure what I would have done. I'm kind of wary of random strangers, I would be thinking "Why...me?". Since I was the only one around... who knows who she was calling, could've been anyone. How do I know this isn't a set up and this person is not getting ready to rob me? You have to admit, it IS kind of strange for them to come out of nowhere JUST as you pull up and you're all by your lonesome. Maybe I'm just a paranoid weirdo.

She could have waited in the Gas station if it was open right? Could have used the phone in the Gas Station too....very strange!

#40 Posted by MooseyMcMan (9765 posts) -

I read through all that expecting her to pull a gun on you or steal your car.

I am disappointed.

Kidding.

#41 Posted by Rawrnosaurous (768 posts) -

I still don't see where you think there is some kind of conflict. You let someone use your phone and sit in your car, It's not like you gave her a bunch of money after hearing the story only to discover that she's a hooker or undercover cop or some shit. If this has truly bothered you that much, then you haven't made a shitty decision before.

#42 Edited by Still_I_Cry (2494 posts) -

I haven't been in the situation but I would NOT have trusted her and I would feel like she was just BSing me the whole time and afterwards I would wallow in self loathing for being a gullible male and taking her bait. Then I would dwell on how she's probably laughing at me.

So yeah, I would have turned around and left her there.

:)

I think in the end though, you probably did the right thing.

#43 Posted by Everyones_A_Critic (6270 posts) -

You did the right thing, man. The rest of you are dicks. "I would've told her to fuck off." What a crock of shit. You would've politely said you had no phone and drove away, leaving her stranded. My conscience would've fucked with me for hours after that if I just drove off. I'm no saint by any means, but in those types of scenarios my mind always goes to the "What if it was me?" line of logic. It's good to be cautious, but like he said, it's fucking Oklahoma.

#44 Posted by mfpantst (2574 posts) -

+ karma. Well done. That was a huge risk/reward, but sounds like you did a good thing

#45 Posted by thevigilanteoflove (486 posts) -

Holy shit. I would have been kind of freaked out to be honest. I probably would have done the same thing as you because I wouldn't have known what else to do. Was she hot?

#46 Posted by Video_Game_King (34618 posts) -
@Roflwaffles said:

TL;DR but if you had to write an OP that long, I'm guessing you made the wrong choice.

You very obviously didn't read a word of what he said. I don't see anything morally bad about that. You let a girl into your car, let her call for help, and then went on your merry way.
#47 Posted by Dagbiker (6898 posts) -

Sounds like you did good, but you dont need the internet to tell you that.

#48 Posted by Ravenlight (8033 posts) -

Weird experience, man. Did she steal anything from your car?

#49 Posted by CaptainTightPants (2834 posts) -
@TheDudeOfGaming: Honestly that stopped being funny a while ago since people just spam it on these threads as soon as possible. Placing it in threads where a good discussion is taking place also makes it much less funny.
#50 Posted by FancySoapsMan (5750 posts) -

I don't even know what the right thing to do would be in such a situation