#1 Posted by chocolaterhinovampire (1287 posts) -

I told my mom, girlfriend, and sister. They all know how much this site means to me so I thought I would share it with them because I was super upset (I only shed a few tears when I was talking to my mom which was right after I heard). My father passed when I was 6 years old. I know loss and still this has deeply resonated with me. It is well-known by this point that a bunch of people who never met Ryan feel like they have lost a friend. I feel the same. Me @orange_tory and @shimmy all attended the same school and could not believe it. As soon as Rorie gives us information on how to donate to Ryan's wife I am going to be right there. This makes me so angry that life can be so arbitrary in choosing who it takes away from the rest of us. Ryan gave me a lifetime of joy and for that I will always remember him.

#2 Posted by Intro (1206 posts) -

A friend and I talked about it. It's just so awful.

#3 Posted by Apparatus_Unearth (3105 posts) -

Told my fiancee about it, and a friend of mine is on the site so we mentioned it to each other.

#4 Posted by Landmine (525 posts) -

I told my girlfriend who often watches the live shows with me when she can, she was upset just as I. We talked about it for quite a while.

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#5 Posted by On1inepersona (119 posts) -

My girlfriend found out the day before, but was afraid to tell me. I just got her into giantbomb and we watched a bunch of the videos together. We both cried together.

Told my mom over dinner feeling like i needed to talk to someone about it.

#6 Posted by Ezakael (911 posts) -

I have not. I told a friend and we talked about it a little but he doesn't visit Giantbomb so I don't think he really got why it brought me down.

#7 Posted by Irvandus (2819 posts) -

I told a few people that I lost someone important because I have been really out of commission. I'll definitely try to explain it to them soon.

#8 Posted by Pudge (865 posts) -

I talked to my mom over the phone. She's been around my apartment enough to know the voices of those dudes who talk about video games, so she understood on some level why I was utterly devastated yesterday. Everyone else who has responded to me tweeting about it has just been a nice word.

It's hard to fathom how close he was to us isn't it? I remember Dio dying a while back and I was bummed about that, I love his music. But it was nothing like this. Right after I heard, I said that it felt like someone in my family had died. I just imagine my Dad reading that and shaking his head, I can't see him understanding this at all.

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#9 Posted by Zaccheus (1788 posts) -

Unfortunately I don't have anyone in my life who would really understand... But that's ok since I have this whole community here to console me.

#10 Posted by Corbec (7 posts) -

I told my best friend who I went to lunch with today, we just kinda sat and talked about it. He was just as upset about it as I was.

#11 Posted by TheHBK (5463 posts) -

I told my brother as soon as I found out. He never followed the site like I did but we did enjoy talking about some of the antics and the great quicklooks of stuff we were looking forward to or just found funny. But I haven't told anyone how I feel or how much it sucks to have to go home, or go to work, or open this site and know he is gone and I will never get anything new from him again. It fucking sucks.

#12 Posted by Hupfen (44 posts) -

I couldn't help but tell my parents, because they were the only ones there at the time whilst I was shaking and completely upset. I had no one else to turn to, but I soon told my boyfriend after, as he hadn't been on the internet all day... he was devastated.
I keep looking at the front page, hoping that there will be something. Anything. But I guess that's what we're all waiting for.

#13 Edited by Mandaray (158 posts) -

I told my parents. Initially I wanted it to be a calm, composed conversation...but as soon as the words "one of the guys from Giant Bomb is gone," I fucking lost it. Tears everywhere. My mom hugged me and told me to just grieve.

#15 Edited by senrat (312 posts) -

I found out when I was eating lunch. I stopped eating, and told the waiter I had lost my appetite. He asked me what was wrong and I told him I had lost a friend, and I meant it too. Havent told friends or family though.

#16 Edited by subyman (589 posts) -

I tell my brother about some of the funny stuff that happens at Giant Bomb, so he knows the guys' names and such. I was able to talk to him a little bit about it. He studies AI and tech singularity, so he was intrigued by the social grieving process. The passing of a "social node" affects many more people than just the people they have met throughout their life, it extends into their entire fan base and even people that are a part of the industry but didn't specifically follow this site. Jeff said it during the podcast, this social grieving will definitely be studied in the future.

#17 Posted by cikame (969 posts) -

I told my mum because for years now i've told her about the awesome things the crew gets up to, she doesn't like video games, or internet videos... any of it, but i think she knows how much the crew mean to me, my friends only passively know the site through me forcing history lessons at them so they apologized more to me rather than feeling any loss.
I hadn't cried until now but i just listened to the bombcast so i'm well away, i need a shower.

#18 Posted by Tearhead (2154 posts) -

A friend of mine told me to take a look at the site when I was at work. After the initial shock of "Holly fuck!" we talked about it a little. I told my girlfriend after that and I was actually really surprised at how upset she got, yelling "No!" when I broke the news. She sometimes watches live streams with me, and while she didn't always appreciate his sense of humor, she was more emotional than even I to hear about his tragic passing, especially after just getting married.

I also told my brother, but he didn't really know Ryan, and just gave a kind "That sucks." And it does, it fucking sucks.

#19 Edited by TheManWithNoPlan (5226 posts) -

I had to. It was too much for me to hold up inside. I'm actually surprised just how much Ryan's passing has effected me. It just shows how much Giant Bomb means to it's community.

#20 Posted by TheManWithNoPlan (5226 posts) -

@zaccheus said:

Unfortunately I don't have anyone in my life who would really understand... But that's ok since I have this whole community here to console me.

"Internet Hug"

#21 Posted by oraknabo (1453 posts) -

I told my wife because even though she doesn't really visit the site on her own, she always liked Ryan when I was watching a video or listening to the Bombcast and it caught her attention. She spent the rest of Monday looking at Rorie's thread and looking at staff twitter accounts. She found thanksryan.com and a few other tribute blog entries out there.

I haven't talked to anyone else about it except for telling my boss a friend of mine passed away last week to explain my lack of attention at work this week.

#22 Posted by Vrikk (886 posts) -

I told my friend, who I got into the Bombcast. He understands, and posted about it on Twitter.

I tried to tell my girlfriend, but she doesn't understand video games at all. My friend and I spoke about it a bit briefly last night, and summed it up nicely - "Ryan was one of the few that gave respect to the game hobby, and tries to make people understand it."

#23 Posted by chocolaterhinovampire (1287 posts) -

@pudge: I think Ryan would be stoked that he beat out Dio lol

#24 Posted by unordinarily (100 posts) -

A friend and I commiserated and are continuing to do so, sending messages like "Hey did you see the Olly Moss thing" or "Did you see the RAW sign" .. told a couple friends and my mom about it, too, but not into too much detail. God, this blows.

#25 Posted by Vrikk (886 posts) -

@unordinarily: agreed. it'll get better, though. it has to. you/we have the community to keep us all happy together, and more importantly hours upon hours of Taswell content.

If all else fails, we're a support group just a couple clicks away.

#26 Posted by Breadfan (6589 posts) -

Friend of mine is a Giant Bomber, so we have been super bummed. But I described it as if a musician, or someone along those lines, had passed away - you never actually knew the person, but they meant a great deal.

#27 Posted by kkotd (290 posts) -

Fuck yes, I told everyone I came in contact with. 1. I was a blubbering mess (still am at times) and 2. They needed to know the greatest man in video games.

#28 Posted by mithical (288 posts) -

I told my mom when she saw me watching the Harmonix tribute. I explained how after spending so many hours listening and watching the guys at Giant Bomb, Ryan had come to mean something to me even if he didn't know who I was. I explained how the site and specifically the podcast is regarded by many to be the best in video games. She understood completely.

#29 Posted by DoctorTran (1544 posts) -

Yeah I've talked to a few people about it.

#30 Posted by TheHT (10880 posts) -

So I told my sisters and their response was great.

"Oh my gosh he was so funny! That's the cake story guy right? He was like the main one!"

#31 Posted by Mercury_Infusion (12 posts) -