I have a friend that I play games with every day on Steam. He is 30 years old, lives at home with his parents, and he rarely eats, smokes cigarettes, is a heavy drinker and smokes bags of pot every day. On top of all that he has the memory of a gold fish, and a severe case of depression and ADD that allows him to get disability checks every month, and is how he affords his addiction.
He is a great guy, rather annoying at times like all of us are, but it drives me nuts knowing that he is ruining his life with alcohol and weed. We have had many a long conversation that went from midnight until the break of dawn where I have had to talk him out of trying to kill himself after all the shit he was on fucked him up so badly that day that he loses it all, and to try to talk him into getting help. He had promised me that he was going to at least stop drinking, the drink is what's destroying his body, and up until a few days ago I believed him. He never brought up drinking in conversations like he used to, and I never brought up the topic because I didn't want to get him thinking about it and starting him down the road to relapsing again. He seemed better during our day to day conversations then he ever had, and he started looking into places to move into and jobs he could get. However, a few days ago I couldn't resist any more and brought up the topic when the opportunity in a conversation arose, and sadly the way he responded/dismissed the topic I could tell he was back to his old ways again.
I know that it's his life to do as he pleases, and that there is nothing I can do to help him until he truly wants to help himself, but it drives me nuts hearing him do these things. I have my own problems and excuses for how I'm ruining my own life, but I have always been the kind of person who would walk a mile out of his way if it would help someone and it drives me nuts to not be able to help him in the slightest. I will admit that seeing all these ways he has at his disposal to get his life together and actually be happy that I will never have is a big part of what annoys me about his situation, but that he ignores them and refuses to do them for no other reason then "because" is just salt in the wounds. I'm sure the old grass is always greener thing applies to me looking from the outside in on him that someone would say about me if they got to know my situation too, but that doesn't change that he could still be leading a great life but just doesn't.
Anyway, I just felt like getting that off my chest. I know it's a subject that''s hard to talk about, but I thought it might start some interesting conversations so I made it a thread. Feel free to talk about anything related to the subject, as I didn't really make this with a discussion in mind other then saying my bit that I just did and seeing where it goes.