Now I don't see myself as an anti social person or someone that hates the outside world, I love going out with friends and meeting new people, but I'm coming to realize I prefer to be alone most of the time. I even have a good group of friends that love to play games, most of that group only plays Black Ops though..., but I dunno now if I have the choice to go out or stay at home and play a game or read a book I'm picking home 4/5 times. Just curious if anyone else on the boards is like this and do you think it's normal?
I like to have time to myself but I feel like I need time with others or else I just feel weird. I don't think its a bad thing to want to be alone though. As long as you do interact with other people and don't just shut yourself off from the world.
I feel like that, from time to time, a lot of the time. I grew up an only child, though, so I got used to that. I prefer to play video games that are more solo experiences as well. I generally don`t plan outings on weekend unless it`s a couple of days before and even then (like last weekend), I didn`t tell anyone I was up to anything and pretty much enjoyed a weekend in; I need those once in a while, and probably at a higher rate than `normal``.
EDIT: I think that introversion applies to me. I'm not afraid of social interactions or anything like that but I don't get as much satisfaction from a social gathering than when I'm alone doing something. Also that whole trust thing also applies to me as I only hang out with people I trust 100%, I have a tight knit group of friends but I trust them with anything.
I like being social, but I definitely prefer to spend most of my time by myself. I realized that if I spend every day or all of my free time hanging out with people, I get exhausted really quickly and just don't feel like myself, so I try not to go out all of the time. Nothing wrong with being an introvert, IMO.
Being an introvert and being alone can simply be a product of an age where social contact is increasingly becoming minimal and devalued, and in addition to it being totally normal, should compel people to have another look at what 'being alone' means. It is normal unless you crave social contact but do not satisfy that need for various reasons.
" I do, but I wish it wasn't so. It's not necessarily an evil, but it can be if it conflicts with your interests.That was a good read. I, too, will throw my self in the Introversion category. Maybe 70-30 though.
It's called Introversion and I think the wiki article is actually a really good read. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Introvert "
Yea I'm kinda the same way. I don't mind being alone at all and really enjoy it, but I also enjoy having fun with friends and doing stupid stuff or just hanging out. I feel like saying it's whatever mood I'm in is a cheap answer but I really can be super introverted but then be really outgoing with a group of friends.
i like being alone because:
1) i can be naked all the fucking time
2) i can blast music in my house
in fact, i love being around my friends when i wanna hang out. but sometimes i just want my family to GTFO of the house so i dont have to jerk off in the shower using my imagination.
I definitely need down time to myself now and again. I liked the scene in the new Sherlock Holmes movie where he's trying to block out all the noise while he's waiting in the restaurant. Just need a break from the world, nothing wrong about it.
I like hanging out with people. The problem is that most of the people I meet suck, so I just prefer to be alone most of the time. Even if I am with friends I do like, if I'm with them too long, I start to get tired of all the talking and activity. Then I would rather hole up in a dark room, and type out words to all of you fine people.
I just finished it and I cannot believe how closely it struck me. It's a French film, and a truly beautiful one at that. If you or anyone else here who feels similarly enough decides to watch it, my only fear in suggesting it is that it will not effect you as much as it did I.
Now if you'll excuse me, I have some beer + brownies to consume.
I need to be alone at times but I don't mind others.
I mind social rules and all that jazz.
If someone's having a birthday I'll drop by, drop a present, eat your food and be gone within an hour.
But that seems to be unacceptable, they rather have me sit up and answer questions to people I don't remember when I walk out the door! :P
Yep, I'm an introvert. I like seeing friends but it exhausts me to no end, and fast. I feel like I need to leave them after being around them for a few hours.
There is a really good book I suggest you read called "The Introvert Advantage" by Marti Laney. It's really awesome. I"m not even done the book and already I've gained more understanding as to why I need alone time to re-energize.
1/4 of every person in the world is introverted, and the other 3/4 are all extroverted. There's a theory that says that, throughout human history, there needs to be those of us who spend more time thinking and those of us who spend more time doing. The thinkers are the introverts who give advice to the doers, the extroverts, and in that way we both need each other to work. Because there doesn't need to be as many thinkers as doers (or, you could say, because action is more urgent than thinking), there are a greater number of extroverts.
" I think we as human beings need both social and alone time. "
Socializing in person with people I don't know too well or don't have a common interest with feels like constant work to me and I hate feeling pressured into having to say something/anything because the other person isn't talking and holding up their end of the conversation... I must be really hard to talk to for people who aren't my friends or something.
I also hate crowds...
Yep, I love being alone. I don't really talk that much either, and my family has always hated that. I prefer to keep my mouth shut unless I have something to say. I don't mind being with others a s long as I can go home and just unwind by myself at the end of the day.
" i like being alone because: 1) i can be naked all the fucking time 2) i can blast music in my house in fact, i love being around my friends when i wanna hang out. but sometimes i just want my family to GTFO of the house so i dont have to jerk off in the shower using my imagination. "Imagination is the best tool of all.
I said tool! Wordplay is fantastic.
I like a little bit of both. It takes me a while to get used to the feeling of being around others if I haven't been out in a while. It's been a long time since I have hung out with people my age socially. I'm 27 now though, it looks like I'm going to be working here in India and possibly getting married.
I prefer to be alone for longer periods of time than most - but certainly not alone for long stretches of time. If I have to be by myself for more than 48 hours straight... I tend to feel a bit gloomy. Most people need at least some human contact - that's why solitary confinement is considered a punishment. Being by yourself for years and years will almost certainly drive you nutty, and most loners are depressed.
Having said that, I dislike parties or "hanging out" with people I don't know. I'm not sociable, but I still need to see a human face every now and then.