I try to be reasonable on why some people have low self-esteem, but not all of them. A few weeks ago I met this lady at the gym. She's a nice lady, but she has such a negative mindset about herself its annoying. She goes on rants about how she can't keep a boyfriend, she feels like she's not good enough, and then she complains about her weight and blames it on her ex-boyfriends.
Now she's telling me she's planning on having gastric bypass surgery, and at that point I almost ended up saying something that could of hurt her feelings. One she's not really that big, and two she doesn't put much effort into working out from what I've notice. To me it seems like a lazy pointless copout, now I know why some people needs gastric bypass surgery, but in her case it's just stupid.
The only thing I told her was if it makes you feel better then go for it, but think long and hard about your decision. she's an adult she can do whatever she wants to do, but I don't have sympathy for her.