I think that everyone has at one time has had to end a relationship, and it does hurt sometimes.
I had to end a relationship with what I thought was a best friend. We were like brothers, but when it was all said and done, the relationship ended badly. He was saying junk about me to different people that wasn't true, and the junk would spread. I would find out, but never return the favor even though I wanted to. Also, I told him that I didn't want to go to the prom, and I told him to not ever mention it again or tell anyone about it because I knew people would bug me about it. Well, guess what he does, he mentions it again and tells someone about it. There is a person sounded exactly the same as my friend did, and found out that my friend told him to mention it to me. Then I figured out that the teachers knew too, and did their best to persuade me to come. I never did go to my prom. My friend called me one night, and I did answer the phone. We started to argue, and I told him repeatedly that I didn't want to be friends with him anymore because he couldn't keep my secrets and I couldn't trust him anymore because he asked me repeatedly why we couldn't be friends anymore. Then he insulted me, and hung up. I never seen him again, but I have heard that he tried to get a hold of me a few times and luckily I changed cell phones and phone numbers. I never want to see his face again, but if I do I will be decent and nice to him.
Anyways, please feel free to share your experiences, thoughts, and opinions. Be sure to check out the other blog that I posted today, and I'll see you all later.
Edit: This thread includes friendships and beyond friendships. :P
-Ty
Have you ever ended a relationship?
I hate being bugged about not going to a dance. I've never gone to one, and I get teased for it. I simply have no desire to stand in a gym and watch people dance with their significant others (although I've been told it's always the "guy side" and the "girl side")
" yes "Would you like to share what happened?
@natetodamax said:
" I hate being bugged about not going to a dance. I've never gone to one, and I get teased for it. I simply have no desire to stand in a gym and watch people dance with their significant others (although I've been told it's always the "guy side" and the "girl side") "
As do I, but the dance wasn't the only thing he did to me sadly.
Yeah I have. I had a very close best friend. We hung out a lot. He said something about a family member of mine that I completely did not approve of. I fought with him for months about it. That caused me to stop being friends with him. There was also some other things he did that didn't please me but that's for a different day. His girlfriend (who I was very close friends with) also made me mad. I had to stop being friends with her because she never seemed to give a shit about anything I did, but I had to be for her. They both now want to be my friend again but I don't want to. They have said nasty things to me after I stopped being friends with them so that won't ever happen.
Yup.
In high school: I broke up with a girl because I decided that our relationship was bad for both of us. I'm not the guy she really wanted and I was tired of her crap. I also stopped being friends with my best friend at the time because he decided he was just going to delete my website one day for whatever reason. Fuck that noise. I mention both of those because they happened all at the same time and were related situations. Bleh.
I think that's it.
Just be clean and quick with it is the only advice I can give. I've seen a few of my friends have break ups that sprawl on for months and it does neither any good, not to mention right now, i'm trying to get rid of my friend (Remember the girl I fingered that got mentioned in the drunk thread?) and it's going on for so long and is just unhealthy for both of us.
Ugh I hate having to end friendships or relationships of any kind.
I pick my girlfriends very carefully so that I can avoid this situation as much as possible, although I will have to eventually break up with my current girlfriend, it will be on mutual terms to just be friends, because we both want to date more people obviously. Though shes damn hot. Uah.. I'm not ready for that yet heheh.
The biggest problem for me, and it might sound like im bragging but its actually sort of a bad thing, is that I am really charismatic, So lots of people always want to be my super close friends and hang out with me all the time. And I have had quite a few people just start suddenly hanging out with me back in highschool and basically stalking me while I was there, always just showing up and then not leaving me alone. So I would have to tell them to leave me alone and that I don't want to be friends with them, I always felt bad for doing that.
I get a lot of phone calls and texts and whatnot to hang out with people but I need a lot of alone time and I usually don't feel like hanging out with them so I tend to ignore or pretend to be busy a lot.
The worst part is when girls think I like them, or they get a crush on me or whatever and they usually keep asking me to go out with them or they will bring me some food or something and try and chat with me. I try my best to be as nice as possible but I always feel bad when I have to deny a girl. Its much easier to be mean to a guy than to a girl.
So yeah, thats what I have had to deal with so far haha. I'm headed for university now, so I expect more fun times. Also I wasn't trying to brag, I kind of felt like I was a bit, definitely not my intention, it totally sucks in a lot of ways. Although in other ways it is of course great, I wouldn't change my life for anything. Just thought I would share hehe.
" Just be clean and quick with it is the only advice I can give. I've seen a few of my friends have break ups that sprawl on for months and it does neither any good, not to mention right now, i'm trying to get rid of my friend (Remember the girl I fingered that got mentioned in the drunk thread?) and it's going on for so long and is just unhealthy for both of us. "Most of the time, clean and quick doesn't work although I would want it to. This happened a year ago and I just happen to remember it and mention it. I remember the drunk thread. :P Hopefully it'll end soon.
@Xeiphyer said:
" Ugh I hate having to end friendships or relationships of any kind. I pick my girlfriends very carefully so that I can avoid this situation as much as possible, although I will have to eventually break up with my current girlfriend, it will be on mutual terms to just be friends, because we both want to date more people obviously. Though shes damn hot. Uah.. I'm not ready for that yet heheh. The biggest problem for me, and it might sound like im bragging but its actually sort of a bad thing, is that I am really charismatic, So lots of people always want to be my super close friends and hang out with me all the time. And I have had quite a few people just start suddenly hanging out with me back in highschool and basically stalking me while I was there, always just showing up and then not leaving me alone. So I would have to tell them to leave me alone and that I don't want to be friends with them, I always felt bad for doing that. I get a lot of phone calls and texts and whatnot to hang out with people but I need a lot of alone time and I usually don't feel like hanging out with them so I tend to ignore or pretend to be busy a lot. The worst part is when girls think I like them, or they get a crush on me or whatever and they usually keep asking me to go out with them or they will bring me some food or something and try and chat with me. I try my best to be as nice as possible but I always feel bad when I have to deny a girl. Its much easier to be mean to a guy than to a girl. So yeah, thats what I have had to deal with so far haha. I'm headed for university now, so I expect more fun times. Also I wasn't trying to brag, I kind of felt like I was a bit, definitely not my intention, it totally sucks in a lot of ways. Although in other ways it is of course great, I wouldn't change my life for anything. Just thought I would share hehe. "
Alright. :) All I can say for you is that you might need some self-control when it concerns a few things. We all need self control somewhere. I got a fetish for cookies, and I eat about 5 or 6 when I see them. So I don't need to eat so many. :P
Yes. And it sucks and it's awkward. It was with a dude friend of mind who I knew since grade 7, and he was the type who could never be serious, and always likes to belittle people to make himself feel big (not just to me, but to everyone). And you can only take that for so long before it needs to be addressed. So after attempting (for YEARS) to have him understand that the more I spend time with him, the less I feel comfortable, or able to be myself, or able to even watch him belittle others. So basically it all came to a head one night (with the help of alcohol), and I had to pull him aside, sit him down and break up with him as if he was my girlfriend.
"I don't think we should see each other anymore" and all that kind of crap. We still see each other now and then as we share the same friends, but it's certainly not the way it was. And for that I'm glad. Though it sucks to have to have that unspoken tension between us, but you gotta do what you gotta do.
I don't hate the dude. But I wish things could have played out differently. Though I think I did what was best for him as well, as he's since toned down the aggression, and seems to have smartened up.
When I was in high school, a boy from Germany moved to the area where I lived. There are only about 50 people in that area and so it was a big thing. He has his parents moved just down the road to me into this big house. He was a year younger than me. Anyway, that was when I was in grade 8. We only started becoming friends when I was in grade 9 (8 for him) because I am really shy. We became really good friends, we hung out everyday, we would play guitar together (he bought his own guitar and I taught him to play), we would endlessly watch movies in his room, play PS2, go biking, walk around the woods, etc. Anyway, when I was in Grade 10 he asked me to go to Germany with him for Christmas, and we would be there for about a month. I totally agreed, and me and his family went over and we had the time of our lives. I had started developing feelings for him about a year after we started hanging out, so it was like bliss for me to be there with him. He knew that I liked him too. Anyway, we got back, and all was good, but things were a little different. He was going to start going out with this girl (who was actually another one of my best friends) and during that time I told him how I felt. He then stopped pursuing her. I don't know what that means to this day! Anyway, things went on for about a year until one day i recieved a phone call from him, telling me that he doesn't want to be friends anymore because I am "boring". He hung up on me, I tried calling him back but his mother picked up the phone and told me she was very sorry. That was the last I've heard of him, he moved out west about a month after it happened.
EDIT: I now realize that this doesn't even apply to this thread - HE ended it, not me. Sorry...
Well, ok. I thought it was fine. It can be both ways you know! Technically the relationship did end." When I was in high school, a boy from Germany moved to the area where I lived. There are only about 50 people in that area and so it was a big thing. He has his parents moved just down the road to me into this big house. He was a year younger than me. Anyway, that was when I was in grade 8. We only started becoming friends when I was in grade 9 (8 for him) because I am really shy. We became really good friends, we hung out everyday, we would play guitar together (he bought his own guitar and I taught him to play), we would endlessly watch movies in his room, play PS2, go biking, walk around the woods, etc. Anyway, when I was in Grade 10 he asked me to go to Germany with him for Christmas, and we would be there for about a month. I totally agreed, and me and his family went over and we had the time of our lives. I had started developing feelings for him about a year after we started hanging out, so it was like bliss for me to be there with him. He knew that I liked him too. Anyway, we got back, and all was good, but things were a little different. He was going to start going out with this girl (who was actually another one of my best friends) and during that time I told him how I felt. He then stopped pursuing her. I don't know what that means to this day! Anyway, things went on for about a year until one day i recieved a phone call from him, telling me that he doesn't want to be friends anymore because I am "boring". He hung up on me, I tried calling him back but his mother picked up the phone and told me she was very sorry. That was the last I've heard of him, he moved out west about a month after it happened. EDIT: I now realize that this doesn't even apply to this thread - HE ended it, not me. Sorry... "
My ex broke up with me when she left university, around the middle of her foundation year.
Thankfully, she was a bit...eehhhhhh. Just did it for the loving, people. Woman was crazy in bed.
When I was in like 7th grade I met this girl who had just broken up with her boyfriend. I took advantage of it and got her number and went to a dance with her about a week later. Halfway through the year I started to notice that she was just a bit difficult to put up with. She was clingy, paranoid, annoying, and worst of all, she was stupid. I couldn't hold a conversation with her for more than 2 minutes without her changing the subject because she doesn't know anything else about what we're talking about. One day, I decided to get in touch with her old boyfriend and I asked him why he broke up with her and he said it was because she was a psycho. Apparently she stalked him when he went out with his friends, argued with him over retarded shit, and he said that she used to cut her wrists but I'm not sure if that's true :\ I decided that I didn't really care all that much to be stalked or have to put up with something crazy like talking her out of committing suicide, so I did what any dumb kid would have done ... I broke it off with the power of the internet! I went on AIM, told her: "I don't think I want to talk to you anymore..." and then I blocked her. The thought that I would be the person who pushed her over the edge to suicide haunted me for about 3 days and then I forgot about it. I didn't see or talk to her for a long time. I eventually met her again about a year ago at a pool and apologized but I don't think she wanted to be friends with me after that.
That's the only relationship ending story that I feel comfortable sharing with people because I think it's sort of funny.
Now, I can get my head around a sex-based relationship. You can't confuse lust and love, they're two completely different emotions. If you do confuse the two, things can get ugly. Fast.
" @JJWeatherman said:Yeah that sounds accurate... :P" What is this the Dr. Phil.com forums? "I think it's a combination of the Dr. Phil, Oprah, and Jerry Springer forums! :P "
No, fortunately, at least not in the romantic sense. I've known my current and only girlfriend since we were very, very young. We started dating just a little over 5 years ago.
We both had a friend get seriously into drugs in high school, and we tried to sit down and talk with him about it. He initially tried to get over it, but kept regressing and after a while we just couldn't take his abusive behavior anymore. Last I checked, he was doing pretty well actually. I thought about calling him up one day, but I guess I just don't have the balls to lift that particular roadblock.
I had to end the friendship with my long time best friend as well. I have a very caring a protective nature and so over the years when he acted selfishly or moaned about how the world hating him or his current (which is his word) girlfriend is disgusting is whatever I always tried my best to help because I honestly cared and I had a lot of fun with him but I had to end our friendship because he ended up taking way too much advantage of me and my support and his moaning and complainingg and constant ending of relationships (he never noticed me sitting there wishing to be more like him so I had a chance to be with someone special while he crushed it with so many people) I had to end it for my own benefit and his to make him wise up and take responsability for his own failing and to stand up for himself. It wasent easy to end it because it hurt me inside and he wouldent accept it as ended, he telling me "hows it great im standing up for myself, his moaning was trying to get me to do this" but I knew better.
Its never easy to end a relationship but sometimes it needs to be done.
Your the same person who never wanted to fall in love arnt you? Seems like you've gone through some major shit. Hope stuff gets better for you man.
Cos this thread is way depressing i'll talk about a funny time i had to split up with someone. When i was younger, about 13 or 14 i was dating a girl, but moved house. In all the stresses of a new school, new city and basically new life i lost my mobile phone and eventually forgot i had a girlfriend!!! When i found my phone it was crammed full of txts and voice messages. I had to call her and just be like ..."yeah sorry about that", worst thing was i forgot her name! I had to split up with her without even saying her name. Its funny to look back on but at the time it was baaaaad.
" @Tireyo643: Your the same person who never wanted to fall in love arnt you? Seems like you've gone through some major shit. Hope stuff gets better for you man. Cos this thread is way depressing i'll talk about a funny time i had to split up with someone. When i was younger, about 13 or 14 i was dating a girl, but moved house. In all the stresses of a new school, new city and basically new life i lost my mobile phone and eventually forgot i had a girlfriend!!! When i found my phone it was crammed full of txts and voice messages. I had to call her and just be like ..."yeah sorry about that", worst thing was i forgot her name! I had to split up with her without even saying her name. Its funny to look back on but at the time it was baaaaad. "Well, yeah I am. Don't worry about me though because I'll be ok. Funny break-up. :P
@Meltbrain said:
" Yeah. I broke up with a girl I was seeing when I was about 16 because I realised I was pretty much following my balls and not my heart. She was a nice girl, I guess I just didn't feel about her the way I initially thought I did. I've also cut off a lot of friendships over the years, but I'm terrible at keeping friends so that's normal for me, really. "
Well, you did learn a lesson. :)
If we're talking about ending relationships such as friendships, then yes I've had to end a lot of them. My dad's in the air force so we moved several times; many times being over seas and we now live in the states. I tried a few times to keep in contact with some people I met over seas, but it never worked out. Now that I'm in the states and in college though, I've found it easier to maintain friendships with people I met here in the states. Some of the best friends I have ended up going to school across the country, but we still get together when we are back in town for holidays and such. Hell my best friend spends a lot of time on boats, he's in the merchant marine academy, and I still keep in contact with him even when he's over in Europe and other countries. The main contributor to communication though has to be my cell phone. I once thought it was ridiculous, but then I discovered the convenience of texting. Facebook has also been somewhat helpful, I don't keep up with it too much.
As for dating relationships then no, I was too busy with video games, school, and football in high school and I'm too lazy/not confident enough now to get into a relationship >.>
" If we're talking about ending relationships such as friendships, then yes I've had to end a lot of them. My dad's in the air force so we moved several times; many times being over seas and we now live in the states. I tried a few times to keep in contact with some people I met over seas, but it never worked out. Now that I'm in the states and in college though, I've found it easier to maintain friendships with people I met here in the states. Some of the best friends I have ended up going to school across the country, but we still get together when we are back in town for holidays and such. Hell my best friend spends a lot of time on boats, he's in the merchant marine academy, and I still keep in contact with him even when he's over in Europe and other countries. The main contributor to communication though has to be my cell phone. I once thought it was ridiculous, but then I discovered the convenience of texting. Facebook has also been somewhat helpful, I don't keep up with it too much. As for dating relationships then no, I was too busy with video games, school, and football in high school and I'm too lazy/not confident enough now to get into a relationship >.> "Yes, this thread does include friendships.
I actually ended one with my best friend a couple months ago. She pulled some stuff that really messed with my head and I couldn't really look at her the same without hurting or getting angry. Surprisingly, I did something really bitchy to her last week and her sister called me and moderated a conversation between us. We're fine now... strange.
" I actually ended one with my beset friend a couple months ago. She pulled some stuff that really messed with my head and I couldn't really look at her the same without hurting or getting angry. Surprisingly, I did something really bitchy to her last week and her sister called me and moderated a conversation between us. We're fine now... strange. "Sounds like a high school drama. :P Been there.
I once ended a friendship because my friend was comming onto me
yes it was a girl!...Im fine with that an all but she was to much
to handle..she came onto me way to strong
and did something I'd never expect..Id tell yas
but I don't want anyone to get grossed out
and puke on there screens lol
I still talk to her though but..from a (distance) =\
I had a friend that I knew since the 2nd grade. We had been friends all throughout elementary and junior high school, then high school came around and he totally changed. He started acting like a real dick; eventually he stopped hanging out with us and got entirely new friends. He got dropped out of school sophomore year and I never saw him again. One of my other friends told me he got addicted to drugs and that's why he stopped caring about school. I guess I got the good end of that split :P
lol I just cant take that chance though XD plus Im not even near any goats...so how do I know everyone else is!
I wish I was though cause there sooo cuuuuteeee and also! its funny when they goo "Baaaah"
" @Pazy: lol I just cant take that chance though XD plus Im not even near any goats...so how do I know everyone else is!I wish I was though cause there sooo cuuuuteeee and also! its funny when they goo "Baaaah" "
Its probably for the best you think I meant Goats, please dont search for it lol it will traumatize you more than your story. Well unless your into that sort of thing lol
Luckily for me I'm not a very trusting guy, so I know that the people who are my friends are my friends for real and I know we watch each other's backs. I've never really had to end a friendship in the way you did, although I have gradually drifted away from people as we went our seperate ways and moved apart. Which is a bit sad, but people change and we all find new situations that fit us better and whatnot, so I'm not bothered by it. I've been pretty lucky that way.
Lol ha Im partly confused and I kind of like it ;) xD
anywho I'll just tell yas..My friend took a handful..and it wasnt of my hooters
if ya know what I mean =\
Edit; *Vajayjay* =|
Edit: again...lol that brought back bad memories
" @Pazy: Lol ha Im partly confused and I kind of like it ;) xD anywho I'll just tell yas..My friend took a handful..and it wasnt of my hooters if ya know what I mean =\ Edit; *Vajayjay* =| Edit: again...lol that brought back bad memories "
I didnt know you could get a handful of a woman's vagina lol then again I havent had a lot of chances to investigate the subject, and those I have I havent taken. Though why would people throw up at that? You said a girl grabbed your vagine, lesser men might get aroused (or put them on the path to arousal) most people will just say "ok" since at this point its barely interesting compared to what else is commonly said.
Though it does seem rather forward, at least she could have grabbed your boobs as a sort of "stopping off" point lol
" Luckily for me I'm not a very trusting guy, so I know that the people who are my friends are my friends for real and I know we watch each other's backs. I've never really had to end a friendship in the way you did, although I have gradually drifted away from people as we went our seperate ways and moved apart. Which is a bit sad, but people change and we all find new situations that fit us better and whatnot, so I'm not bothered by it. I've been pretty lucky that way. "I've gradually drifted away from people as well. When you move, you tend to lose the friends you have fast because none of them that I've known so far want to keep contact with me. : - /
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