If The Person Your In A Relationship With Has An Affair What Will You Do?

I was watching the show cheaters on youtube earlier. Pretty much this father found out his son's best friend had sex with his wife. He let his son chase and beat the shit out of his so called friend. I just wonder what some of you people would do if your lover has an affair on you. I've seen people do some crazy stuff once they found out there lover had an affair. People that thought they were in a happy relationship really wasn't, its just sad.

I was watching the show cheaters on youtube earlier. Pretty much this father found out his son's best friend had sex with his wife. He let his son chase and beat the shit out of his so called friend. I just wonder what some of you people would do if your lover has an affair on you. I've seen people do some crazy stuff once they found out there lover had an affair. People that thought they were in a happy relationship really wasn't, its just sad.

Dump them and never want anything to do with them again.

How I'd feel is another question all-together.

Even after such a long time I still hope she dies in a fire.

Marriage, especially where there are children involved changes things, but under all other circumstances, I'd say leave and that's the end of it. It's a betrayal of trust that can not be easily rebuilt. I think at that point I'd always be wondering if the significant other is lying. Such thoughts would lead down a poisonous path.

I've been involved with my partner for many years now, there's no way I could walk away from our relationship without trying to repair it first.

People are arses, but cheaters is possibly the best show I've ever seen on tv.

I'm not sure, because I haven't really had that level of trust or love for a partner. I've never been cheated on, but I wouldn't have been entirely surprised or angry at any of my previous experiments in the area.

I don't know how I would react in that situation, and frankly I don't really want to find out. Let's hope that the girl I finally really care for will share that feeling indefinitely.

Cheaters are worse than murderers in my eyes. They deserve to die.

I forgave her for a while and I shouldn't have.

Won't make that mistake again.

"Heeeeey, Joe... Where ya goin' with that gun in your hand?"

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I'd probably be sad, and then move on after a while.

A but I won't regret it.
 
If my boyfriend decides to cheat on me he (and the skank that he's with) are going to feel a lot of pain, either mentally or physically and I'll savour every moment of it. :)

I'll end the relationship, might try to stay friends though.

Considering we have a baby together, I'd try and work things out. Knowing me, I doubt that would work out well, however. The person I'm with now has been cheated on before so she knows how it feels so I don't think I really have to worry about this.

Self-immolation, it's the only way to cleanse your soul.

It is over. Unless there are children involved, there is no need for contact or civility. I would be depressed for a long time and then get over it. I have no desire to be in a relationship that isn't monogamous.

I was cheated on at the end of a 5 year relationship. Well, it was the end after I found out.

The thing most people don't realize is that cheating involves to people. It's pretty useless to get mad at the one your lover has been cheating with, because in one way, it's also your lover's choice. And in that case, I'd just break it off and walk away and cut contact for a while. That's what I did to a cheating girlfriend when I was younger, and boy did she regret it. Me ignoring her was the worst thing that could have happened to her in the end.

My father ruined my family by cheating. I never forgave him for that.

If I were to be cheated on, I'm out. No ifs ands or buts. Not even if there are children involved. They're not stupid, and they'll only blame themselves if you stick around in a situation you're not happy in.

I've been involved with my partner for many years now, there's no way I could walk away from our relationship without trying to repair it first.

Leave her and never, ever acknowledge her existence again.

I chose the forgiveness option (though it's pretty conditional. How many times did she cheat? With who? Etc.), but that's because I'm married to my best friend. If I was just in a dating relationship I'd most likely be all about leaving and never looking back.

End it and try to never see her again.

That's way to complicated a question to answer in a simple poll.

I think if you have an open and honest relationship then you would both sense that something is wrong and talk about it before any does anything rash like cheating.

Once a cheater always a cheater. If you ever find out they cheated in the past, *big* red flag. If you are not serious with that person, consider dropping them.

"Any chance for a three-way?"

The practical side of me believes that either human beings aren't meant for long term monogamous relationships, or we really, really, really tend to suck at picking our partners.

With that in mind, if someone cheated on me I think I'd calmly assess the situation and come to rational decision. Most likely that decision would be to walk away as cheating would indicate I've chosen poorly.

However the emotional side of me would probably go with A.

@TaliciaDragonsong said:

A but I won't regret it. If my boyfriend decides to cheat on me he (and the skank that he's with) are going to feel a lot of pain, either mentally or physically and I'll savour every moment of it. :)

[Insert comment about fiery redheads]

Well first I would wonder how I got into this relationship in the first place, but then I would probably cut all contact with them immediately. Someone who cheats on me in a relationship isn't worth my time; I am not so desperate as to stay with someone who doesn't really want to be with me in the first place. I think people who cheat should have their genitals taken away from them (since they clearly don't know how to use them properly).

@psylah said:

"Any chance for a three-way?"

You do realize unless your partner turns out to be gay (or just experimenting), the person they cheated on you with will be the same gender as you, right?

I've been cheated on and it says a lot about a person. When someone cheats on you they're a coward because they can't bring themselves to end it with you before going elsewhere. They're a liar for obvious reasons and they're selfish because they want to have their cake and eat it too.

If someone cheats on me, it shows that they're a pretty awful person. Of course at the time there will be plenty of other conflicting emotions, but the fact remains that cheating on someone shows how lacking you are as a human being. It's pretty archaic, but integrity is still a thing.

Now this is just pure rage. Forgiveness just wasn't an option for this lady. Just call some relatives get a shoe and whip some ass, just make them suffer and pay.

pretty easy, leave and never talk to them again. But i guess that could get harder if you were in a relationship for 20+ years and had children together...so i would probably rage by that point.

Pack your bags and move away.

I would probably take a hard look at the relationship itself. My reaction would really depend on whether I did anything to push her towards it (cheating myself, being abusive, etc). Since that is unlikely (unless my evil alter ego takes over), I'd probably at least need some time away from her. Then again, it really depends on the state of the relationship.

My brother was an alcoholic and drunkingly made a baby with somebody who was not his fiancé while he was in another province for the past half a year or so. Now it's 3 years later and they're friends and she has spent time with his daughter.

@ThatFrood said:

LOL! when a man loves a women its hard to understand. That damn maria she did me so wrong.

I wouldn't forgive her, but it would be harder if I was in a long term relationship or marriage... it's tough any way you look at it. I don't think I could feel relaxed around her again if I tried forgiveness. It would feel to fickle.

If I really liked them then I would work it out.

I've actually been on both sides of this and both times it's sucked. I've learned that everyone makes mistakes, that the strongest bonds can be broken, but also that if you're both willing to fight for it can be repaired as well.

FUCK 'EM, I DIDN'T WANNA GO TO HEAVEN ANYWAY.

I'd murder everyone involved.

@Soap said:

I'd murder everyone involved.

Would that include yourself since you would be the one cheated on?

Probably beat the fuck out of whoever she cheated with, despite the fact that it probably wasn't really his fault. Then tear her life apart too.

Interestingly enough I had an affair on her with her full knowledge and I still wouldn't consider forgiving her for a second.

haha, you do realise a lot of episodes of Cheaters are faked, right?

@FlarePhoenix said:

@Soap said:

I'd murder everyone involved.

Would that include yourself since you would be the one cheated on?

Murder-suicides are not uncommon. There's even a website devoted to that single topic.

I don't think this is really something you can make a poll about. There are far too many variables and factors that would need to be taken into account.

Everyone deserves a second chance, but not a third.

Leave em. If someone wants to go fuck around then by all means, have a ball. I just won't be waiting around for them.