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#1 Posted by falserelic (5413 posts) -

I was watching the show cheaters on youtube earlier. Pretty much this father found out his son's best friend had sex with his wife. He let his son chase and beat the shit out of his so called friend. I just wonder what some of you people would do if your lover has an affair on you. I've seen people do some crazy stuff once they found out there lover had an affair. People that thought they were in a happy relationship really wasn't, its just sad.

#2 Posted by falserelic (5413 posts) -

I was watching the show cheaters on youtube earlier. Pretty much this father found out his son's best friend had sex with his wife. He let his son chase and beat the shit out of his so called friend. I just wonder what some of you people would do if your lover has an affair on you. I've seen people do some crazy stuff once they found out there lover had an affair. People that thought they were in a happy relationship really wasn't, its just sad.

#3 Posted by Azteck (7449 posts) -

Dump them and never want anything to do with them again.

How I'd feel is another question all-together.

#4 Posted by GunstarRed (5127 posts) -

Even after such a long time I still hope she dies in a fire.

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#5 Posted by PenguinDust (12499 posts) -

Marriage, especially where there are children involved changes things, but under all other circumstances, I'd say leave and that's the end of it. It's a betrayal of trust that can not be easily rebuilt. I think at that point I'd always be wondering if the significant other is lying. Such thoughts would lead down a poisonous path.

#6 Posted by Galiant (2193 posts) -

I've been involved with my partner for many years now, there's no way I could walk away from our relationship without trying to repair it first.

#7 Posted by mercutio123 (471 posts) -

People are arses, but cheaters is possibly the best show I've ever seen on tv.

#8 Posted by TobbRobb (4608 posts) -

I'm not sure, because I haven't really had that level of trust or love for a partner. I've never been cheated on, but I wouldn't have been entirely surprised or angry at any of my previous experiments in the area.

I don't know how I would react in that situation, and frankly I don't really want to find out. Let's hope that the girl I finally really care for will share that feeling indefinitely.

#9 Posted by CaLe (3964 posts) -

Cheaters are worse than murderers in my eyes. They deserve to die.

#10 Posted by Brodehouse (9887 posts) -

I forgave her for a while and I shouldn't have.

Won't make that mistake again.

#11 Edited by doosmacleod (188 posts) -

"Heeeeey, Joe... Where ya goin' with that gun in your hand?"

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I'd probably be sad, and then move on after a while.

#12 Posted by TaliciaDragonsong (8698 posts) -

A but I won't regret it.
 
If my boyfriend decides to cheat on me he (and the skank that he's with) are going to feel a lot of pain, either mentally or physically and I'll savour every moment of it. :)

#13 Posted by 49th (2735 posts) -

I'll end the relationship, might try to stay friends though.

#14 Posted by Cyrus_Saren (536 posts) -

Considering we have a baby together, I'd try and work things out. Knowing me, I doubt that would work out well, however. The person I'm with now has been cheated on before so she knows how it feels so I don't think I really have to worry about this.

#15 Posted by Shivoa (625 posts) -

Self-immolation, it's the only way to cleanse your soul.

#16 Posted by Contrarian (1143 posts) -

It is over. Unless there are children involved, there is no need for contact or civility. I would be depressed for a long time and then get over it. I have no desire to be in a relationship that isn't monogamous.

#17 Posted by AlisterCat (5537 posts) -

I was cheated on at the end of a 5 year relationship. Well, it was the end after I found out.

#18 Posted by Klei (1768 posts) -

The thing most people don't realize is that cheating involves to people. It's pretty useless to get mad at the one your lover has been cheating with, because in one way, it's also your lover's choice. And in that case, I'd just break it off and walk away and cut contact for a while. That's what I did to a cheating girlfriend when I was younger, and boy did she regret it. Me ignoring her was the worst thing that could have happened to her in the end.

#19 Posted by SquigglyElf (40 posts) -

My father ruined my family by cheating. I never forgave him for that.

If I were to be cheated on, I'm out. No ifs ands or buts. Not even if there are children involved. They're not stupid, and they'll only blame themselves if you stick around in a situation you're not happy in.

#20 Posted by Tim_the_Corsair (3065 posts) -
@Galiant

I've been involved with my partner for many years now, there's no way I could walk away from our relationship without trying to repair it first.

This.

My wife and I have discussed this topic at length, as we have both been cheated on in the past, and both of us have cheated on others in the past as well (as teenagers, but still).

We have a policy of open discussion if we ever find ourselves attracted to someone else, having sexual thoughts about others, crushes, flirting, whatever. We've had some uncomfortable discussions at times, but it has helped to create an atmosphere where we feel we can talk to each other about anything, and we both know that the other person will be as accommodating as possible to fix any issues in the relationship or to enact any fantasies or whatever.

If she did cheat and told me about it, I would talk to her and I hope that I would be able to get past the anger and the betrayal to see if our marriage could be fixed. If she hid it from me, or was simply unapologetic, then that would be the end, as I would know we were too far gone to be saved.

I can honestly say that I personally have never been tempted to cheat and I don't think I ever will be. I believe my wife feels the same way.
#21 Posted by BaneFireLord (2928 posts) -

Leave her and never, ever acknowledge her existence again.

#22 Posted by Sargus (726 posts) -

I chose the forgiveness option (though it's pretty conditional. How many times did she cheat? With who? Etc.), but that's because I'm married to my best friend. If I was just in a dating relationship I'd most likely be all about leaving and never looking back.

#23 Posted by laserbolts (5319 posts) -

End it and try to never see her again.

#24 Posted by Swoxx (2993 posts) -

That's way to complicated a question to answer in a simple poll.

#25 Posted by RollingZeppelin (1961 posts) -

I think if you have an open and honest relationship then you would both sense that something is wrong and talk about it before any does anything rash like cheating.

#26 Posted by avidwriter (667 posts) -

Once a cheater always a cheater. If you ever find out they cheated in the past, *big* red flag. If you are not serious with that person, consider dropping them.

#27 Posted by psylah (2170 posts) -

"Any chance for a three-way?"

#28 Posted by pyromagnestir (4302 posts) -

The practical side of me believes that either human beings aren't meant for long term monogamous relationships, or we really, really, really tend to suck at picking our partners.

With that in mind, if someone cheated on me I think I'd calmly assess the situation and come to rational decision. Most likely that decision would be to walk away as cheating would indicate I've chosen poorly.

However the emotional side of me would probably go with A.

#29 Posted by jtman54179 (182 posts) -

@TaliciaDragonsong said:

A but I won't regret it. If my boyfriend decides to cheat on me he (and the skank that he's with) are going to feel a lot of pain, either mentally or physically and I'll savour every moment of it. :)

[Insert comment about fiery redheads]

#30 Edited by FlarePhoenix (420 posts) -

Well first I would wonder how I got into this relationship in the first place, but then I would probably cut all contact with them immediately. Someone who cheats on me in a relationship isn't worth my time; I am not so desperate as to stay with someone who doesn't really want to be with me in the first place. I think people who cheat should have their genitals taken away from them (since they clearly don't know how to use them properly).

@psylah said:

"Any chance for a three-way?"

You do realize unless your partner turns out to be gay (or just experimenting), the person they cheated on you with will be the same gender as you, right?

#31 Posted by adam1808 (1459 posts) -

I've been cheated on and it says a lot about a person. When someone cheats on you they're a coward because they can't bring themselves to end it with you before going elsewhere. They're a liar for obvious reasons and they're selfish because they want to have their cake and eat it too.

If someone cheats on me, it shows that they're a pretty awful person. Of course at the time there will be plenty of other conflicting emotions, but the fact remains that cheating on someone shows how lacking you are as a human being. It's pretty archaic, but integrity is still a thing.

#32 Posted by falserelic (5413 posts) -

Now this is just pure rage. Forgiveness just wasn't an option for this lady. Just call some relatives get a shoe and whip some ass, just make them suffer and pay.

#33 Posted by Marz (5649 posts) -

pretty easy, leave and never talk to them again. But i guess that could get harder if you were in a relationship for 20+ years and had children together...so i would probably rage by that point.

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#34 Posted by ch3burashka (5046 posts) -

Pack your bags and move away.

#35 Posted by ThatFrood (3375 posts) -

  

#36 Posted by zungerman090 (311 posts) -

I would probably take a hard look at the relationship itself. My reaction would really depend on whether I did anything to push her towards it (cheating myself, being abusive, etc). Since that is unlikely (unless my evil alter ego takes over), I'd probably at least need some time away from her. Then again, it really depends on the state of the relationship.

#37 Posted by CL60 (16906 posts) -

My brother was an alcoholic and drunkingly made a baby with somebody who was not his fiancé while he was in another province for the past half a year or so. Now it's 3 years later and they're friends and she has spent time with his daughter.

#38 Posted by falserelic (5413 posts) -

@ThatFrood said:

LOL! when a man loves a women its hard to understand. That damn maria she did me so wrong.

#39 Posted by fetchfox (1260 posts) -

I wouldn't forgive her, but it would be harder if I was in a long term relationship or marriage... it's tough any way you look at it. I don't think I could feel relaxed around her again if I tried forgiveness. It would feel to fickle.

#40 Posted by Demyx (3237 posts) -

If I really liked them then I would work it out.

#41 Posted by SuperCycle (332 posts) -

I've actually been on both sides of this and both times it's sucked. I've learned that everyone makes mistakes, that the strongest bonds can be broken, but also that if you're both willing to fight for it can be repaired as well.

#42 Posted by Everyones_A_Critic (6296 posts) -

FUCK 'EM, I DIDN'T WANNA GO TO HEAVEN ANYWAY.

#43 Posted by Soap (3579 posts) -

I'd murder everyone involved.

#44 Posted by FlarePhoenix (420 posts) -

@Soap said:

I'd murder everyone involved.

Would that include yourself since you would be the one cheated on?

#45 Posted by MideonNViscera (2257 posts) -

Probably beat the fuck out of whoever she cheated with, despite the fact that it probably wasn't really his fault. Then tear her life apart too.

Interestingly enough I had an affair on her with her full knowledge and I still wouldn't consider forgiving her for a second.

#46 Posted by CookieMonster (2416 posts) -

haha, you do realise a lot of episodes of Cheaters are faked, right?

#47 Posted by PenguinDust (12499 posts) -

@FlarePhoenix said:

@Soap said:

I'd murder everyone involved.

Would that include yourself since you would be the one cheated on?

Murder-suicides are not uncommon. There's even a website devoted to that single topic.

#48 Posted by Jrinswand (1706 posts) -

I don't think this is really something you can make a poll about. There are far too many variables and factors that would need to be taken into account.

#49 Posted by LikeaSsur (1513 posts) -

Everyone deserves a second chance, but not a third.

#50 Posted by TheHT (11155 posts) -

Leave em. If someone wants to go fuck around then by all means, have a ball. I just won't be waiting around for them.