@KatyGaGa: Yeah, that's the most common feeling: "Why should they be able to get away with it?". The most reliable answer is that life simply isn't fair. But think about it, your friend will most likely get what's coming in the end anyways. If the same behavior continues, no learning experience will ever come and the same mistakes will be repeated over and over again. Your friend will most likely never have a solid relationship again. And if your friend stops and learns from it, then you will have both learned from his mistake and be better off. We all gotta learn someway, and as stupid as it sounds at the time, sometimes this is the only way. It all depends on the maturity level of the person that made the mistake.
I know someone who still hasn't learned and is completely miserable as a married man. With that said, you don't have to forget, but the whole concept of forgiveness (to me) is just accepting what happened and moving on without holding a grudge. I don't know the extent of the relationship, but if you are still with this person, then you can decide the break it off if forgiveness will take more time than it's worth, or try to repair the damage. The problem is, you will never see the same person in the same light again (at least for a long while). The trust that was there was broken and it takes time to repair if even possible.
All in all, the person did not get away with anything. Our mistakes almost always follow us until we die unless we learn from them. It's just how it goes. I hope you're able to forgive though. Don't let the person win, by causing you to hold a lifelong grudge of unhappiness and misery.
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