I take the bus to my school and recently I said hi to a complete stranger and she was pretty rude. I was the only person on the bus for a couple stops and than this girl got on, she looked like she was 18 or 19, and she sat right across from me. She looked directly at me when she sat down so I said hi... she said don't talk to me you creep... I was somewhat stunned and just looked out the window. Is it wrong to say hi to people we don't know or are people today just uptight?
Is it wrong to say hello to strangers?
Ouch. That's a weird response. Admittedly, I've never spoken to anyone on public transport at home but in America, particularly in New York, there was never a time when I was on the subway and a conversation didn't start.
I thought about this recently. I was sitting at a bus stop at around 01:00 AM after a party, where I greeted/was greeted by people I didn't know who also came to the bus stop. Not necessarily because anyone was drunk (although I sorta was), just in general. It seems to be far more common where I live during the night.
That is very rude. That said, on my first day of my final year of University last week a kid looked at me and said Hi as he was walking past me in the hall and I thought he was super creepy. He looked very shy, and although I didn't give a response I felt like it was certainly a bit weird. But he was weird. For girls though I expect it to be more of an issue because they're worried about being hit on.
People be nasty! I often say "Alright?", "Hi" or give a head nod when I walk past someone. That said I live in a well of area of England, not a city.
And no, of course I don't do it in the middle of town, I mean if Im walking past someone on say a country road.
But in all seriousness, yeah, more often than not, I just do @SethPhotopoulos said:
" the head nod thing. ". But saying hi should definitely be acceptable. More likely than not she was having a bad day, or just had something bad happen to her. People act weird for a reason.
That's a misnomer, her reaction. Seems totally uncalled for. It's definitely not wrong to greet someone or whatever. I'm more reserved, though, so I typically just give a tight-lipped smile or something.
" Saying hello to a complete stranger can be weird, but I was raised in a house where it's common courtesy to greet people and be friendly. So I usually do the head nod if me and a stranger's eyes meet. "same here, and its usually common courtesy in the society here than just my house.
Depends on where you live. When I lived down in the states for several months every time I said hi to people they acted like I just told them to go fuck themselves. Back here in Canada though we say hi to strangers all the time. Generally if we are in a situation like you mentioned in the OP, where we make eye contact, we just smile/nod and say hello.
" @RE_Player92 said:" she said don't talk to me you creep "What the fuck... Bitches and whores. "
The sad thing is I am in Canada... I thought people were more friendly here :P" Depends on where you live. When I lived down in the states for several months every time I said hi to people they acted like I just told them to go fuck themselves. Back here in Canada though we say hi to strangers all the time. Generally if we are in a situation like you mentioned in the OP, where we make eye contact, we just smile/nod and say hello. "
@OllyOxenFree said:
Exactly man. Bros before hoes lol" @RE_Player92 said:
" she said don't talk to me you creep "What the fuck... Bitches and whores. "
I say hi to strangers all the time. I wave to people alot too out of joyful goofiness. Some people are just really rude and defensive.
" @RE_Player92 said:"My roommate's mantra, "Fuck bitches, get money, buy lokis." "
@OllyOxenFree said:Exactly man. Bros before hoes lol "" @RE_Player92 said:
" she said don't talk to me you creep "What the fuck... Bitches and whores. "
" Some broads just think their shit stinks of cinnamon. The best response when they pull something like that is to pretend you are trying not to laugh at them - this gives you an aloof air of superiority which they will find infuriating, and it'll probably ruin their day. "I dunno, I've had a couple people respond that way, and usually I am trying to suppress laughter; there's no need to pretend.
" @Andrela said:Yes but this is Canadians being rude to eachother ! (or at least I assume it is), which is unthinkable" Someone was rude in Canada? .... I've lost all faith in humanity "I've run into more than one set of Canadians online who were complete and total fucking dicks to me because I have a southern accent. "
I think it depends. The girl was looking at you so if I was you, I would have done the same thing. Maybe she just has a bad attitude.
It's not weird. It can just make for awkward situations. If you want to talk, don't start with hello. Start smaller.
If she looked directly at me I would maybe put on a little with a shy smile and a nod...maybe a short hi. without long eye contact Or I could jump up rip off my pants and proclaim I'm that famous golfer, but I'd sense that would be a huge fail. And really out of character for me anyways. So slightly not so feigned shyness and a smile.
I think the way she jumped on you was wrong. Someone stares at you, especially a lady, you want to communicate you are friendly, safe, and not a golfer. she was probably sizing you up to see if you were a dick (figuratively) and a damned bit more bitchy than she needed to be, though I would understand.
It's not wrong. Though, it can feel a bit odd to have someone you don't know greet you. I was sitting on the bus bench waiting for my ride after classes when some guy that I've never said anything to ever before (but who was in my class) walks by and says "See you later dude". I was looking down at my phone so I was really surprised but I managed to do a head-nod. It's really a sign how disconnected everyone is from other people, nowadays, I guess. When I walk past folks on backroads or something like that I'll do a nod or smile or something, though.
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