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Posted by Jeust (10680 posts) 8 months, 15 days ago

Poll: Is judging others wrong? (291 votes)

Yes. 36%
No 64%

Do you believe judging the people you come accross wrong? And why do you feel that way?

#51 Posted by LaserGreen (52 posts) -

We usually hold other people up to a higher standard than we do ourselves. This is because we tend to judge others by their actions alone but we judge ourselves by our own intentions. So before you judge someone too harshly just remember there's an entire world of stuff going on in that persons head, just like yours.

#52 Posted by GERALTITUDE (3351 posts) -

LAAAAW!

#54 Edited by Crembaw (422 posts) -

It's probably not humanly possible to not judge, but so long as you don't immediately act on it like a doofus and keep in mind that everything comes with perspective, I don't really see it as wrong. Being intensely judgmental throughout one's life can be incredibly stressful, though - speaking as someone with off-and-on experience.

#55 Edited by Sin4profit (2938 posts) -

Judgment's fine, complacency in your judgment is not.

#56 Posted by AngriGhandi (780 posts) -

Somewhere in between "I don't like your t-shirt, you are a bad person" and "Stalin killed millions of people, he was a bad person" is where I tend to land.

Somewhere in between those.

#57 Posted by psylah (2177 posts) -

No.

In fact, there are people who judge others for a living.

They are called "judges".

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#58 Edited by UitDeToekomst (717 posts) -

'believing' is where humanity goes wrong. it implies the potential for the removal of fact from an argument.

#59 Edited by mlarrabee (2972 posts) -

@brenderous said:

You don't know they're stuff, man. Maybe that jerk yelling at the waitress isn't always an asshole, and he just had a super awful day and isn't handling it well.

Judge not lest ye be judged, and all that.

Actually, that Bible verse is nearly always cited incorrectly. The Koine Greek word "judge" in that sentence carries the idea of passing sentence, condemning someone.

And that's basically how I try to live. We're all free to have our own opinions and beliefs about others' choices and actions, but until those actions cause others or ourselves harm it's not for us to condemn them or try to change them.

EDIT:

'believing' is where humanity goes wrong. it implies the potential for the removal of fact from an argument.

I believe that Peeps are disgusting. Please, impart some facts to that argument.

#60 Posted by UitDeToekomst (717 posts) -

@uitdetoekomst said:

'believing' is where humanity goes wrong. it implies the potential for the removal of fact from an argument.

I believe that Peeps are disgusting. Please, impart some facts to that argument.

your opinion of the taste of Peeps is not an argument, so there is no need to impart facts to it.

#61 Posted by TruthTellah (9160 posts) -

Isn't answering the question itself a judgment on others?

So the only logical answer would be "No".

It's how you judge others that makes the difference between whether it is right or wrong.

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#62 Posted by mlarrabee (2972 posts) -

@mlarrabee said:

@uitdetoekomst said:

'believing' is where humanity goes wrong. it implies the potential for the removal of fact from an argument.

I believe that Peeps are disgusting. Please, impart some facts to that argument.

your opinion of the taste of Peeps is not an argument, so there is no need to impart facts to it.

I didn't say that I find Peeps disgusting. I said they are disgusting.

#63 Posted by Hunter5024 (5711 posts) -

I hate judgmental people. It's one of the few personality traits that I can't stand.

poll results accurately reflect GB community.

Hahaha.

#64 Posted by JBG4 (416 posts) -

Yes

#65 Posted by UitDeToekomst (717 posts) -

@uitdetoekomst said:

@mlarrabee said:

@uitdetoekomst said:

'believing' is where humanity goes wrong. it implies the potential for the removal of fact from an argument.

I believe that Peeps are disgusting. Please, impart some facts to that argument.

your opinion of the taste of Peeps is not an argument, so there is no need to impart facts to it.

I didn't say that I find Peeps disgusting. I said they are disgusting.

you saying that Peeps are disgusting is still an opinion because it is specific to you. You seem to be attempting to blur the line between 'belief' and opinion for some unknown reason.

Also, WNNNNBC.

#66 Posted by ch3burashka (5089 posts) -

Judge Judy has been doing alright all this time...

#67 Posted by flippyandnod (391 posts) -

You're an idiot just for asking such a question.

#68 Edited by InsaneMatt (27 posts) -

It's human nature to make snapshot opinions on people, creatures and objects. Without it, our ancestors (and even us to some degree) wouldn't be able to survive. We all like to believe we're above these 'instincts', but we're far from it.

So the real question is, How far is it acceptable to judge people / things / other life forms? Enough for survival? (e.g friend, foe, potential mate, potentially dangerous) Social status? and so forth.

#69 Edited by Canteu (2821 posts) -

Yes.

I tend not to give more than about 0 fucks for other people. I see no point. I am not them, so why should I care?

If I must assess somebody, I give them a blank slate, and they fill it in for me. If it's someone on the street or whatever? Who cares?

I saw a girl on the train the other day. She was moving her hands all crazy and mouthing shit, but she wasn't listening to music. I didn't go "That lady is crazy, or has some kind of illness". I went "that lady is doing stuff" then went back to looking out the window.

#70 Posted by TruthTellah (9160 posts) -

I hate judgmental people. It's one of the few personality traits that I can't stand.

@ripelivejam said:

poll results accurately reflect GB community.

Hahaha.

Wait, hunter, are you making an ironic joke? heh.

I mean, if you're genuinely saying judging others is wrong, you wouldn't "hate judgmental people". That's a judgment call on others. It is itself judgmental.

It sounds like you're just against people being overly judgmental and not the concept of people making judgments about others.

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#71 Posted by spraynardtatum (3024 posts) -

I'm pretty sure life is impossible without judging. Mr. Rogers said not to though and so did Jesus. Being a good neighbor is hard.

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#72 Edited by MrNood1e (90 posts) -

@video_game_king said:

@brenderous said:

Judge not lest ye be judged, and all that.

The part most people forget is that Jesus made good on that promise.

People use that quote incorrectly all the time. I know that isn't what this post is exactly about, but Jesus had no issues with calling a sin, a sin.

Regardless of the Bible, telling someone not to judge is hypocritical, because telling someone not to judge is, in and of itself, a judgement. Any time you start a sentence with “you shouldn’t,” whatever comes next will constitute a judgement of some kind. Saying, “you shouldn’t judge,” is like saying, “there are no absolutes.”

#73 Posted by crithon (3312 posts) -

if I was in Jersey, yes, but now, nope. Being open minded is awesome.

#74 Posted by Hunter5024 (5711 posts) -

@truthtellah: It's a little of both, which only makes sense because I am definitely a hypocrite.

#75 Posted by Stonyman65 (2726 posts) -

It all depends on what you mean by "judging others".

Judging them on their decisions and the way they carry themselves and act... No that's not wrong.
Judging them on how your perceive them to be without prior knowledge or evidence on the contrary... Yes. That's a shitty thing to do.

Like, if I'm in a store and I see someone causing trouble and being an ass to other people for no apparent reason, judging them as an bad person is kind of warranted given their actions. On the other hand, if I just see some dude who looks unkempt with neck tattoos and trashy clothes and I go "yeah, that guy's a piece of shit" that's wrong of me because I just don't know otherwise - they could be the nicest people in the world (probably not, I mean the guy DOES have neck tattoos after all... He's obviously made some bad decisions somewhere in life...)

#76 Posted by TruthTellah (9160 posts) -

@truthtellah: It's a little of both, which only makes sense because I am definitely a hypocrite.

heh. A fair response.

I'd guess that the OP isn't referring to being overly judgmental, because, well, that wouldn't even be much of a question. Of course that's wrong. But whether it's wrong to judge others at all is at least a philosophical question. Though, practically, even answering the question is in itself a judgment of others; so, it seems like the answer is already there. ha.

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#77 Edited by Jeust (10680 posts) -

@flippyandnod said:

You're an idiot just for asking such a question.

Before calling me idiot, did you even know what drove me to make that question? ahah

#78 Posted by benspyda (2035 posts) -

I judge all people to be judgemental hypocrites.

#79 Posted by Jeust (10680 posts) -

@benspyda said:

I judge all people to be judgemental hypocrites.

So you judge yourself. ahah

#80 Edited by benspyda (2035 posts) -
@jeust said:

@benspyda said:

I judge all people to be judgemental hypocrites.

So you judge yourself. ahah

I'm still trying to figure out if that is an ironic statement or not. I still get confused what irony is lol.

#81 Posted by Jeust (10680 posts) -

@jeust said:

@kidavenger said:

@jeust said:

accross

You have been judged.

Gah you grammar nazi! ;)

There should be a comma between "Gah" and "you". "Grammar Nazi" should be capitalized.

...what?

NAZIS EVERYWHERE X_X

#82 Edited by benspyda (2035 posts) -

@mrnood1e: Haha. I like that concept. Saying that judging people is wrong is in turn judging people for being judgemental. What a mindfuck!

Really being judgemental just means your not open to people living their life differently to you. I tend to only "judge" people who hurt or annoy me in some way because it directly causes me problems and I wish they wouldn't. So essentially if how you live life isn't harming anyone else, it's all good.

#83 Posted by armaan8014 (5408 posts) -

I think it's pretty annoying when people loosely toss the term "don't judge me" around in any random situation. I think they don't even know what it means.

So then I judge them ^^

#84 Posted by armaan8014 (5408 posts) -

Wow reading the word "judge" so many times has made my brain go weird. It doesn't even sound like a real word anymore. "Judge" . That's a funny sound. You start with a "Juh" and also end with it!

Have I been using this word all my life? Or was that some other word and I'm mixing them up?

#85 Posted by Strife777 (1596 posts) -

I think making presumptions and judging before knowing is definitely wrong. I understand "everybody does it", but I never stick with my instinctive judgements unless, of course, they are proven to be right.

I'm of the opinion that I should always respect someone, stranger or not, until they give me a reason to do otherwise, not the other way around.

Recently, one of my elementary/high school girl friend (not "girlfriend"), who became a pornstar, made some headlines with a scene she wanted to do, involving quite a lot of men (It's around Montreal, she and I are from a smaller rural town, but not even redneck conservative kind of rural.) Obviously, I'm friends on Facebook with other people who knew her, etc etc. So these people were sharing the story, and were all SOOO offended. They all said things like "Doesn't she have a daughter?" " I'm sure she'll be proud of her mother (sarcastic)." "Can't believe this happened to her." Basically being extremely judgemental about her lifestyle choices, calling her a skank and whatnot. I just thought who the fuck cares? As far as I had heard, and I have a friend who sees her sometimes and told me a bit, she takes great care of her daughter, lives well, isn't into drugs or tons of alcohol. But since she chose to do something most people wouldn't dare to even dream of doing, she's obviously this and that. She didn't murder someone!

I don't know man... I'll totally call someone acting like a prick a prick, but that's different. I judge like everyone, can't help it I guess. But can't we just learn about someone before making preconceived ideas?

#86 Posted by ajamafalous (12007 posts) -

@turambar said:

In all seriousness though, judging others is natural and should not be something to be ashamed of. We are taught take in information from our surroundings, filter and analyze it through our personal experiences and knowledge about the world, and spit out conclusions based on it from birth. What's important is to also acknowledge that our judgements are not always accurate, and thus be reserved in letting those notions become set in stone.

#87 Posted by mazik765 (2315 posts) -

Don't judge people in a way that you would not want to be judged yourself.

#88 Posted by Random45 (1215 posts) -

Well on one hand, you're always going to judge someone based on something - how they dress, their gender, who they hang out with, I think it's impossible NOT to make a judgement. That being said, I still think it's wrong to judge others based on those things, and whenever I am consciously aware that I'm doing it, I try to shove aside my judgement and try to give them a clean slate to work with. I can speak from experience that it SUCKS when people assume the worst of you due to how others treat you, hell, it utterly destroyed my self-confidence in middle school and most of high school.

#89 Edited by Sammo21 (3298 posts) -

Me and my avatar have no problems with judging people or judging them to iso-cubes.

#90 Posted by Novis (118 posts) -

No. Never judge. With judgement, you make a decision and that's it. You done. No inquiry, no research, no sway, no adaptation. You should form an opinion. With an opinion, you make double back, or amend, or slightly alter. Gives you more possibilities to work with and you never want to deny possibilities.

#91 Edited by ripelivejam (4084 posts) -

what would judge reinhold say about all of this?? :'(

#92 Posted by YOU_DIED (703 posts) -

Kill everyone with kindness

#93 Edited by DoubleVision (1 posts) -

I try to recognize that a single incident isn't everything. I also try to not judge people living a different, even if it may seem very strange to me, as long as it isn't harming anyone.

#94 Posted by ChoboBot (155 posts) -

I believe judgments come in phases, the first phase being premature judgments like when we see someone for the first time and make observations on how they look. The second phase is actually getting the know the person, how they talk, what they are like, their mannerisms etc., this provides a fuller picture of the person.

I don't believe judging humans is wrong, as long as you get all the facts. You can judge someone to be good and judge someone to be bad and/inferior.

#95 Posted by Brenderous (1101 posts) -

@brenderous said:

You don't know they're stuff, man. Maybe that jerk yelling at the waitress isn't always an asshole, and he just had a super awful day and isn't handling it well.

Judge not lest ye be judged, and all that.

Actually, that Bible verse is nearly always cited incorrectly. The Koine Greek word "judge" in that sentence carries the idea of passing sentence, condemning someone.

That's how I meant it. Don't pass sentence, or condemn. See also: Judge.

#96 Posted by TheManWithNoPlan (5604 posts) -

Probably? Yeah, probably.

#97 Edited by johnbakosh (115 posts) -

Of course it isn't wrong, don't be silly.

#98 Posted by h0lgr (909 posts) -

No. However, judging someone and then being all disrespectful about it, that's wrong.
Everyone judges everyone in their mind all the time. It's impossible to not judge other people.

#99 Edited by TheMasterDS (2076 posts) -

Probably. It doesn't really matter though as you're going to do it whether it's unfair or not.

#100 Edited by Brodehouse (9976 posts) -

While you guys are chasing your own tails;

Is morality wrong? Is it right?

Is amorality right? Is it wrong?

Can you make moral statements about the nature of moral statements?