Is pretending to be in love with someone to break them up with their boyfriend a bad thing to do?

"How is toying with someone's feelings so bad? "

"So basically I'm 15. Anyway, last year I moved to a different city half way across the country but I remained in contact with some of my friends. Now, there's this one girl (she's like 14!) who I had a crush on or whatever, but I don't really anymore. Well a few weeks ago I found out that she was dating this guy that was really friggin' stupid. I mean, he has lolcats as his facebook profile picture and 'icanhascheezburger.com' under his interests. When I was in school with him, he would shout memes across the halls. An all around terrible guy. 
 
It was summer and I thought, "Hey, I'm bored and I really don't like that guy. I'm going to pretend to be in love with his girlfriend (we were good friends) and convince her to 'go out' with me instead." It took some pretty hard work but I managed to do it. I spent a while pointing out all of his flaws and why I was a better choice and she actually came around and said that she'd go out with me instead of him. I mean, I live super far away so it's not like that means anything, but mission success: he got dumped! It's been hilarious looking at his facebook status updates, he's posting depressing song lyrics and stuff like 'without you, there is no light'.   Anyway, mission success, like I said. Or so I thought. but then, you know, I realized that the girl expects me to actually do boyfriend-ey things like talk to her and listen to her problems and stuff (I told her I loved her) without any of the usual advantages of a relationship. What do I do, giantbomb? "

This is so messed up...

" @Storphrax: Well, okay. Toying with someone's feelings can be pretty bad, but you guys forget that this is a naive 14 year old girl I've deceived. A teenage girl, you guys. "

My god, no. You're a terrible person if you do :p

" @Sadisticham said:

" I would have and have done. I also set one guy up and made it look like he was cheating. That one was exceptionally funny because he got a slap in the face off the girl. "

Well then you're just an asshole, regardless of your age. "

" @WhiskerMeister said:

" So basically I'm 15. Anyway, last year I moved to a different city half way across the country but I remained in contact with some of my friends. Now, there's this one girl (she's like 14!) who I had a crush on or whatever, but I don't really anymore. Well a few weeks ago I found out that she was dating this guy that was really friggin' stupid. I mean, he has lolcats as his facebook profile picture and 'icanhascheezburger.com' under his interests. When I was in school with him, he would shout memes across the halls. An all around terrible guy. 
 
It was summer and I thought, "Hey, I'm bored and I really don't like that guy. I'm going to pretend to be in love with his girlfriend (we were good friends) and convince her to 'go out' with me instead." It took some pretty hard work but I managed to do it. I spent a while pointing out all of his flaws and why I was a better choice and she actually came around and said that she'd go out with me instead of him. I mean, I live super far away so it's not like that means anything, but mission success: he got dumped! It's been hilarious looking at his facebook status updates, he's posting depressing song lyrics and stuff like 'without you, there is no light'.   Anyway, mission success, like I said. Or so I thought. but then, you know, I realized that the girl expects me to actually do boyfriend-ey things like talk to her and listen to her problems and stuff (I told her I loved her) without any of the usual advantages of a relationship. What do I do, giantbomb? "

 you are such a sad little fucking bastard   "

" @hunkaburningluv: I don't care about quests at all. I started this topic because I recently posted about this experience in my blog (on another site) and the comments on it were outraged. I thought the duders would back me up and I'd link to this thread but maaan talk about a plan backfiring. "

"  The guy liked lolcats. What more is there to say? He didn't have any friends and was a complete loser. "

"Dude shouldn't have lolcats on his facebook. "

" @Ahmad_Metallic: I didn't hurt him. I 'stole' his girlfriend but it's not like I went over and kicked him in the balls. I'm sure it took him some time to work up the courage to ask her out, but so what? Dude shouldn't have lolcats on his facebook. Also he sent me fucking chainmail emails after I told him not to. "

Also he sent me fucking chainmail emails after I told him not to. "

Why has this not been locked yet?

Why is there not an option that says "yes, it's a bad thing to do"?

God fucking dammit, stop posting people.

" @WhiskerMeister said:

Also he sent me fucking chainmail emails after I told him not to. "

I like that guy already. What else did he do to you? I could go for a laugh. "

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Damn, that's cold dawg, I like the way you think.

"

" @JJWeatherman: Because there's always a circumstance where it might be right?  "

" @HitmanAgent47 said:

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Damn, that's cold dawg, I like the way you think.

"

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The intent of the op is questionable, although in the long run, the conclusion was probably to the girl's advantage. Now she has a little bit more relationship experience, and will probably be less naive when hearing the words "I love you."
 
As for the op, what exactly was the goal of your actions? From your post it seems you are implying that you wanted to break them up because you did not believe that he was good enough for her. Keep in mind, that if she cannot see the flaws in him on her own, then those flaws are of no significance. It sounds as if you had to directly tell her what was wrong with him. If you had instead just hung out with her, and over time she came to understand why you were a better guy, then that would have been a natural conclusion. But instead, she has been directly persuaded by you into believing something she may not have arrived at on her own. And it is likely this is exactly what happened when she decided to date the other guy. Always be careful when you call someone a loser, since you may be calling yourself a loser at the same time.
You might be thinking that she would have never realized on her own how terrible this guy was, and that you had to intervene for her benefit. If you truly believed in her, then you would have had faith in her ability to choose someone who was good enough for her. The fact that you did what you described shows that you don't.
 
Of course, if the goal you implied is not accurate, and instead you were just jealous or wanted the challenge, then that changes everything.
And finally, all of these events are insignificant considering  that you guys are only 15. What people look for in a partner at the age of 15 is often extremely different from what they look for in a partner in their mid-twenties.

" @Ahmad_Metallic: I didn't hurt him. I 'stole' his girlfriend but it's not like I went over and kicked him in the balls" 
 

I like it when people ask questions they already know their answer to. 

" @No0b0rAmA: You can't say that it's ALWAYS a bad thing to do. There are some circumstances where it might be justifiable. I only presented the realistic options the average person should consider. "

I'm glad your 15, that gives you a few years before you enter the real world to stop being a real piece of shit.

" @FlyingRat said:

" @Sadisticham said:

" I would have and have done. I also set one guy up and made it look like he was cheating. That one was exceptionally funny because he got a slap in the face off the girl. "

Well then you're just an asshole, regardless of your age. "

yep, you are a total fuckpig if you think that doing such things is acceptable "

Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

" I'm glad your 15, that gives you a few years before you enter the real world to stop being a real piece of shit. "

I love lolcats.  
 

I guess under certain circumstances (Such as if their partner is using them, is a dick, or is messing around), it's OK. However, I believe it's VERY wrong to do it otherwise.

I'm not voting because there's no option for "Yes, it's always wrong and I'm a bad person."

" @hunkaburningluv:@hunkaburningluv said:

" @FlyingRat said:

" @Sadisticham said:

" I would have and have done. I also set one guy up and made it look like he was cheating. That one was exceptionally funny because he got a slap in the face off the girl. "

Well then you're just an asshole, regardless of your age. "

yep, you are a total fuckpig if you think that doing such things is acceptable "

Oh i never said it was acceptable. But it is f un when a good plan pays off. I'm working on my brothers girlfriend right now it's my biggest project to date. "

" So basically I'm 15. Anyway, last year I moved to a different city half way across the country but I remained in contact with some of my friends. Now, there's this one girl (she's like 14!) who I had a crush on or whatever, but I don't really anymore. Well a few weeks ago I found out that she was dating this guy that was really friggin' stupid. I mean, he has lolcats as his facebook profile picture and 'icanhascheezburger.com' under his interests. When I was in school with him, he would shout memes across the halls. An all around terrible guy. 
 
It was summer and I thought, "Hey, I'm bored and I really don't like that guy. I'm going to pretend to be in love with his girlfriend (we were good friends) and convince her to 'go out' with me instead." It took some pretty hard work but I managed to do it. I spent a while pointing out all of his flaws and why I was a better choice and she actually came around and said that she'd go out with me instead of him. I mean, I live super far away so it's not like that means anything, but mission success: he got dumped! It's been hilarious looking at his facebook status updates, he's posting depressing song lyrics and stuff like 'without you, there is no light'.   Anyway, mission success, like I said. Or so I thought. but then, you know, I realized that the girl expects me to actually do boyfriend-ey things like talk to her and listen to her problems and stuff (I told her I loved her) without any of the usual advantages of a relationship. What do I do, giantbomb? "

" So basically I'm 15. Anyway, last year I moved to a different city half way across the country but I remained in contact with some of my friends. Now, there's this one girl (she's like 14!) who I had a crush on or whatever, but I don't really anymore. Well a few weeks ago I found out that she was dating this guy that was really friggin' stupid. I mean, he has lolcats as his facebook profile picture and 'icanhascheezburger.com' under his interests. When I was in school with him, he would shout memes across the halls. An all around terrible guy. 
 
It was summer and I thought, "Hey, I'm bored and I really don't like that guy. I'm going to pretend to be in love with his girlfriend (we were good friends) and convince her to 'go out' with me instead." It took some pretty hard work but I managed to do it. I spent a while pointing out all of his flaws and why I was a better choice and she actually came around and said that she'd go out with me instead of him. I mean, I live super far away so it's not like that means anything, but mission success: he got dumped! It's been hilarious looking at his facebook status updates, he's posting depressing song lyrics and stuff like 'without you, there is no light'.   Anyway, mission success, like I said. Or so I thought. but then, you know, I realized that the girl expects me to actually do boyfriend-ey things like talk to her and listen to her problems and stuff (I told her I loved her) without any of the usual advantages of a relationship. What do I do, giantbomb? "

Sum'n wrong with you, boy.

You are a bad person.
 
@teh_pwnzorer said:

" @WhiskerMeister said:

"  What do I do, giantbomb? "

Get one cyanide pill for each member of your love triangle.  The herd must be thinned. "

Hahah I like how many relationship threads GB seems to get, they're hilarious. 

" @WhiskerMeister said:

" @No0b0rAmA: You can't say that it's ALWAYS a bad thing to do. There are some circumstances where it might be justifiable. I only presented the realistic options the average person should consider. "

Like the boyfriend is abusive?  "