Long-Distance Relationships.

Ever been in one? How'd it go? Maybe in my future is one, it's a strong possibility. Just want to hear how your experience is going/went. I've already braced myself for, "Avoid at all costs."

Really, if you have ANY doubts, chances are it is going to fail.
You really gotta commit to it. It's stressful as hell, you're always worrying.
 
A better way to go about it would be "If we happen to still be single when we meet then we will go out"

Someone's gonna cheat on someone else and lie about it.....all downhill from there. Avoid at all costs.

I'm in one at the moment. Going strong for a year now. A bit more than two weeks of which have been spent together in the physical sense. It's tough. It's really, REALLY tough. But it can definetly be done. If you're both fully commited. I mean if you're already in love with someone then there's not a whole lot you can do about it, but definetly don't go looking for one. It's way, way too tough for that.

"If we happen to still be single when we meet then we will go out" "

I can't recommend them, was in one once, didn't go well.
 
Edit: doesn't mean they can't, but it seems that quite often they don't unfortunately.

I'm was almost in one. Decided to cut it off though. 
 
Mind if I ask why?

Long distance relationships suck. I never want to have another one.

It's not worth it.  I tried it...and even sex over the cellphone got dull.  I'd just pretend to be into it and I think she was too...would be surprised if she was cooking or some shit while we were trying it. 
 
It's not worth it, just move on.

It takes a lot of effort to keep it going.

God, the fucking pessimism in this thread from a bunch of sad losers. Listen man, a long distance relationship can be extremely rewarding, it may be hard, but it's worth it.

Avoid at all costs.

They're good if you've met them before.

I'm in one at the moment and it's not ideal, but if you really like the person then it's worth it.

" @KaosAngel: I dont think you can stick your dick through a phone. If you want to prove me wrong do so. "

If you've met this person IN person before and all the insecurities you two could have are behind you then it should be fine...probably even better then local if the both of you enjoy your free time.
But if it's some weird internet relationship and you're both creating weird ideologies of each other, then yeah, it could turn ta shit real fast.

Make sure you really want it, because it is going to take a lot of trust. If it works, it can be awesome. Of course, you always hope your long-distance partner doesn't cheat on you and dump you on Christmas. That one hurts...

I think what it comes down to is how long a distance we're talking here and how easy it would be for you to close said gap.
I was in one for a long-ass time, but that gap could not be closed for various reasons. Anyhow if you go for it I hope you have better luck then I did.

Not for the paranoid or anyone who is the little bit susceptible to stress.

It certainly makes for a much-relied on plot device, at least.

" I was In a long distance relationship for about 3 years and it worked out pretty fine but we kinda just grew apart once I started college but we are still good friends now and see each other every now and again I wouldn't avoid a long distance relationship just make sure your fully prepared for alot of travel and most of all just have trust for your partner "

Me and my girlfriend have been in one and it was very difficult but, in the end, completely worth it. I know it's stupid to get serious on forums but if you're with the person you truly love then you can make anything possible. It's difficult being away from the one you care about but I always just felt the need to try harder- especially when we saw each other. It always just reaffirmed what I already knew- it was worth it. Now things are great. Of course now she's going to Spain for 3 months to study abroad (D'oh!) so we're going long distance again but thankfully it's not for too long and our relationship is stronger than ever. 

" @KaosAngel: Dude fuck her go see machete. "

" They're good if you've met them before. "

I have been. She was in CA me here on the east coast. It was going kinda ok for a bit, but ended badly. You can't be physical and just being close to someone means a lot. After the experience I don't believe they can work.

" I had one for two years, and I'm glad to say it worked.  We're married now (have been for over 10 years!).  It was painful at times, but when we were together we focused on each other because we knew it was only a short time that we had together before the next stretch of apart.  The hardest thing was when we finally moved in together.  We were used to seeing each other in short bursts.  It was an adjustment.  Those things you didn't have time to fight about when you were only seeing each other two days every month, well, you have the time to fight about them when you go full time.  But if things are strong you'll sort it all out.  We did.  But based on the comments here, it sounds like I'm in the minority.  I say give it ago.  It could work out just like it worked out for me. "

Been in one for over ten years and I like it that way.  I live with her for months at a time but I'm a nomad at heart and need to have time by myself.

I wasn't going to reply to this at first, since I figured it's no one's bussiness, but I really want to give my two cents about long distance relationships since I am in one myself. 
 
Let's first make one thing very clear: it is hard. At times almost unbearably so. I live in Europe, while she lives in the US. This means I only get to see her once or twice a year, and leaving becomes harder every single time. It also doesn't help that I want to get a visa, but we keep coming accross speedbumbs that hinder that goal. If it were any other person, I would have thrown in the towel a year ago. 
 
But it's not any other person. She is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. And if it means going through hell to get to that point, then so be it. Some may call me stupid, or claim that I am clinging on to false hope, but there is no doubt in my mind that she is the one, and I will fight tooth-and-nail to get that visa, marry her, and live my life with her until I die. 
 
The point I'm trying to make is, it all depends on how strongly you feel about the person. If you are absolutely sure about your relationship, and are without doubt about wanting to be with that person, then you absolutely can overcome all the hardships that come with it. If there is doubt, or your feelings for each other just aren't strong enough, then it will ultimately fail. But personally, I think that in that case the relationship would fail even if the relationship wasn't long distance. 
 
In my case, failure is not an option. 

They typically don't work from what I've seen on Facebook

i don't think they work all that well. one person can be busy when the other one wants to chat.

Long distance. Tried it. Got cheated on. Over it.

pics plz

"It's not worth it.  I tried it...and even sex over the cellphone got dull.  I'd just pretend to be into it and I think she was too...would be surprised if she was cooking or some shit while we were trying it.  It's not worth it, just move on. "

They suck. Don't do it. Unless you are married of course.

Everyone here makes just about the same valid points. If you and your significant other are not absolutely, 100% committed to making things work, it won't work. Once someone stops putting forth effort, the whole thing falls apart. It's much easier to have a casual relationship than a strong long-distance relationship, just about anyone can tell you that.

Enjoy your breakup. 

I take a practical view on relationships.  It is hypothetically possible to have a "long distance relationship", but I find that the nature of mutual gain doesn't favor long distances, especially when you're young.  You can't share much of anything because you're too far apart (one benefit is "We only need to buy one copy of game X when it comes out").

I think a long distance relationship that is condemned to being long distance without a visible end is doomed to fail.  I also think that too much time spent separately will contribute to people growing apart.

I largely think they don't work because it undermines too much of what a "relationship" fundamentally is, but if it's "only for a little while" you might try it.  I told my girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend) years ago that I didn't think long distance relationships worked and I wouldn't be in one myself, and my views haven't changed much.

This is what I think of them: 
 

Through my experience long distance relationships don't work, but that's just me. 
 
A few varying factions have to be taken into consideration beforehand, those include the obvious...how long is long and for how long? The other would be, how long you've been dating and what kinda of relationship you have, physical or otherwise. I think for a long distance relationship to work requires a certain amount of sacrifice and commitment from both parties.

Long distance relationships suck and I will never try it again.  Temptation is a bitch and to many times I wanted to sleep with someone and had to remind myself that I was with someone who was 4 hours away from me.  I couldn't stand the temptation and decided to end it before it got any deeper.

I've done it. We were at a distance for a few years time. At one point, we were divided by a continent and an ocean. We're still going strong, and now much closer together. 
 
If you love a person, and know that you'll be together again, long distance relationships are a piece of cake. I had no trouble with it. There were times when we would miss each other or be forlorn, but it never got in the way of our happiness of being together. 
 
@RecSpec said:

" Really, if you have ANY doubts, chances are it is going to fail."

i think the randomness of the threads here is a bit too much

If you have doubts it will never work. My advice is don't doubt it in any way, shape or form. I'm about to enter one so wish me luck. Hope things work out for you

Lol. You mean long-distance scandals, lies, and building tension? Yeah, horrible idea. Probably works for one out of every 100 people... and that's usually because one person cheated on the other... but the other person was extremely trusting. 
 
Why the sudden urge to ask this question, though?

tried it. not worth it at all