#1 Edited by jeffrud (384 posts) -

I got Ernesto from his previous owners less than a year ago. He was an indoor/outdoor cat who liked to explore outside a lot. Not a month ago he wound up needing about $900 in veterinary care, which I could barely afford and will be paying off for some time now. Today I let him outside and two hours later, via a phone chain (his tags were from a previous owner) I found out that he had been hit by a car, brought into urgent care, and had died on the way. I could use a kind word right now. 
 
EDIT: I just got back from the urgent care clinic where he was left, by an anonymous good Samaritan no less. I needed to go see him for some obvious reasons, but mostly because when my best friend died four years ago I missed his funeral and that pretty much ruined my life for a year or two afterward. Closure is good. Kind words are also good. Thank you everybody for being cool. I'm sorry for all of your losses as well. There are going to be better days after this one, for sure. I mean, what's the worst that could happen? Unprofessional Friday not being archived for three days again?

#2 Posted by Spoonman671 (4632 posts) -

It can be really difficult to know where to draw the line when it comes to veterinary expenses. Sorry shit went south for you.

#3 Posted by Blu3V3nom07 (4207 posts) -

I'm sorry for what happened to you, and I'm sorry for your loss. I've had two dogs die on me, one right in front of my arms almost. Worms, I sure. ~ I've never had a cat, and I've never had mine get run over, but I hope I can say that I was close to what you're feeling right now. I hope your feel better, and go cheer yourself up. ~ My condolences.

#4 Posted by JasonR86 (9695 posts) -

I'm sorry man. That sucks.

#5 Posted by MonkeyKing1969 (2768 posts) -

Sorry that stinks and that's just the truth.  

#6 Posted by MariachiMacabre (7096 posts) -

Man, that's terrible. Stay strong, duder.

#7 Posted by CrazyBagMan (842 posts) -

Losing pets is awful. I feel your pain.

#8 Posted by Roger778 (957 posts) -

I know exactly what you're feeling. Years ago, when I was living in California, this cat my parents and I owned, had a habit of ducking outside, whenever she saw the door open. Her name was Isis, and she got run over by a car.

So, yeah, I'm sorry what happened to you. Just try to stay strong for us.

#9 Posted by chrissedoff (2096 posts) -

If this happened to my dog, I'd be practically suicidal right now. RIP Ernesto.

#10 Posted by ShadowConqueror (3051 posts) -

Sorry, duder. That's why I keep my cats inside.

#11 Edited by Jeust (10642 posts) -

Rest in peace Ernesto. While it is a bad situation to be in, it will pass. These things happen. The best we can do is learn with the situation, and go on.

#12 Posted by Aas (603 posts) -

Why would you feel "like the shittiest person"? You choose to spend 900 dollars on your cat when he needed it. Sounds to me like you were a great pet owner. Also, you have my condolences. My cat got sick last year and just the possibility that he might not make it was heart-wrenching. XOXO

#13 Posted by okoctothorpe (71 posts) -

Poor Ernesto. It sounds like you cared about him a lot. May the pain pass quickly.

#14 Posted by HellknightLeon (467 posts) -

Yeah... Thats never good... Um... Sorry Mac.

#15 Posted by Luca717 (105 posts) -

sorry man :(

#16 Posted by UitDeToekomst (714 posts) -

sorry to hear it. definitely sucks. feel lucky that you weren't there to witness it and it was probably without suffering. i've experienced the opposite and it is much worse.

#17 Posted by Pop (2631 posts) -

He died how he lived, exploring the world.

#18 Posted by crusader8463 (14422 posts) -

Dam. Needing to make payments on that bill will be a constant shitty reminder. I wish ya the best of luck dealing with it. I know when my cat died it was one of the darkest days in my life and I still feel the pain from time to time. All you can do is mourn and eventually the pain will lessen to the point that you're not thinking of it at all times. My cat passed away from complications of old age, but she too was an outdoor cat and if I ever get another cat it will never be an outdoor cat. Too many nights and days spent worrying about why kitty is late coming in or when they feel like staying out for a day or two your mind instantly goes to the worst places and it's torture waiting.

As said above, if you were willing to spend that kind of money then you obviously are a good owner. Some day in the future you can give another kitty a home.

#19 Posted by EarlessShrimp (1639 posts) -

As someone who grew up with a mother that bred cats, I've seen plenty of cats die for various reasons. It's never easy to see them go. I wish you the best.

#20 Posted by pweidman (2333 posts) -

I feel your pain. Losing pets can be devastating. When you're ready, adopt a cat that needs a good home duder.

#21 Posted by coakroach (2490 posts) -

The world is a cruel and random place sometimes.

Sorry for your loss duder, chin up.

#22 Posted by McShank (1629 posts) -

Last year My cat was poisoned by a neighbor with coolant and i had taken her to the vet. Spent 1100$ keeping her alive for 2 days to try and save her to find that the doctor couldn't do anything and it was to late as her body was slowly shutting down. I can feel your pain as losing a pet is no different to losing a close friend. May all the loving pets be somewhere with lots of cat nip and dog bones.

#23 Posted by Little_Socrates (5677 posts) -

Condolences obviously offered. You're not shitty in the least. But,

@McShank: Wait, like, intentionally poisoned your cat? What the fuck?

#24 Posted by RoyaleWithCheese (39 posts) -

Condolences. I've lost several dogs over the years, and yea, it sucks. Just remember: "The pain now is part of the happiness then. That's the deal."

#25 Posted by HistoryInRust (6305 posts) -

Losing pets is the worst thing. Girlfriend's dog darted out into a street and was hit by a car. We chased after him but the pieces were in motion before there was any opportunity to change what was going to happen. It was like watching the whole event unfold in slow motion. The worst feeling in the world.

Sorry for your loss, friend.

#26 Edited by WasabiCurry (422 posts) -

I am sorry for your loss, duder. My first dog passed away in the same manner...

My family loved our little black pug.

#27 Posted by Encephalon (1259 posts) -

Sorry to hear that, duder. I know I'd be just inconsolable if my cat died.

#28 Posted by chocolaterhinovampire (1289 posts) -

that sucks man. must be rough.

#29 Posted by _Chad (962 posts) -

Man, that sucks, I'm sorry for your loss.

#30 Posted by dungbootle (2457 posts) -

Sorry for your loss man. Pets are wonderful.

#31 Posted by VoshiNova (1687 posts) -

I'm so sorry for your loss duder.

#32 Posted by Clonedzero (4200 posts) -

that sucks, ive had a number of cats throughout my life. a few of them died from being outside, so i know exactly how that feels. sucks man.

at least the person was kind enough to call and attempt to save him.

i just found my last cat dead in the street :(

#33 Posted by laserbolts (5321 posts) -

Sorry dude cats are pretty cool.

#34 Posted by Sooty (8082 posts) -

My cat of 16 years also died on Wednesday, fortunately it was seemingly painless. (Kidney disease) R.I.P.

#35 Posted by RawknRo11a (563 posts) -

Sorry to hear that man. Pets can become closer than most friends sometimes. Stay strong and remember, Ernesto is probably in kitty heaven right now...

#36 Posted by Fattony12000 (7402 posts) -

:(

#37 Posted by YOU_DIED (703 posts) -

We don't own animals, they own us. Sorry for your loss.

#38 Edited by Turtlebird95 (2384 posts) -

Very sorry to hear that. Losing a pet is never easy, back in 2011 my cat who was 23 years old passed away. I was a wreck for quite some time.

#39 Posted by Jared (557 posts) -

I'm sorry to hear that, dealing with the loss of a pet is not easy. It's like losing a family a member. In time the pain will pass and you will always have the memories with your cat.

#40 Posted by Jrinswand (1709 posts) -

Holy shit, duder, that's awful. I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. Keep your chin up and any future cats inside the house!

#41 Posted by TheUnsavedHero (1255 posts) -

My condolences. Feel better fellow duder. <:-(

#42 Posted by frankfartmouth (1018 posts) -

That blows man. I always used to let my cats go outside too. They enjoy it so much.

#43 Posted by Wolfgame (734 posts) -

@jeffrud:

Two thanksgivings ago our family dog had died of old age and some minor health problems, and when I say thanksgiving I mean the day of. So that "holiday" has been forever changed for me. He was a 12 year old border collie we had since he was a puppy. A great dog, I still remember checking on him that morning. Whole family was in tears, looked like he had been crying. He had enough energy to look up at me and then he was gone. Following that shortly after new years my personal dog a collie chow mix also past away. I got her from a foster home where she was rescued from a neglient owner (the previous owner had fired a weapon at her wounding her). I then got in touch with the foster home about providing her a permanent place to live. I can tell you it was a great experience. She mingled so well with our other dog, the border collie I mentioned. They got along so well. Unfortunantly she also past away. Except I had to make the decision to put her down at the vets office. I had walked outside and she was spazzing out and wheazing. she started couphing up blood. then an hour later she was up just as happy as could be. I felt terrible, like my emotions were being manipulated. If she were in constant pain the decision I made would have been so much easier. But it was after another occurence that was similar I realized I had to have her put to sleep. She no longer had feeling in her body from the hind legs to about the middle of her back. She walked in with me to the vet and I sat there with her until she was gone. The whole time I was holding her.

I say all this because it never is easy. We have the illusion of choice on how they pass away in some cases. But either waking up to a dog that is no longer with you or having to make that decision at a vets office while your pet is smiling at you. Neither of those are choices. Neither option can be considered better. At the end of it all, you will just have the memories. I know your situation was different. I offer my condolences. The memories are the only healing really. Think of the good times together, the companionship and remember your pet wouldn't want you to be sad.

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#44 Posted by Saethir (353 posts) -

That sucks man, I've had to bury two dogs, and both times it has been the most difficult thing to bring myself to do. The first one was a year older than me at the time, and the second was a great friend for most of my life. Saying goodbye to a pet and a friend is never easy, so my most heartfelt condolences go out to you. I am truly sorry for your loss.

#45 Posted by Raven10 (1780 posts) -

That's terrible. I'm sorry for your loss. Stay strong duder. You'll make it through this.

#46 Posted by Miketakon (514 posts) -

Oh man I'm sorry to hear it. Just look at it this way you have a couple of pals waiting on the other side.

#47 Posted by Metric_Outlaw (1172 posts) -

That sux man, I had a cat when I was in middle school who got hit by a truck and had to have a ton of surgery (lost an eye, minor brain damage, and tons of stitches). It cost my parents a ton of money and then a month later he was diagnosed with leukemia and we had to put him down. It sux wasting all that money and then your cat ends up dying. I'm glad you know what happened to him at least. Its better than worrying for months where he wound up.