my girlfriend has signed up for the army :(

Reminder: the recruiter isn't going to talk her out of it.

Time to say goodbye. Long distance doesn't work. You get bored. Make new friends and have sex with them. She'll do it do, then you'll both feel like bastards. 
 
Plus..you do not want to be involved with a woman who has professional interrogation skills.

 But we made the decision that my professional career comes first in our relationship. That might make me sound selfish, but I got goals.

"3. My entertainment and free time"

Make sure you don't copy this guy's gf and join the army.

I'm somewhat in the same situation, except she never went active. At some point she is GOING to get deployed, but until then, its all just annoying building and thinking "is it going to happen yet?"

All the times she's left for several months (boot camp, went to AIT twice, etc etc) have been extremely crappy, but it makes it a lot better when she gets back. You realise how much you can't live without her.

That sucks, dude. But you shouldn't break up with her just because she joined the Army. You should probably discuss the state of your relationship with her, and whether it is worth having a long distance relationship while she's in the Army.

@lazyturtle said:

@EpicSteve said:

But we made the decision that my professional career comes first in our relationship. That might make me sound selfish, but I got goals.

Wow. Seriously, I would immediately break up with anyone who said that. Heres how I view the pecking order: 1. My kids 2. My wife 3. My entertainment and free time4. My family (not in-laws though) 5. My career Really, if I could stick anything about my career I would. I work to live, not the other way around. The best job (and trust me, I've had awesome jobs) is still work. By the way, none of that is a judgement on you and your priorities. I'm just saying how I would react to what you just said.

I kind of agree, career is not everything.

If you're not willing to meet someone half way with your goals you're not worth their time.

@tunaburn:

I'm currently with a woman who I've been together with for about 11 years. We met just when she was going into college, bad thing is, she went to college in Virginia, I, in Nebraska. So the first five years of our relationship was long-distance.

We fought and broke up, got back together and fought and broke up and got back together, over and over. Let me tell you, it sucked something fierce. When she graduated and moved in with me, it made me realize how a long-distance relationship lacks that something that you have when you're actually together. Since we're back together we don't fight at all.

There's a main difference between my story and yours though. My story has started at the beginning of my adult life and I didn't have her consistently around me until I was about 23. I had all this good time to be looking forward to and I didn't know what I was missing until she got back here to be with me. You, on the other hand, will be doing the opposite. Your moving from a good place in your relationship to a place that will most likely tear your relationship asunder.

Long distance is hard. Too hard to be doing in your mid-20s, you're a grown-ass man, you should find a woman willing to work with you, grow and build a life with.

And let me give your girlfriend a bit of advice too. You said she wanted to join up so she could so some good in the world, well, she's not going to be doing any good in law enforcement. Take it from someone with some experience in it, the first thing they say when you join up to be a federal officer is "If you want to help people, go be a social worker. Your job is to uphold the law."

: ( bummer

wish you well

If you love her enough you'll stick it out, be sure to call each other regularly to keep together, otherwise you may drift apart.

Probably fake your own death?

Only both your insecurities can hold the relationship back. Trust her and she'll trust you. Military life is hard and lonely. Someone being there to hold you up when the real world seems to be missing is a pleasure beyond belief, especially when your far and gone. If it's love it's love and you should feel the need to be there for her as much as she wants to be there for you.

My girlfriend of two years left me a month before I left for boot camp.

Fake your own death.

Hah, the army... I say you break it up and then:

@Sweep said:

Fake your own death.

@Sweep said:

Fake your own death.

Break her legs or lock her in your basement. 

1. Sell your house.
2. Fake your own death.
3. Go to South Korea
4. Join the army.
5. Find out where she's stationed.
6. Walk up to her.
7. Touch her shoulder.

@EpicSteve said:

No one should let anyone stand in the way of their career path. People who let significant others dictate their life plans typically pay for it in the end. But we made the decision that my professional career comes first in our relationship. That might make me sound selfish, but I got goals.

From what I've seen of you on these forums, I respect you but I really disagree with this part of your outlook.

What is the point of having a significant other if that other isn't significant in the planning of your life. In a dedicated relationship I think it's foolish to think you have your own life plans while your other has his/her own; you share a life and you plan that life together.

Last year I had the opportunity to do my PhD studies at either NYU or Stanford which would've been the best thing to happen to further my career path. Unfortunately, it would've meant having a long distance relationship for five, maybe six years. After a couple of weeks talking about it I decided against it because I don't want to be away from my girl for such a long time (sure, we could visit, but a couple of weeks a year is nothing). I don't have any regrets; my professional career will always come second to the love of my life.

Coming up on our tenth anniversary two weeks from now.

@WilliamRLBaker said:

get her pregnant that will put the kibosh on army time. :P *jk*

Even if this comment has no punctuation worth its salt, it's actually good advise... It's a fast way to get her to come back home!

 I say stick it out and stay with her, y'all have made it this far, why waste it?

 I say stick it out and stay with her, y'all have made it this far, why waste it?

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.  I know that's abit of a cop-out but... if your gonna make it work, it'll be all good :)
 
5 years is a long time for anything to end, especially if this was an ' outta no-where'  kinda move :(

Rough situation, man. I don't think anyone else can really say what you should do, though. If you love her, stay together. If you're not absolutely sure, then maybe talk to her about splitting up if that's what you feel like you need to do.

I hope everything works out for you, man. I really do.

For everybody who keeps posting advice, they broke up.

http://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/conclusion-my-girlfriend-joined-the-army-conclusion/513018/?page=4

Mod should really lock this thread now there's that other one.

I can just imagine the conversation between her and you when she comes back. 
  

37 would be a slow day for the typical military female

I keep thinking this topic says "My girlfriend signed me up for the army".

Which would be a much better story.

You answered your own question. If you love her and want her to be happy, support her and stick by her.

Ask her to marry you or get her pregnant.