Posted by DragoonKain1687 (702 posts) -

Well, its been a long time since I last posted something on this blog. And I DO mean a long time. But lately, I've felt the urge to express myself a little bit more. Maybe because the person I love is visiting her family, so I spend more time "alone". So, maybe, we can talk about that? Or I can give my impression on the subject.
 
So, having someone to love is wonderful. I can't begin to express how my life improved since I met her. And by improve, I do mean a lot. It's funny, how can a person can change us so much. Don't you think so? Life feels better, at least, that's what happens in my case. What about you lovers out there?  Do you feel happy? Fulfilled? As if life could not be any better?
 
When you have a couple, you start doing more things, and the time you are not with that person, seems to last forever. I know, the worst time of my day are my 9 hours of work. After that, even if things are terrible, seeing her face just makes me happy. It lifts the weight of the world, and I can just rest. It's like magic. It's instant. Just seeing her smile, holding her, even if we are doing house chores, or doing a work for her university, it does not matter. 
 
But, now comes my problem, my life shatters when we are apart. She lives in another state, so, last week, she went back to visit her family. And even though I kind of forced her to go, a big part of me did not want that. Call me selfish, but being without her feels weird. As if I'm empty. We do talk a lot, during my work time we use sms and messenger. And at night, we use video calls with Skype, which helps shorten our distance. But we both miss the feeling of being together. Its funny, but sometimes, you feel like in one of those romantic movies, and you start to learn that some of those corny or cheezy words, start floating around you, and involuntarily you say them. 
 
Being apart is hard, I must say that. And I DO mean hard. So, what do you guys and girls think? Are you in a relationship? Have you been apart for 2 or more weeks? How did you feel about it?  
 
Just for those, a nice picture of us :p Sorry for the quality, its from a cell phone 

 I love you!
#1 Posted by DragoonKain1687 (702 posts) -

Well, its been a long time since I last posted something on this blog. And I DO mean a long time. But lately, I've felt the urge to express myself a little bit more. Maybe because the person I love is visiting her family, so I spend more time "alone". So, maybe, we can talk about that? Or I can give my impression on the subject.
 
So, having someone to love is wonderful. I can't begin to express how my life improved since I met her. And by improve, I do mean a lot. It's funny, how can a person can change us so much. Don't you think so? Life feels better, at least, that's what happens in my case. What about you lovers out there?  Do you feel happy? Fulfilled? As if life could not be any better?
 
When you have a couple, you start doing more things, and the time you are not with that person, seems to last forever. I know, the worst time of my day are my 9 hours of work. After that, even if things are terrible, seeing her face just makes me happy. It lifts the weight of the world, and I can just rest. It's like magic. It's instant. Just seeing her smile, holding her, even if we are doing house chores, or doing a work for her university, it does not matter. 
 
But, now comes my problem, my life shatters when we are apart. She lives in another state, so, last week, she went back to visit her family. And even though I kind of forced her to go, a big part of me did not want that. Call me selfish, but being without her feels weird. As if I'm empty. We do talk a lot, during my work time we use sms and messenger. And at night, we use video calls with Skype, which helps shorten our distance. But we both miss the feeling of being together. Its funny, but sometimes, you feel like in one of those romantic movies, and you start to learn that some of those corny or cheezy words, start floating around you, and involuntarily you say them. 
 
Being apart is hard, I must say that. And I DO mean hard. So, what do you guys and girls think? Are you in a relationship? Have you been apart for 2 or more weeks? How did you feel about it?  
 
Just for those, a nice picture of us :p Sorry for the quality, its from a cell phone 

 I love you!
#2 Posted by BraveToaster (12588 posts) -

I'm not in a relationship, but you come off as a lost puppy when your girl isn't around. You should get used to her not being around as much or you'll come off as clingy

#3 Edited by JB16 (745 posts) -

In my personal opinion long distance relationships never work out, ever. I was dating this girl and we were 100% couldn't break us apart in love, that is until she moved with her family ....we broke up 1 month later.

#4 Posted by DragoonKain1687 (702 posts) -
@JB16 said:
" In my personal opinion long distance relationships never work out, ever. I was dating this girl and we were 100% couldn't break us apart in love, that is until she moved with her family ....we broke up 1 month later. "
It's not a long distance relationship though. She lives where I live. But she went to visit her family for 2.5 weeks :p
 
And yeah, I think I am a lost puppy :(
#5 Edited by guiseppe (2842 posts) -

I'm in a long distance relationship where we're usually apart for 4-6 weeks at a time. We met online and live 700km away from eachother. It's working alright, we've been together for a little over 2 years now. Living in this kind of relationship definitely puts a strain on you (and the relationship) though, it's annoying as hell being apart for so long, but there's nothing we can do about it right now. If I hadn't loved her so much, I probably wouldn't have coped.

#6 Posted by Bhouse563 (159 posts) -

I've been apart from my fiance for over a month now. We both lived in CO but she decided to move back to WI to be closer to her family, while I have to wait till mid Aug to move as I have job obligations. Its hard, we've had fights, but like it was posted earlier don't come off as clingy. 
Might I suggest playing videogames to take your mind off things? We are, after all, on giantbomb.com

#7 Posted by Malchom (96 posts) -

Dude, my GF is going to study in Switzerland for 6 months soon and I can't function properly without her around, I feel you.

#8 Posted by Arbie (1437 posts) -

Hmm, I was away from my boyfriend for a month whilst I was in France and it was horrible. I found it tough to be enjoying myself when I was thinking of him so often and just counting the days away until he could come visit. Now I'm sick of the sight of him and can't wait to go back! 
 
Anywho, you should write this in a letter or something equally sickeningly sweet for you girlfriend. She'd probably appreciate it.

#9 Posted by Tireyo (6451 posts) -

I've never experienced that feeling that you have before.

#10 Posted by RecSpec (3949 posts) -

Yeah really, don't tell us this when you should be telling her this.
 
But you don't want to be THAT clingy. That can sour things pretty badly down the road.

Online
#11 Posted by HS21 (2682 posts) -

*Wants Ahmad Metallic or someone else equally inexperienced yet somehow jaded by relationships to respond to this thread. That would be most entertaining. 

#12 Posted by sawfish22 (237 posts) -
@Axxol:
AMEN!  Don't be a clinger, dude.  It's makes you sound pretty lame and you'll scare off any girl by acting too clingy.  Trust me.
#13 Posted by DragoonKain1687 (702 posts) -

You think I`m a "clinger"? You should listen to her HAHA. 
 
BTW, I found that I can be very romantic with what I say. Funny, I thought I was more like "Terminator" like and not a "Romantic". 
 
Thanks for the tips though!!

#14 Edited by Jaserno (242 posts) -

  @DragoonKain1687:
 I feel you dude, my girlfriend and I are students so we're apart for like 4 months at a time. We do keep in near-constant contact so our relationship works. You'll be fine man, chin up. Just need to find something to do when she isn't around. My big thing is gaming and drinking. So I'm around my friends a lot which makes it easier. 
 
We both also live in the same town so when we're not at university everything is pretty sweet.   
 
EDIT: Oh, and me and my girlfriend are at university 200 miles apart and been together 3 years this October.

#15 Posted by fini_fly (767 posts) -
@DragoonKain1687 said:
Being apart is hard, I must say that. And I DO mean hard. So, what do you guys and girls think? Are you in a relationship? Have you been apart for 2 or more weeks? How did you feel about it?
It sucks, but hang in there duder. For almost 5 of the 6 years I've been with my fiance was spent apart. 3 years living of her living 350 km away, 1 year of 500 km away, and 1 year 4000km and 2 time zones away. So each time she moved farther away for school or work, the time in between seeing her was increased. 2 weeks is nothing. Try 3 months. Now we are getting married on Sunday. So hang in there. 
#16 Posted by Jaserno (242 posts) -
@fini_fly said:
" @DragoonKain1687 said:
Being apart is hard, I must say that. And I DO mean hard. So, what do you guys and girls think? Are you in a relationship? Have you been apart for 2 or more weeks? How did you feel about it?
It sucks, but hang in there duder. For almost 5 of the 6 years I've been with my fiance was spent apart. 3 years living of her living 350 km away, 1 year of 500 km away, and 1 year 4000km and 2 time zones away. So each time she moved farther away for school or work, the time in between seeing her was increased. 2 weeks is nothing. Try 3 months. Now we are getting married on Sunday. So hang in there.  "
Congratulations on getting married, I hope all goes to plan and things continue so well for you. 3 months apart is hard though.
#17 Posted by seanvail99 (130 posts) -
@DragoonKain1687: I understand where you're coming from. Use the time to get something done that you wouldn't be able to otherwise. Start a project of some sort, keep active and busy with something to keep your mind occupied. It'll be healthy for you to have some independent time. I've been where you're at. 
#18 Posted by fini_fly (767 posts) -
@Jaserno: Thanks. So far everything is okay, and looks like the weather is going to hold up too!
#19 Posted by Karn (690 posts) -

It's hard, for sure. I remember 1 or 2 years ago when my girlfriend went out of state to see family, I kinda lost it. But I then calmed down and became a free bird, flying in an open meadow with daisies springing up from the neatly soiled ground.
Then again, I think it's different different if you're the one going away. I could just imagine what she feels when I take my yearly trips to visit my family in England.

#20 Posted by Atomasist (2818 posts) -

Sad story bro.

#21 Posted by drummerboykhari (191 posts) -

Cool Story Bro.
 
 
I've been in one. Long distance. More than a year, twas hell

#22 Posted by Kazona (3097 posts) -

My girlfriend lives in the US, and I live in the Netherlands. This means that we only get to see each other a couple of times a year. We've been trying for a visa, but that shit ain't easy. So yep, I know all about being separated from the one you love.

#23 Posted by VisariLoyalist (3000 posts) -

oh my god, you vastly overestimate the giantbomb communities capacity to understand a relationship.

#24 Posted by CharkeeFarlee (896 posts) -

 @VisariLoyalist said:

" oh my god, you vastly overestimate the giantbomb communities capacity to understand a relationship. "
This!
But also, you should be fine. If you pushed to to go then that proves how much she means to you :) 
I would go on some tangent about my boyfriend going to uni in september. But i can't really think of anything to say!
#25 Posted by lauritta168 (2 posts) -

Oh my god!! babe, you're so sweet when you want to!! YOU MADE ME CRY!! 
 
People.. what you DON'T KNOW is that we actually play videogames together.. so, some games, at least for me, are not the same or make me feel away from him.. 
i'm almost 3000km from him *yes, Argentina IS big*, but the fact that i can talk to him or watch him on a web cam makes me feel happier.. 

#26 Posted by wefwefasdf (6729 posts) -

My girlfriend went on a trip to Europe to run some camps in Romania. During that time there was no communication for ten days. It sucked. Hard.

#27 Posted by Jasta (2217 posts) -

It sucks alot but we deal with it.