Should I tell my parents? *serious thread*

" @project343 said:

Society's lack of remorse is an issue. And you're contributing to it. GTFO. "

I have absolutely no remorse for someone who has absolutely no issues in a world full of an incredible amount of issues, and acts like a whiny child seeking attention over it, particularly on the internet. I have remorse for people with real problems. Not some guy who whines about being depressed because his parents split up. Wow man, that's rough. It's only what close to half of all children have to deal with.  Coddling this guy at your teet isn't going to prepare him for life, nor is it going to make him anything of value beyond a narcissist who thinks the world should revolve around them, thanks to our current "there are no losers" mentality.   It's pathetic. It's selfish. It's childish. And his life is a fucking dream to the lives of many people who live in legitimate suffering and have legitimate problems.  "

I'm not too sure, man. It sounds like it'd be a good thing to talk to them about it, but maybe it wouldn't be worth it. It's tough to say, and really, I think you're going to be the one that needs to decide. If you really think it'll make you feel better to tell them about this and get it off your chest, then you should go for it. However, you gotta be prepared for the fact that they might not respond the way you want them to. They could take it personally and be offended, they could be disinterested, or perhaps even think you're just whining about something unimportant. Like someone else said, it might be a good idea to discuss it with your psychiatrist first.

" @audiosnag said:

" In the same way that a persons not gonna find solutions on the interwebs, you telling him "grow up you little bitch" isn't gonna make him go "Heeey, he's right!" It just makes you sound like a dick. "

I disagree. It might make him think about it and grow the fuck up. I used to be similiar when I was 14, and when I got a similiar speech, it did help.  It's certainly a better alternative to coddling him and feeding this ridiculousness.  "

" @Pinworm45 said:

" @project343 said:

Society's lack of remorse is an issue. And you're contributing to it. GTFO. "

I have absolutely no remorse for someone who has absolutely no issues in a world full of an incredible amount of issues, and acts like a whiny child seeking attention over it, particularly on the internet. I have remorse for people with real problems. Not some guy who whines about being depressed because his parents split up. Wow man, that's rough. It's only what close to half of all children have to deal with.  Coddling this guy at your teet isn't going to prepare him for life, nor is it going to make him anything of value beyond a narcissist who thinks the world should revolve around them, thanks to our current "there are no losers" mentality.   It's pathetic. It's selfish. It's childish. And his life is a fucking dream to the lives of many people who live in legitimate suffering and have legitimate problems.  "

I love the fact that you think I'm some "whiny child seeking attention over the internet" when in reality you know nothing about me. Sure I'll agree there are a lot of problems out there in the world. What I don't understand is when a guy talks about something serious and you make a joke out of it. What's wrong with expressing yourself? Even if I was whining wouldn't it be better to whine and let all of my emotions out then to bottle them up? That's what's wrong with people like you. I have a feeling you're one of those "tough" guys who think you should always bottle up your emotions and never let them out. Poor poor you.. "

It's pretty sad that the OP has nobody else to turn to but a video game forum on Giant Bomb. With this in mind, you pricks might want to take a stab at empathy, if you have any at all. 
 
As for the OP: Just talk to your parents. It'll no doubt be scary as hell to tell them how you feel, but there's a chance that they're just oblivious. Parents can often be overcome with the daily grind that they forget how important the little things are to their kids. You should really sit them down and talk it out, and let them know what you're going through. It may seem like small problems to other people, but fuck 'em. This is your worry, and you need to be the one who deals with it. I suggest you get on that ASAP. If you just wait for an opportune moment, it'll never come. Attack that shit! Charge!

 How much more effort does it take to bring someone up rather than down?  

"  @Pinworm45:    forgive me if I'm extrapolating a bit too far on what you've said here, but what your suggesting goes against nature. Settling for what you have simply because in the grand scheme of things you may be doing alright impedes human progression "

Definitely tell them. 

" You can either:  A) Pilot an EVA or B) Move in with a soap salesman you met on a plane who will start Project Mayhem while you sleep.  Or you know... just tell them. "

"I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine."

Just sort stuff out for yourself before it's to late dude just talk with someone and Think. Iv'e wasted 15 years of my live being a to big pussy to do something about it. Trust me man you just gotta do something about it. Every little thing counts including finally telling your parents about what you feel and think cause in the end It's your life you should be the one who decides what do with it. And It looks like it's kinda important to know how the situation is from your parents perspective. And btw shit won't be over just with talking to your parents it's going to take a while for you to finally be ok.

Tell them.  The only way you can heal wounds like that is by opening them up and confronting the past.  Even if it hurts.

" @Pinworm45 said:

"I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine."

Yea, but those people who are starving to death in Ethiopia are people that you'll never meet and they'll have no impact on your life. At least this guy is on the forum we all come to. In his thousand plus posts he must have contributed SOMETHING positive to this internet community. So I think his life should be worth more to us than people on the other side of the earth that we'll never have any contact with. How much more is just a matter of personal preference. "

Sure, nothing wrong with expressing your feelings and asking for advice.  It's a brave thing for you to do, opening up to a bunch of people on the internet. But there are definitely better people to talk to and places to go to seek meaningful advice and get genuine help than on a Video Game themed website, it's just the nature of the site it's not a therapeutic counseling website, it's for talk about video games and other none important recreational bullshit activities.  I think and talk about games to get my head around something escapist and positive for the most part, not to talk about life issues and current events.

" What I don't understand is when a guy talks about something serious and you make a joke out of   A second grade show and tell is fucking serious? Spare me. Crawl back inside the womb, if the second grade left you "clinically depressed" the real world is gonna fuck you up bigtime. "

" @lawlerballer said:

"wall of text aaaaaah "

Its not that big -.- "

" @Pinworm45: I genuinely pity people like you. You're so bitter and full of apathy because somebody, somewhere, hurt you. Or didn't hug you enough. Or the world kicked you in the ass and you fell over. You got told to suck it up and "be a man", and so you did. Now you see someone else in a similar position and you're so full of glee to be able to kick them in the ass and tell them to "be a man".  Your world view is also what's wrong with most people. This whole "out for myself" attitude that is complete and utter bollocks. Being a man doesn't mean you bottle up your hurt and move on. Being a man is lending a helping hand to your brothers and sisters and helping them through difficult times. Being a man doesn't entail being an internet tough guy. Being a man requires intellect, strength of will, and most of all, compassion. Without compassion for your fellow human being, you're worth less than the dirt you squat in. You just take up space and contribute nothing. In short, you're just an angry boy who doesn't understand how people can empathize or show compassion for a brother.  So go on, be bitter if you think it makes you look cool. You'll grow up eventually.  I hope. "

" @Marcsman said:

" What I don't understand is when a guy talks about something serious and you make a joke out of   A second grade show and tell is fucking serious? Spare me. Crawl back inside the womb, if the second grade left you "clinically depressed" the real world is gonna fuck you up bigtime. "

 Do you honestly believe that what you have to say has any signifigance at all? "

" @project343 said:

 How much more effort does it take to bring someone up rather than down?  

I believe my method is more conducive to improving someones life than feeding the need people have to feel special and unique via all their problems. 
 
@Akrid said: 

"  @Pinworm45:    forgive me if I'm extrapolating a bit too far on what you've said here, but what your suggesting goes against nature. Settling for what you have simply because in the grand scheme of things you may be doing alright impedes human progression "

I'm not telling him to not try and improve himself. I'm saying this not only isn't helping, it's a mentality that regresses a person. The best option, in my opinion, is for him to stop considering himself special, stop spending so much time thinking about this crap, get over it, and move on with life. I also think this is better advice than to simple coddle him and tell him he's an awesome dude who's valued in this world and that no one's a loser.     "

Yeah that sucks, but alot of parents are not interested in what their kids do, most just fake enthusiasm.

" @Pinworm45: There is a very fundamental difference in trying to tell someone their problems aren't that bad, and tearing into them with joy like you did. The things you said and the way you said them made it look like it's an itch you were waiting to scratch. I don't see how you can be a compassionate individual and choose to rip into somebody in a sad enough state like that.   And yes, the world has problems. Everyone has problems. His problems may not be a big deal to you or I, but that doesn't mean we can't take the moment or two it takes to listen and try to guide as best as we can. Instead you chose to berate him and try to emasculate the dude. That's not right, no matter how you want to slice it. "

" @Pinworm45: There is a very fundamental difference in trying to tell someone their problems aren't that bad, and tearing into them with joy like you did. The things you said and the way you said them made it look like it's an itch you were waiting to scratch. I don't see how you can be a compassionate individual and choose to rip into somebody in a sad enough state like that.   And yes, the world has problems. Everyone has problems. His problems may not be a big deal to you or I, but that doesn't mean we can't take the moment or two it takes to listen and try to guide as best as we can. Instead you chose to berate him and try to emasculate the dude. That's not right, no matter how you want to slice it. "

" @KingWilly said:

" @Pinworm45: There is a very fundamental difference in trying to tell someone their problems aren't that bad, and tearing into them with joy like you did. The things you said and the way you said them made it look like it's an itch you were waiting to scratch. I don't see how you can be a compassionate individual and choose to rip into somebody in a sad enough state like that.   And yes, the world has problems. Everyone has problems. His problems may not be a big deal to you or I, but that doesn't mean we can't take the moment or two it takes to listen and try to guide as best as we can. Instead you chose to berate him and try to emasculate the dude. That's not right, no matter how you want to slice it. "

Thanks but just ignore him. I'm starting to wonder if he has problems of his own. By the looks of it I'm guessing that they might be a lot worse than mine. LOL. "

" @dr_nefarious said:

" @KingWilly said:

" @Pinworm45: There is a very fundamental difference in trying to tell someone their problems aren't that bad, and tearing into them with joy like you did. The things you said and the way you said them made it look like it's an itch you were waiting to scratch. I don't see how you can be a compassionate individual and choose to rip into somebody in a sad enough state like that.   And yes, the world has problems. Everyone has problems. His problems may not be a big deal to you or I, but that doesn't mean we can't take the moment or two it takes to listen and try to guide as best as we can. Instead you chose to berate him and try to emasculate the dude. That's not right, no matter how you want to slice it. "

Thanks but just ignore him. I'm starting to wonder if he has problems of his own. By the looks of it I'm guessing that they might be a lot worse than mine. LOL. "

Sorry, I know I said I'd go but this fits in with the point I was making in my last post. Notice how he says he suspects my problems are worse than his - and then in capitols laughs at them. Notice how he expects compassion and sympathy for himself while laughing at others. You can argue that it's because he doesn't like me given my posts, but still, I think it's worth considering in conjunction with my previous post.   Bye now. "

" @Pinworm45 said:

" @dr_nefarious said:

" @KingWilly said:

" @Pinworm45: There is a very fundamental difference in trying to tell someone their problems aren't that bad, and tearing into them with joy like you did. The things you said and the way you said them made it look like it's an itch you were waiting to scratch. I don't see how you can be a compassionate individual and choose to rip into somebody in a sad enough state like that.   And yes, the world has problems. Everyone has problems. His problems may not be a big deal to you or I, but that doesn't mean we can't take the moment or two it takes to listen and try to guide as best as we can. Instead you chose to berate him and try to emasculate the dude. That's not right, no matter how you want to slice it. "

Thanks but just ignore him. I'm starting to wonder if he has problems of his own. By the looks of it I'm guessing that they might be a lot worse than mine. LOL. "

Sorry, I know I said I'd go but this fits in with the point I was making in my last post. Notice how he says he suspects my problems are worse than his - and then in capitols laughs at them. Notice how he expects compassion and sympathy for himself while laughing at others. You can argue that it's because he doesn't like me given my posts, but still, I think it's worth considering in conjunction with my previous post.   Bye now. "

Yeah you're right, im sure the general shittiness with which you've treated anything he's said had nothing to do with it. Nothing at all. Great point. "

" @dr_nefarious said:

" @KingWilly said:

" @Pinworm45: There is a very fundamental difference in trying to tell someone their problems aren't that bad, and tearing into them with joy like you did. The things you said and the way you said them made it look like it's an itch you were waiting to scratch. I don't see how you can be a compassionate individual and choose to rip into somebody in a sad enough state like that.   And yes, the world has problems. Everyone has problems. His problems may not be a big deal to you or I, but that doesn't mean we can't take the moment or two it takes to listen and try to guide as best as we can. Instead you chose to berate him and try to emasculate the dude. That's not right, no matter how you want to slice it. "

Thanks but just ignore him. I'm starting to wonder if he has problems of his own. By the looks of it I'm guessing that they might be a lot worse than mine. LOL. "

Sorry, I know I said I'd go but this fits in with the point I was making in my last post. Notice how he says he suspects my problems are worse than his - and then in capitols laughs at them. Notice how he expects compassion and sympathy for himself while laughing at others. You can argue that it's because he doesn't like me given my posts, but still, I think it's worth considering in conjunction with my previous post.   Bye now. "

" I feel for you...especially the obvious lack of paragraphing skills but this really isn't the place to be bringing this up. You'll only get even more hurt.. "

" @Pinworm45 said:

" @dr_nefarious said:

" @KingWilly said:

" @Pinworm45: There is a very fundamental difference in trying to tell someone their problems aren't that bad, and tearing into them with joy like you did. The things you said and the way you said them made it look like it's an itch you were waiting to scratch. I don't see how you can be a compassionate individual and choose to rip into somebody in a sad enough state like that.   And yes, the world has problems. Everyone has problems. His problems may not be a big deal to you or I, but that doesn't mean we can't take the moment or two it takes to listen and try to guide as best as we can. Instead you chose to berate him and try to emasculate the dude. That's not right, no matter how you want to slice it. "

Thanks but just ignore him. I'm starting to wonder if he has problems of his own. By the looks of it I'm guessing that they might be a lot worse than mine. LOL. "

Sorry, I know I said I'd go but this fits in with the point I was making in my last post. Notice how he says he suspects my problems are worse than his - and then in capitols laughs at them. Notice how he expects compassion and sympathy for himself while laughing at others. You can argue that it's because he doesn't like me given my posts, but still, I think it's worth considering in conjunction with my previous post.   Bye now. "

I suspected you had problems by the way you were typing your responses to me. Don't expect sympathy from others if you aren't going to be of good character. "

OP, talk with your parents. whether or not your personal problems register on the global scale is beside the point- it matters to YOU, and I think it matters to your parents as well. And reaching out to a community, ANY community, for help is not a sign of weakness. It doesnt make you any less of a man. It makes you wise. I didnt read much of the posts on this thread, but the general consensus is to approach your parents and discuss these issues. The sooner you do, the sooner you can heal, and move on. And continue with your counseling therapy- it will help. It helped me out a LOT when I was going thru not-so-great times.  

" @Pinworm45:  Because you started with this "Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness." And you pretty much stuck with that tone if not got worse. If you honestly can't see why he wouldn't care about your situation after you opened up with that statement then you're not the brightest light bulb in the pack. If i said to someone "hey i have a problem" and they responded with "grow up, nobody cares, get over yourself...oh but while you're here i need to discuss a problem i have with you" then its pretty likely i wouldn't give a damn. It's not that hard to figure out. "

" @audiosnag said:

" @Pinworm45:  Because you started with this "Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness." And you pretty much stuck with that tone if not got worse. If you honestly can't see why he wouldn't care about your situation after you opened up with that statement then you're not the brightest light bulb in the pack. If i said to someone "hey i have a problem" and they responded with "grow up, nobody cares, get over yourself...oh but while you're here i need to discuss a problem i have with you" then its pretty likely i wouldn't give a damn. It's not that hard to figure out. "

But that's not what I'm saying. I don't know where you're getting the impression I either said I have problems or said I wanted to discuss them, because I didn't and I don't. I pointed out his quote as evidence towards my theory posted in my other post. that, combined with messages he's said to both me and others, makes a pretty decent case, I'd say. I'm not expecting him to care about anything related to me, nor do I desire it. I was using it as evidence for his character.  "

" @audiosnag said:

" @Pinworm45:  Because you started with this "Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness." And you pretty much stuck with that tone if not got worse. If you honestly can't see why he wouldn't care about your situation after you opened up with that statement then you're not the brightest light bulb in the pack. If i said to someone "hey i have a problem" and they responded with "grow up, nobody cares, get over yourself...oh but while you're here i need to discuss a problem i have with you" then its pretty likely i wouldn't give a damn. It's not that hard to figure out. "

But that's not what I'm saying. I don't know where you're getting the impression I either said I have problems or said I wanted to discuss them, because I didn't and I don't. I pointed out his quote as evidence towards my theory posted in my other post. that, combined with messages he's said to both me and others, makes a pretty decent case, I'd say. I'm not expecting him to care about anything related to me, nor do I desire it. I was using it as evidence for his character.  "

you know, i think generally when people ask for help, they're not asking for validation of their problem (they KNOW its there. they KNOW its a real thing thats causing real issues), they're -you know- asking for help. suggestions, answers, solutions, ideas. Half of my life i've dealt with depression, and the "cheer up" and the "grow up" advice didn't help. ever. depression is a medical thing. your brain chemicals get all out of whack because of emotional trauma. And being a teenager is even WORSE. your body is having all sorts of wierd-ass hormones pumping through your system at once. If your brain chem is out of sync when that happens you have to be especially careful. 

" @Pinworm45 said:

" @audiosnag said:

" @Pinworm45:  Because you started with this "Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness." And you pretty much stuck with that tone if not got worse. If you honestly can't see why he wouldn't care about your situation after you opened up with that statement then you're not the brightest light bulb in the pack. If i said to someone "hey i have a problem" and they responded with "grow up, nobody cares, get over yourself...oh but while you're here i need to discuss a problem i have with you" then its pretty likely i wouldn't give a damn. It's not that hard to figure out. "

But that's not what I'm saying. I don't know where you're getting the impression I either said I have problems or said I wanted to discuss them, because I didn't and I don't. I pointed out his quote as evidence towards my theory posted in my other post. that, combined with messages he's said to both me and others, makes a pretty decent case, I'd say. I'm not expecting him to care about anything related to me, nor do I desire it. I was using it as evidence for his character.  "

I know what you're saying. But the evidence you're using to point out character flaws is the fact that he said you probably have worse problems then he does followed by LOL. And like i said, obviously he's gonna say something like that when you started being so hostile. Matt Rorie used a personal example in his post and you didn't see the OP go "get out this is my thread damnit!!"  It's not that hard to understand. "

Try not to come off as such a douche and actually try to care and listen to peoples problems. Kthxbai! "

" I don't make much money but manage to donate a fair bit of it to charities such as MSF. "

" @Pinworm45:
However, you can still feed someone positivity without telling them that they're unique. Telling a boy that he's capable of great things is very different than telling him that he's brilliant, or a visionary, or some flourished blessing. But as opposed to your thoughts: people are far more likely to actively engage in society when they are fed positivity as opposed to no reward atoll. In order to inspire passion, you have to tell an individual that they 'can' achieve so much.  At the end of the day, I'd speculate that your idea of raising a child would lead them into a passionless forward-momentum: another student making his way aimlessly through a business degree in order to amount to society's standards. To me, that isn't a life that anyone should live. People should be exploding with passion and positivity. They should be running after their far-fetched goals, and picking themselves up after every fall. Great advances in art and science were never made by people who just 'kept on truckin.' A passionate individual has enough confidence in themselves and enough pride in the human race to stand up against your before-mentioned world issues, poverty or political injustice. "

Let me know when you add paragraphs and I will happily give you advice.

" @audiosnag said:

" In the same way that a persons not gonna find solutions on the interwebs, you telling him "grow up you little bitch" isn't gonna make him go "Heeey, he's right!" It just makes you sound like a dick. "

I disagree. It might make him think about it and grow the fuck up. I used to be similiar when I was 14, and when I got a similiar speech, it did help.  It's certainly a better alternative to coddling him and feeding this ridiculousness.  "

1) Never post your feelings on the internet
2) Your parents not being "there" for you because you think they don't care is bullshit, you came out her vagina, I doubt she just doesn't give a shit. 
3) Are you an only child?
4) Never post your feelings on the internet