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#2 Edited by punkxblaze (2972 posts) -

I don't have anything to add, it's just I've never gotten to post this image before and I'm very excited.

#3 Posted by davo (141 posts) -

Tell her how you feel. If she turns you down, at least you have plenty of games to play. No point in worrying about it.

#4 Edited by Azteck (7449 posts) -

I've been waiting so long for this!

Edit: Also touch her shoulder, girls are crazy for that shit.

Edit 2: I'm gonna contribute too! Honestly, it sounds to me like you should just go for it. Ask her on a date/to just hang out next time you see her, get her phone number and don't look back. What do you have to lose right now? And if she has issues with you being friends with girls then make sure she knows there's nothing more than friendship between you, and if she can't trust you, you run like hell.

But seriously. Go for it. I believe in you.

#5 Edited by MarkWahlberg (4601 posts) -

If you see her walking around, walk over and say hi what's up etc, then ask if she wants to hang out some time. Having some event or group thing that you can go to together might make it seem more palatable. The key thing is to seem friendly and not make it a big deal/ date, because those are horrible.

Also: it's more likely that a girl will like you if she knows you have girl friends. If she doesn't like it, then she's probably weird and controlling and not worth your time.

Also also: Have you talked to said friend-who-is-girl about Security chick? She might have better ideas than strangers on the internet. Just ignore the fact that that scenario happens in every rom com ever.

#6 Posted by Bigandtasty (3202 posts) -

Just do it™. From what you're saying and the research you've already done, you're massively overthinking it. Approach her when she's alone if you can; if she's with other girls, if that's the only opportunity you have, dude, just take it. Don't overthink the conversation; just talk to her about something you're interested in and suggest she go with you.

As for the best friend, just behave with her normally. If you have nothing to hide, you should be comfortable in that, and anyone who thinks otherwise is just trying to make something out of nothing.

#7 Edited by audioBusting (1507 posts) -

Just ask her out, silly. Who doesn't like being asked out? At least you're not a stranger, so it's not really strange. And it might be just me but I never had any problems like that having girls as close friends (I'm a guy). It seems weird to me that it would matter, and I don't think anyone would want to go out with someone who doesn't want you hanging out with your best friends.. Also don't forget to touch her shoulder.

edit: Also seconding this

Also also: Have you talked to said friend-who-is-girl about Security chick? She might have better ideas than strangers on the internet. Just ignore the fact that that scenario happens in every rom com ever.

In my experience, my friends know me better and give better advice than strangers on the internet.

#8 Edited by MentalDisruption (1622 posts) -

As far as your worries about your friend becoming a problem with someone you have a romantic relationship with, just be straight forward about it with any girl you end up with. There's very little you can actually do in that situation. Either you just say "hey, this is the way it is, its not a big deal we're not romantically interested", you hide it and complicate things unnecessarily, or you break your friendship off whenever some other girl you have romantic interest in comes around. The first sounds the most reasonable to me. If she is cool with it, great. If not, find someone else who is willing to trust you around other women.

As for Security Girl, I would just go talk to her. Pick a reasonable time, and don't make it anything too serious. When it comes to relationships you kind of have to build on them while that spontaneous opportunity still presents itself. Sounds like you kind of missed that window, so you'll probably have to go out of your way to make it happen again or hope you get lucky. Engage in some small talk or something to re-establish the little meeting you two had 3 weeks ago. Follow up from there in a more timely manner than last time if things go well. Is there anything you can invite her to do on campus? Like a student building with pool tables and other fun things like that? It's already a little trickier than it should be cause of the time gap, but what do you have to lose really? Your problem of never really getting chances to talk to her can also be your salvation if things happen to go oddly when you try to talk to her. If you hardly have to interact with her then you can easily avoid any awkwardness that might come from a failed attempt. Oh and I'll also throw in the basic rule of just be confident when talking to her. Just for good measure. Most importantly, if things don't work out, learn from this and try to be a bit more aggressive (in a normal way of course) when presented with an opportunity like that in the future.

#9 Posted by 49th (2732 posts) -

It's simple, first you need to break into a party or an event - start making a scene, do flips near the buffet table, fight people - just be a nuisance. This will force security to remove you from the event, you see where this is going? Security Girl was on security that night, you had no idea! She is going to have to escort you out of the premises... when suddenly your friend appears! You kiss your friend in front of Security Girl to make her jealous! Security Girl is so upset that she attacks your friend! That won't do - you think back to your favourite God of War trophy, "GirlBros Before Hoes", and know what you must do. In retaliation you punch her in your balls! In the hospital you see Security Girl's butt from her open hospital gown and touch her shoulder then a dragon appears and it destorys the hospital and then your friend says, "no firebane u r the dragon" and then you master water-bending.

#10 Posted by TheHBK (5474 posts) -

I love Sara Lima.

#11 Edited by TruthTellah (8801 posts) -

Honestly, the first thing I'd recommend is to solicit some advice from your good female friend. Since you seem to hold her in high regard, I'm guessing you think she has decent judgment. So, ask her what she recommends you do. Maybe you can even setup a friendly get together or party that you can invite this woman to. It certainly varies from individual to individual, but many people prefer just being casually invited to some bigger thing. Parties are a perfect opportunity for that. (though it'd be good if some of her friends went, too. Maybe invite them all and then use the party as an opportunity to talk to her in a fun social atmosphere)

Though, you could also just see her, approach her, and ask her out. If it feels right, you don't have to be cagey about it. It's best not to obsess over one person like that for too long; so, try to either see if there's a chance soon or just move on. You're young, and there will be plenty of women out there if things with this one woman don't go as you'd like. Either find some way to get her in a more social setting to talk to her or just take a direct approach. Don't treat it like some big conundrum; you're both adults. Just put yourself out there.

Good luck with it.

#12 Posted by TheHT (11150 posts) -

Stop stalking and start talking. Don't be self-conscious about you and your friend being assumed to be a couple, just go talk to her and see if there's anything there or not.

I'll take Bioshock, Deadlight or Insanely Twisted Shadow Planet please.

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#13 Posted by Demoskinos (14769 posts) -

What video is that Brad picture from?

#14 Edited by Giantstalker (1635 posts) -

@49th said:

It's simple, first you need to break into a party or an event - start making a scene, do flips near the buffet table, fight people - just be a nuisance. This will force security to remove you from the event, you see where this is going? Security Girl was on security that night, you had no idea! She is going to have to escort you out of the premises... when suddenly your friend appears! You kiss your friend in front of Security Girl to make her jealous! Security Girl is so upset that she attacks your friend! That won't do - you think back to your favourite God of War trophy, "GirlBros Before Hoes", and know what you must do. In retaliation you punch her in your balls! In the hospital you see Security Girl's butt from her open hospital gown and touch her shoulder then a dragon appears and it destorys the hospital and then your friend says, "no firebane u r the dragon" and then you master water-bending.

I want to see the full 90-minute screenplay version of this

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#15 Posted by Guided_By_Tigers (8061 posts) -

What video is that Brad picture from?

#16 Edited by Raven10 (1766 posts) -

Okay I'm the last person who should be giving relationship advice but here goes nothing. First off, never break off a friendship for a girl. If security girl trusts you then she will accept that you two are friends and move on. If she can't handle you having friends who are girls then she isn't worth your time.

Now as far as asking her out goes, I'm terribly inexperienced, and I agree that you should ask your friend for advice, but if I were in your situation I'd do something like this - You say she wears distinctive shirts right? So wait until she wears a certain shirt you really like and compliment her on it. Tell her you love that thing too. If it is a band or a movie or a game or something that could in some way lead to you hanging out, all the better. Basically use her shirt as a way to start the conversation. Really if it is music you are made. Just compare tastes in music for a while and then ask if she wants to hang out and listen to some music. Or if we are talking some other subject shirt just make it into some sort of date type thing.

EDIT: Also girls love when you compliment their clothes, especially if you really actually like what they are wearing. Just don't say something like "That shirt looks good on you" because then they will think you are complimenting their body not their shirt. Make it clear that you are interested in her clothing and her interests and you'll do much better.

#17 Edited by Petiew (1345 posts) -

Well you've already exchanged introductions, so you're actually better off than you would be otherwise.

I'd say the most important thing to do is to make your intentions clear early on. Ask her on a casual date(Coffee or lunch). That situation gives you the opportunity to have a proper conversation, find out about her, and show her why she should be dating you. If it goes well either propose a next date(You need to have activity/time in mind) or ask for her number to set one up in a day or two. If it crashes and burns in a horrible pile you didn't waste too much time/anguish over it. The longer you take the more hung-up you'll get on her and begin to over think things. If you don't pass her and get a chance to talk, you can ask your friend to help set something up.

Having a close female friend isn't bad, and often works in your favour. Though if you have to choose between the two you shouldn't throw your friends away.

Don't: Compliment her constantly, fake your own death, tell her you love her, tell her about the Asian woman that was killed in a nearby wood.

Not that my advice is great or has a chance of winning, but don't include me in the raffle.

#18 Posted by Video_Game_King (36272 posts) -

I also know that she is not a lesbian.

Good to know. Now I know that she doesn't have the goods.

In all seriousness....Just ask her out. The hell do you have to lose? You don't see her too much, anyway, right? Again, just ask her out. It may not work out well, but it will certainly work out better than not asking her out. And as for the other girl, maybe you could introduce each other early on so she doesn't get suspicious if you actually do succeed in your goals?

In all jokingness, though, you should have told me her Arcana. How can you hope to succeed without the right Persona on hand?

#19 Edited by believer258 (11800 posts) -

In all jokingness, though, you should have told me her Arcana. How can you hope to succeed without the right Persona on hand?

You just reminded me that I've completely forgotten about that old couple social link. AGAIN.

#20 Posted by Video_Game_King (36272 posts) -

@believer258:

Don't worry. That's the joke of one of my screenshots.

#21 Edited by Tearhead (2161 posts) -

As creepy as it sounds, don't ask her out when she's eating with friends, try to approach her when she's alone. Just try to be as non-creepy and confident as possible when you ask her out, maybe bring up the T-shirt thing and how you think you two would get along well. As for the "My best friend is a girl" thing, worry about all that nonsense after you successfully form a romantic relationship with another girl. Keep your eye on the prize, and good luck!

#22 Posted by Soapy86 (2620 posts) -

Just fucking talk to her. It's not that hard. And if she's got a problem with you hanging out with your lady friend, then forget about her. Do you really want to be in a relationship with an insecure, jealous idiot? Of course not.

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#24 Edited by JJWeatherman (14558 posts) -

This may be the stupidest thing.

#25 Edited by chrissedoff (2082 posts) -

Say hi to her next time you see her. Say you recognize her from campus security, because it's the truth. Talk to her about the one thing you know for sure you have in common, which is work. If she was not visibly put off by your presence then add her on Facebook. The next time you see her say hello again and talk about whatever dumb stuff happens to come up this time. Honestly, you would know better what to say at this point than I would. If you're at all capable of reading people's emotional cues it should be obvious by now whether she likes seeing you or not. If you're lucky then at this point you'll have a decent idea of what her interests are. If not, then repeat the cycle until you have some idea who this person is, whether she likes you and most importantly whether you actually like her. Exploit one of your shared interests in order to get a "date" with her. If you both happen to like rock climbing, ask her to come to the climbing wall with you, for example. If she likes rock climbing but you've never done it, say you want to learn and maybe she'll offer to give you some pointers. If you mention you like rock climbing and she says she's always wanted to try it, that's basically an invitation for you to ask her out. Substitute rock climbing with whatever thing actually makes sense. And there you go. Then it's all up to your ability to read and understand signals from there.

The fact that you have a female platonic friend shouldn't matter in 2013. I'm probably a few years older than you and even when I was in college nobody really thought a close male-female friendship would inevitably become sexual, so you should be fine.

#26 Edited by psylah (2170 posts) -
Rene Descartes has some advice for you...

#27 Posted by Turtlebird95 (2364 posts) -

Start by Facebook chatting to get to know her better. Get her number, ask if she wants to go out for lunch or something, then if all goes smoothly proceed to touching her shoulder.

#28 Edited by LeYcH (216 posts) -

I'm probably the last person to be giving out advice buuuttttt.

If it were me I'd try to run into her more often, casual things like "Hey!" in the halls and that. You said that she wear shirts that you like, comment on it; it'll give you a basis for conversation and then you guys can hit it off. After that I'm assuming you know that to do from there. (Be sure to stock up on protection. I keed). If this were me though I wouldn't be asking her out for a coffee or something like that, at least not until you guys are closer. I don't know, I feel like it'd be creepy since you probably don't know each other that well. If she's with a group of friends I'd never approach her, it'll be awkward and everyone will be staring at you and if she doesn't feel the same away it'll just be even worse. Having a girl best friend is definitely a plus, while it could cause some conflict in the future it shows that you're not a total idiot when it comes to girls and that you're not like the other "hur durr" guys.

Or you could just I don't know, touch her shoulder. Bitches like guys touching shoulders.

#29 Posted by TruthTellah (8801 posts) -

Oh, and as per my mention of asking your female friend for some advice, definitely don't end a great friendship just because of the -prospect- of a woman. That's just nuts. When you get into a relationship, you'll naturally drift away from friends a bit. So, don't toss out a friendship that could be there for you for years. Having a good female friend can be great as long as you have boundaries and prioritize the person you're with. The idea of ending a friendship should be the last thing on your mind when just considering asking someone out. You're over-thinking it. Stop agonizing and, whether its in a social setting or a random meeting, just talk to the woman and show that you're interested. You're young; there's no sense wasting your time agonizing when you can be doing something.

#30 Posted by Hockeymask27 (3683 posts) -

Touch her fucking shoulder!

#31 Edited by deathstriker666 (1337 posts) -

What the fuck are you doing talking to us for? Fuck me, the best way to get a girl is through another girl. And no, I don't mean that literally. The first thing is to express your interest for this girl to your friend(s), extra points if those friends are girls. They might have classes with her or better yet friends with her. They're great sources of basic information and you can have them invite her to a party or some other social gathering where you'll be there. This will avoid you the potentially embarrassing direct route and at least get her in touch with you. Networking, bro.

Asking someone out is a terrible way to get to know someone. Trust is extremely important to any relationship and if you haven't established it yet due to ignorance you'll get rejected over and over. Confidence is simply not doubting yourself. Take a shower, dress respectably, and for god's sake get over your preemptions. Clear your mind of doubt, suppress any thought of it, and smile to mask your crippling anxiety. Always worked for me. Err, most of the time.

#32 Edited by wjb (1656 posts) -

If the only option is to go over while she's hanging out with friends, then that's what you have to do. Maybe she knows someone mutual. I never did the whole, "Hey gurl, lemme speak to you for a second away from your peeps so I can ask you out or somethin';" I usually would talk to the group and find a way to ask her out later when the timing was better. If you're going to potentially date her, you might as well get to know her friends anyway. Maybe make new friends for yourself while you're at it.

Either that or be patient and hopefully another opportunity arises. I succeeded more once I stopped worrying and let things happen on their own. If it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be. You both still have a few years left of school, so...if all else fails, put her on the burner and try again when the time is right. By that time, though, someone else usually comes along.

And don't worry about your friend. Males have a tendency to harbor secret feelings than females do. Any girl you date isn't worth it if they're too insecure. I'd be somewhat suspicious if some dude wanted to be "friends" with a girl I'm dating (it depends, but most girls I date can sniff bullshit pretty well too), but girls' intentions are usually less perverted and insincere.

#33 Posted by ripelivejam (3805 posts) -

those two pictures being posted immediately whenever there's a thread like this, gets me every fucking time....

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#34 Posted by Dagbiker (6971 posts) -

You are kinda dumb, assuming by "shared intrestests" you share "gaming" as an intrestet also assuming she told you she likes games. (if she didnt tell you or you didnt talk about games prevously dont do this )

1. Approch girl.

2. Tell her you had this code for this FPS, and she told you that she liked fps's so you thought of her. look at her directly in the eye when you say this, it looks confident, stand tall, but tilt your head and smile.

3. hand her the code.

4. walk a way.

#35 Edited by StarvingGamer (8150 posts) -

Honestly, just ask her out. She already knows if she is or isn't interested in you. No tricks or strategy is going to change her opinion one way or another. Be cordial. Be polite. Be genuine. Who cares if she's with her friends. If you end up together, they're going to become you're going to inherit them anyways, and then they can tell everyone about how brave you were when you walked up and asked her out. Or she turns you down and that's that. Move on. It's nothing you did wrong, she just wasn't into you in the same way.

As far as the BFF thing goes, just be super upfront about it with both women. But don't make a big thing out of it with the GF to be. Don't supply any information you don't need to unless she asks for it. Just mention it casually, like it ain't no thing, and let it be. Either she's cool with it or she's not cool and you guys can talk it out. But the bigger a thing you make out of it, the more suspicious you're going to be make your prospective mate.

Believe me, I spent a lifetime of being too chickenshit to approach girls and ended up with a bunch of women who sought me out and turned out to be horrible horrible monsters. It wasn't until I nutted up and said fuck it, if I meet a girl that I like, I'm going to let her know, and that's how I ended up with the mother of my child.

EDIT: And I know some people are going to tell you to feel it out, but I say fuck that. 99.9% of the time you know whether or not you're interested in someone within 15 minutes of meeting them. You already figured out you like her and she already knows if she likes you. The more time you spend getting to know her or being her friend, the further and further you drift from the boyfriend-zone into the friend-zone.

EDIT2: Just speaking from personal experience, all the relationships that I know of where there was some long dancing-around-it courting process bullshit have ended up in really fucked up depressing places where they've reached the point of just being together because that's where they ended up. All the couples where the guy just went for it either imploded really fucking fast in spectacular fashion or are still going strong today.

TRUTH!

#36 Posted by translucentfish (127 posts) -

What video is that Brad picture from?

The actual video:

#37 Posted by supamon (1333 posts) -

Truckload of good advice on here already. Just approach her, smile and talk to her. If you're an acquaintance or someone related by some sort of activity like your security thing then that's your golden ticket to just go up and say hi. Usually girls won't mind it because you're just being social and friendly.

Trust me when I say this, don't over think it. Just have fun and if it doesn't work out, at least you know you tried and you can apply what you learned for the next girl which I have no doubt will come along.

#38 Edited by sulc84 (10 posts) -

That is the most common problem between man and girl..If you know each other long period,and both of you doesn't have relationship ,in most cases man will try to get more from that friendship ,this is in our nature :) But it doesn't mean than cannot be success relationship.First off all you need to be direct and honest,and ask her what she think about you.If the answer is positive for you,you will not attack after that,just wait some period ,and then ask another question.If it is again positive answer ,you can try to ask does she like you ? and after that you if it is answer good for you ,you can surprise her by sending flowers on her address (but anonymous ) .If is you her best friend,she will talk about that with you :) (don't send 101 roses :D ) ,it even need to be roses :D maybe you already know what flowers she likes ? ;) I meet my girlfriend on IRC,and we are 7 years together,you never know when that will happen ,it just happen... I wish you a good luck,and be brave my friend. (sorry for long post and grammatical errors )

#39 Posted by FilipHolm (667 posts) -

Find out when her birthday is and buy her something nice. Then be all "hey, I heard it's your birthday so I thought: why not buy you something?" You'll probably get her attention that way.

(Hey it worked for me)

#40 Edited by Nictel (2412 posts) -

I'm going to approach your "problems" in a step to step quote. I say "problems" because there aren't really any in your post, which is something to rejoice. It's going to be a ten five step program because those are really popular.

1.

I know that she is single. I also know that she is not a lesbian. Based on the various T-shirts she wears, I also have a pretty good notion that we share the same interests. I have managed to talk to her, too; she subbed in for someone on my security shift a few weeks back and we had a cordial "nice to properly meet you, my name is X" type conversation while manning the front door of the party. She also laughed a number of times at jokes and various humorous things I said to a friend who was working next to me. As far as first meetings go, I'd say we hit it off okay.

You already exchanged names which makes it very easy to approach her. Next time you see her, go talk to her. What about you ask? Well that is solved as well, next step!

2.

Now it's about three weeks later. Aside from catching distant glimpses of her at dinner, I have had no interactions with her and I don't really know what to do. Walking right up and talking to her while she's eating with friends does not seem like an ideal solution, especially since we haven't talked in almost a month, but it seems like the only course of action.

No don't do that, trust me. Nothing is more awkward then approaching a girl who sits with her friends. See, you'll instantly be judged and you'll have every pair of eyes staring at you hearing what your "great line" is going to be. Instead, catch her when she's alone and do step 3:

3.

Other than seeing her in the dining hall and walking around the campus, the only time I am ever in regular proximity to her is during brief weekly Student Security meetings, a job that we work different shifts of. Unfortunately, I have been consistently missing the meetings recently due to some other, more pressing obligations, so as of late I haven't even been seeing her there.

Did you miss the last meeting and was it recent? Great! Then just ask her if anything important came up. However, if you want to be courageous, which you should, go ask her how she is, maybe mention the tshirt she is wearing if you like it. Then tell her you would like to get to know her better and suggest having coffee (or another drink) together. This is very casual so I would be surprised if she denied.

4

To complicate matters, I have another problem that will undoubtedly rear its ugly head no matter how I ultimately approach my crush: my best friend at college happens to be a girl and we spend rather a lot of time together, so much so that we repeatedly get mistaken for a couple and there's apparently an actual betting pool that's been set up based around how long it will take for us to become a thing (and before the inevitable comments, there is no friendzoning/unrequited shit going on; it is a very good friendship, nothing more, and despite all the evidence to the contrary it's never going to be anything more than that. As to exactly why that is the case, I will not detail, as it will take up far too much space). As a result, I'm worried that my platonic relationship with my friend is going to prove to be a serious conflict with any possible romantic relationships I pursue, be it with Security Girl or anyone else, as I don't really see any potential girlfriends being really understanding when I regularly spend a lot of time hanging out with another girl. I don't want to sacrifice my friendship in service of a romance, but I'm completely terrified that that is going to end up being a choice I'm going to have to make whether I like it or not.

We solved the first problem, now this non-issue. Really relax! You're in a great situation. You just don't realize it. I have female friends, so I get where you're coming from. One of them follows the same course and we're in the same year. We hang out quite a lot so we've gotten the "are you together" questions a few times, even from teachers. I have also 2 friends I've known for over 10 years so we're close. This has never been a problem for me in my relationships, it's simple: these are my friends. So for you, if it comes up or once you introduce any potential girlfriend to your friend. Tell her, this is my friend we've known each other for X amount of time. Don't give up friendships for relationships, just don't. If she asks about it, you can be hones about it. Because from your post I get the feeling you don't want it to be anything more than a friendship. So you can tell any potential love interest that. Just to add one thing, of course there are 'limits' but they should always be in reason. (For instance I can imagine your potential girlfriend not liking it for you to go lingerie shopping with your friend.)

So now that problem is out of the way as well :-). Cause it really shouldn't be a problem. Just to repeat: Any girl saying "you can't have female friends when we're together" is not worth your time.

5.

So, basically, I haven't the faintest fucking idea how to approach my crush and I'm worried that the fact that my best friend is a girl is ultimately going to fuck things up no matter what I do. In a word, HELP!

So approach your crush when she's alone. The fact that your best friend is a girl should not fuck anything up. In three words, GO FOR IT!

#41 Posted by Winternet (8014 posts) -

I don't have anything to add, it's just I've never gotten to post this image before and I'm very excited.

Yeah, it's a very exciting thing to do.

#42 Posted by Humanity (9055 posts) -

You should probably pull some strings to get another security shift with her so you have more time to form some sort of relationship. People saying "just ask her out dood" are kinda nuts. Not that it's bad advice, but most people aren't that ballsy to just go up to an almost complete stranger and just ask them out to drinks. Especially since you're in such a small campus. When I was in college I was really into this one girl in one of my classes so I found some excuse to talk to her, got her number for in case I needed some "notes" and then asked her out later on. Well it didn't really go my way and that wasn't really a huge deal but my department was really small so then I saw her EVERYwhere, ALL the time and it was kinda awkward for a while.

So unless you're the Video Game King and are rolling in cute gamer girl party invites, then stick to plan B of getting to know her enough where you're both comfortable around one another before popping the question. The easiest way to do this is through activities you're both involved with, meaning this fancy security job you have. If you can't get that to work you can try to find an excuse to talk to her in passing - like asking her about what the shifts this week are at work or whatever and then smooooothly segueing into a "so whats up with you" type of conversation. Once you feel comfortable around Security Girl and you know her interests enough then come up with some sort of activity you are both into and invite her to it. That way if she says no you can always brush it off as just a thing you were doing anyway and it won't lead to complete awkwardness around campus for weeks to come.

Remember, all the greatest relationships are initially built on tons and tons of lies, so don't worry about "accidentally" bumping into her everywhere you go for a while.

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#43 Edited by Fattony12000 (7304 posts) -

Are there any secularity-related courting rituals that you can do to impress her? Like chokeslamming punks through folding tables or flying kick thugs through plate glass windows?

Or, just try and be around her more. You've done one good step along the path of possibly leading to a deeper relationship, you need a few more underfoot before you spring your...trap.

I don't even know what you are thinking about with regards to there being any kind of problem with having a lady as a good friends of yours at the same time as trying to touch another, completely separate, lady.

/ladies

#44 Posted by tread311 (356 posts) -
EDIT2: Just speaking from personal experience, all the relationships that I know of where there was some long dancing-around-it courting process bullshit have ended up in really fucked up depressing places where they've reached the point of just being together because that's where they ended up. All the couples where the guy just went for it either imploded really fucking fast in spectacular fashion or are still going strong today.

TRUTH!

While I certainly don't recommend it my girlfriend and I have been together for five years following a long and drawn out process where everyone around us knew it was inevitable. Sometimes that is what it takes, but I agree it is not the way to go. We could have been dating for almost another year if we weren't dumb about it.

#45 Edited by WasabiCurry (422 posts) -

It is better to know the answer than to never know.

Just ask her out. @humanity:

I dunno, I was ballsy with my current girlfriend. Then again, I have a lot of self confidence about my looks. If I get shot down, meh. Just another dime in the bucket.

#46 Posted by Humanity (9055 posts) -

It is better to know the answer than to never know.

Just ask her out. @humanity:

I dunno, I was ballsy with my current girlfriend. Then again, I have a lot of self confidence about my looks. If I get shot down, meh. Just another dime in the bucket.

My advice was for all of us cowards that aren't that confident about our looks or anything and want to ease into that icy cold pool of dating one toe at a time.

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#47 Posted by TheDudeOfGaming (6078 posts) -

I don't know what you want to hear dude, if you want a relationship with that chick you'll have to ask her out sooner or later. Just find the right time and ask her out for some coffee or drinks.

If you're rejected you'll always have your best "friend".

I'm sorry.

#48 Edited by Fallen189 (4988 posts) -

If you're concerned that she won't wanna get to know you because you have a female friend, you'll be better off without in the first place.

#49 Posted by mtcantor (947 posts) -

"Tell IT"

Not "them?"

If you're concerned that she won't wanna get to know you because you have a female friend, you'll be better off without in the first place.

#50 Edited by WasabiCurry (422 posts) -

@humanity: Everybody is beautiful! If you don't feel that way, you can always change it.