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#1 Posted by RE_Player1 (7574 posts) -

Yesterday I was hanging out with a couple friends and there were a couple other people with us I didn't know. I was making chit chat with one of the people I didn't know that well.. So me and this guy were talking about music, movies, what were doing this summer and he made a joke about his weight and how he needs to lose some, he's a little bit on the heavy side. I laughed and made a joke about my weight, I'm very skinny, which was basically like I wish I could bulk up by taking some of your fat off your hands, I didn't say the word fat but it was something like that I don't remember exactly. He got extremely offended and went on a rant saying I shouldn't complain about my weight and didn't talk to me the rest of the day. Was I wrong or did he just overreact? 

#2 Posted by Yummylee (22304 posts) -

Overreaction from the sound of things. Especially if he was who brought up the weight jokes in the first place.

#3 Posted by discost3w (152 posts) -

Fatty as a self esteem problem

#4 Posted by djaoni (338 posts) -
@Abyssfull said:
" Overreaction from the sound of things. Especially if he was who brought up the weight jokes in the first place. "
He joked about it because he's insecure. I'm a doctor, trust me.
#5 Posted by canucks23 (1087 posts) -

Overreaction fo sho, you didn't do anything to be a dick you were just making a joke to go along with his joke. Guy just feels to sorry for himself.

#6 Posted by Yummylee (22304 posts) -
@djaoni said:
" @Abyssfull said:
" Overreaction from the sound of things. Especially if he was who brought up the weight jokes in the first place. "
He joked about it because he's insecure. I'm a doctor, trust me. "
I would trust you with my life. And my Crunchy Nut cornflakes.
#7 Posted by teh_pwnzorer (1482 posts) -
@djaoni said:
" @Abyssfull said:
" Overreaction from the sound of things. Especially if he was who brought up the weight jokes in the first place. "
He joked about it because he's insecure. I'm a doctor, trust me. "
I never trust doctors. 
 
  
#8 Edited by BestUsernameEver (4825 posts) -

I am overweight too, and when people make a joke like that, I know they don't mean to offend me. Sometimes it does though, but I would never bring it up or get in an argument about it. If they do not approve, that is their business, but most importantly, my weight is my business. He did over react, because if I ever did what he did, I'd feel worse in the end than just letting it go.

#9 Posted by buzz_killington (3532 posts) -

It's like this: an ugly guy can complain that his looks, but a better looking guy can't complain about his looks in front of him.
Or a dumb guy can complain about his 60% on a test, but a smart guy can't complain about his 89% in front of him. And so on. 
So whenever you have the lesser of the two similar problems, don't complain about yours to the guy with the worse problem.

#10 Posted by Djeffers03 (2545 posts) -

No, you should have given him a nipple cripple.

#11 Posted by Gamer_152 (14100 posts) -

Sounds like a bit of an over-reaction but overall I don't think either of you were greatly at fault. It sounds like he was joking about his weight because he was uncomfortable about it and you accidentally touched a nerve.

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#12 Posted by Damian (1538 posts) -

Wording is important here, so it might have been slightly rude. Not sure. But I don't think the meaning was rude at all. Seems you were attempting to be self-depricating in-kind. So buddy should just calm down and realize he's not the only one with self-image issues.
 
I'm a skinny dude, and people LOVE to remind me about it as if it's a compliment, OR what's worse is they'll half-way force-feed me. "EAT!" "EAT!" with a fucking fork of food to my face. That's the same shit as trying to take a fat person's food from their hands, and anyone who does that needs to fuck right off in a real hurry.

#13 Posted by rjayb89 (7728 posts) -
#14 Posted by habster3 (3600 posts) -
@discost3w said:

"Fatty as a self esteem problem "

  
  His name's not Fatty; it's Piggy! (Sorry, I've been reading Lord of the Flies for my summer reading, and it fits perfectly).


@Abyssfull said:

"Overreaction from the sound of things. Especially if he was who brought up the weight jokes in the first place. "

 

Agreed, although you probably shouldn't have made the joke since you just met him; maybe if you got to know him better.. 
 

#15 Posted by DarkS29 (74 posts) -
@Abyssfull said:
" Overreaction from the sound of things. Especially if he was who brought up the weight jokes in the first place. "
This
#16 Posted by AhmadMetallic (18954 posts) -

hey fatty bum bum. hey fatty bum bum (im fat myself)
 
 
@DarkS29 said:

" @Abyssfull said:
" Overreaction from the sound of things. Especially if he was who brought up the weight jokes in the first place. "
This "
yup
#17 Posted by foggel (2764 posts) -

Heh, what a retard. Just ignore him.

#18 Posted by oscar (112 posts) -

 In one hand, I would say the guy making jokes about a person he doesn't know well shouldn't be surprised if the person gets offended, but in the other hand the person who got offended shouldn't be surprised by the fact that other people don't know what is going to offend them and should not take things personally. Personal appearance, along with politics and religion, is one of those topics you shouldn't talk to someone you don't know very well because you run the risk of offending.
Also be careful about going along with someone's comments about their own appearance unless you know them very well. If someone you don't know well says "I'm tired/fat/tall/short/thin/ugly/etc" it might be offensive to them if say something that implies that you agree, even if it is to make them feel better.

#19 Posted by JB16 (745 posts) -

He's a douche-bag. I mean he was the one who brought his weight up so why would he get mad if you made a comment about it.
 
That's like me talking about how much my cooking sucks and then getting mad at whoever agreed.

#20 Posted by s10129107 (1193 posts) -

you were a bit out of line

#21 Posted by BraveToaster (12588 posts) -
#22 Posted by Fattony12000 (7597 posts) -

What's he gonna do...chase you down?

#23 Posted by Organicalistic_ (2954 posts) -
@RE_Player92: well some people are sensitive, and you just have to be an asshole to make them happy
#24 Posted by OllyOxenFree (4981 posts) -

He over-reacted.  I always say that to my little brother and he laughs with me.

#25 Posted by JJOR64 (19052 posts) -

Sounds like an overreaction to me.

#26 Posted by crusader8463 (14427 posts) -

Can't say for sure unless we know exactly what you said. But from the sounds of things he may have over reacted. When ever you joke about yourself that tells people that you're comfortable with your body and that they can laugh at you all they want because you don't give a fuck. But again, can't say unless I knew the exact wording.

#27 Posted by AlfredCapone (164 posts) -
@RE_Player92: I woulda punched that fatass in the face for being such a hypocrite and a panzy
#28 Posted by RE_Player1 (7574 posts) -

So I talked to my friend and apparently he called me a jackass behind my back... my friend told me no one likes him because he's a drama queen so I don't feel bad anymore. I can't believe I lost sleep last night because I thought I offended him :P. 

#29 Posted by KaosAngel (13765 posts) -

Yes.

#30 Posted by Suicrat (3764 posts) -
@RE_Player92: As a formerly-obese (and currently fat, and soon to be average-weight) person I can tell you the guy who can't take a joke about his own fatness needs to buck up and do something about it, instead of just talking mess. By drawing attention to his fattitude you are doing him a favour, trust me.
#31 Posted by arab_prince (2053 posts) -

He sounded like a princess. Your second post proved that. total overreaction. you did nothing wrong. If someone makes the argument that he is insecure about his weight, well so are you wtf. Just cause you are skinny doesn't mean thats how you want to be. Don't worry about it bud

#32 Posted by ahriman22 (2746 posts) -
@discost3w said:
" Fatty as a self esteem problem "
#33 Posted by RE_Player1 (7574 posts) -
@arab_prince: Thanks man.
#34 Posted by iam3green (14390 posts) -

a little and he over reacted.

#35 Posted by JeffGoldblum (3710 posts) -

You probably should of waited until you knew the guy a little better. 
I don't think you were out of line, but people react differently to these kinds of things.

#36 Posted by ZanzibarBreeze (3079 posts) -

None of us can definitively say because we didn't hear the original conversation, but from your description it sounds like he overreacted, and I think you're all clear on this one.

#37 Edited by tokyochicken (849 posts) -

Hey, he made the joke about his weight implying that, to some extent, he was alright with joking about it. He sent out the signal and acted like a dick when you acted the way he implied you could. Yeah, he over reacted. 

#38 Posted by damnboyadvance (4061 posts) -

Nah. He was making a joke about his own weight. If he can do that, he can surely take a joke from somebody else. Especially one like yours. It's not like you were trying to offend him. Maybe you should of apologized. But then again, the other guy is just overreacting.

#39 Posted by Jams (2965 posts) -

He sounds like my sister. 

#40 Posted by Webby (720 posts) -

I would have told him to shut the fuck up. If he carried on, then I would start calling him a fat bastard.

#41 Posted by rt44tbtb4 (117 posts) -
 @buzz_killington said:
" It's like this: an ugly guy can complain that his looks, but a better looking guy can't complain about his looks in front of him. Or a dumb guy can complain about his 60% on a test, but a smart guy can't complain about his 89% in front of him. And so on.  So whenever you have the lesser of the two similar problems, don't complain about yours to the guy with the worse problem. "
Exactly, though I feel he did overreact, I wouldn't have said anything even if I was offended. Just like I don't say anything when my skinny girlfriend talks about her weight, while I am overweight. He brought it up as a joke, implying that broaching the topic is not forbidden, and then he clearly took offense. Perhaps he was merely trying to goad you to jump to his defense and claim that he's not fat, he's just "big boned" or some shit. 
#42 Posted by GreggD (4510 posts) -

Double standards are bullshit. That's why I don't apply them to my life.

#43 Posted by DrPockets000 (2859 posts) -

Maybe not the best idea to have done that.

#44 Posted by Ineedaname (4319 posts) -

I'd have done the same joke duder and I'd like to think I'm not out of line most of the time.

#45 Edited by Steve_C (1757 posts) -

That kind of joke i'd only make with people i'm comfortable with, so yes, you were.
 
Sounds like an overreaction on his part too though.
 
EDIT: Oh, so I slightly misread that. I figured you brought up his weight to begin with. That makes it less bad I suppose, but still, seems a little too tongue in cheek for someone I don't know well. Makes his reaction sound ridiculous though. Even if he was offended he should have kept it to himself.

#46 Posted by mazik765 (2316 posts) -

Maybe he shouldn't be fat? 
 
I honestly don't care if people are fat, but if you're going to get all up in arms every time someone even alludes to your weight, then you should probably do a few sit ups.
 
From the sound of things it was a hardcore overreaction on his part.

#47 Posted by MeetThePyro (335 posts) -
@discost3w said:
" Fatty as a self esteem problem "
lol this^^
#48 Posted by lilman1101 (1106 posts) -
#49 Posted by Black_Raven (1759 posts) -

It was an overreaction on his behalf if you ask me, him bringing up his weight in conversation like that would lead anyone to believe he was laid back  on the issue and making a light hearted joke about it is hardly anything to get offended over.

#50 Posted by JB16 (745 posts) -
@bassboy2100 said:
"  @buzz_killington said:
" It's like this: an ugly guy can complain that his looks, but a better looking guy can't complain about his looks in front of him. Or a dumb guy can complain about his 60% on a test, but a smart guy can't complain about his 89% in front of him. And so on.  So whenever you have the lesser of the two similar problems, don't complain about yours to the guy with the worse problem. "
Exactly, though I feel he did overreact, I wouldn't have said anything even if I was offended. Just like I don't say anything when my skinny girlfriend talks about her weight, while I am overweight. He brought it up as a joke, implying that broaching the topic is not forbidden, and then he clearly took offense. Perhaps he was merely trying to goad you to jump to his defense and claim that he's not fat, he's just "big boned" or some shit.  "
I hate it when people do that, try to insult themselves so they can sucker you into a compliment to boost their self-esteem. Usually it's girls that do that though, not guys.