I had my colon chopped out, or mostly chopped out, in 2010 so I have to walk around with an ileostomy now always feeling awkward. Basically wish I hadn't and had just waited till I got cancer and died instead of having to live with a bag attached to my side. Due to that there have been a couple girls I liked that I didn't do anything with because I didn't want to have to explain it to them, another girl we went out but when she found out I never heard from her again.
For those virgins in here let me tell you the joys of alcohol, it will help you talk to people that you're normally too insecure to talk to. Alcohol is the reason I met a chick on a dance floor who then wanted to leave the club to "fudge my brains out"-thats the polite wording there of what she told me. And we ended up behind the Molly Brown house in Denver doing stuff. I say stuff because we were too hammered to do things normal, but mouths were involved...
If you don't mind explaining, what happened to force you into getting an ileostomy? When I was recovering from a disease that had severely damaged my colon, I know I struggled to have the confidence I once had with others. You worry that people don't want a damaged person or to deal with anything abnormal(or kind of gross), but fortunately, there are people who understand. It's just more difficult. I really feel for what you have to face, as I only suffered through that for a couple years. For the most part, after a few surgeries, I'm now pretty normal on that front. Still, some stuff has to be explained anyway.
I hope you'll continue to grow in your confidence with it. My brother is paralyzed from the waist down, and I imagine dating will be difficult for him if he gets to that age. But for the most part, spending time with others of many different ages with many physical and mental afflictions has taught me that there is hope for all of us. There are people who will still enjoy their time with you and even come to love you regardless of our imperfections. I appreciate you sharing this difficult part of who you are, and I just wanted to encourage you in your continued efforts to move forward as the man you are today.