Posted by artofwar420 (6290 posts) -

A lot of advice on the internet centers around how to achieve your goals, it's all about how to get from point A to point B, and at point B you'll be happy forever after. But what about if while on your way to point B you end up in point C and there's nothing, short of going back in time, to get back to point B? At the face of such a drastic change many of us freeze and panic. Everything we worked for went sideways and now we're stuck in the middle of a lake with no paddle, nor boat, 'cause we didn't fucking plan to be in a lake. But we are in this lake and the best thing to do is assess what you do have. Sure, take a bit of time to wallow in despair, but don't stay too long in this state of mind because night will come soon and you'll get hypothermia.

Now that you got your sobbing done, take a look at your assets. What have you got so far, what skills do you posses? Oh, what's that? You have a wet granola bar, sweet! You're still reasonably warm, and you can swim. Eat that granola bar and start swimming. You're almost to the shore, but a chill stops you. You're cold, wet, and now you yearn for that granola bar. You remember how happy you were when you two were together, then sadness fills your core again because you know the granola bar is already making its transition to poop never to be eaten again. We start to see a pattern form. Going from small victory to heartbreak over and over until you reach that shore. How we process change affects how self aware we are of our situation because often wallowing in nostalgia takes us away from the present and into the past. Remembering your memaw is sweet, but thinking "man, things used to be so good" is not productive.

A positive way to deal with such changes is to accept that life will be full of them, I may be comfortable now, but comfort may not necessarily be a good thing. Comfort makes us unready for the randomness of life; there are just so many factors we simply can't control. We should reset our scales and try to be content when we find ourselves in uncomfortable and new situations, and even go as far as looking for them. This shifts us from a mindset that the point B we so cherished is nothing but a small blip in the distance we'll travel. It makes less sense to focus then on just a point. We'll start to open our eyes and hearts to appreciating the ups and downs of the journey, and by changing our attitude towards change we'll be less stressed out when it comes and thus make be able to move forward more easily.

P.S. Have you guys heard about kids in the sandbox?

#1 Posted by TooWalrus (13203 posts) -

Dude, WHAT is going on around here?

#2 Posted by CaLe (3988 posts) -

Go tell it to the mountain.

#3 Posted by Blomakrans (149 posts) -

This is the post I needed. Please tell us about the kids in the sandbox!

#4 Posted by Everyones_A_Critic (6299 posts) -

Dude, WHAT is going on around here?

Right?? I come here for the naked cartoon pussy, not for a god damn pep talk.

#5 Edited by BisonHero (6532 posts) -

@toowalrus: Giant Bomb's forums are an elaborate numbers station now.

#6 Edited by GunstarRed (5189 posts) -

ALL the games have been delayed to 2015.

#7 Posted by Mister_V (1296 posts) -

42

#8 Posted by AlexanderSheen (5008 posts) -

A fork.

#9 Edited by teaoverlord (206 posts) -

This is the post I needed. Please tell us about the kids in the sandbox!

pls no

#10 Posted by Brendan (7811 posts) -

Er, thanks I guess.

#11 Posted by ZolRoyce (704 posts) -

Dude, WHAT is going on around here?

Right? It's really weird isn't it? Both this and the "Learning to Accept Failure" thread are just... just weird right? I mean there are some deep and meaningful conversations that happen on these here forums but these two threads just feel real spamy from two accounts that from their membership/post status clearly aren't spam accounts. It's odd.

#13 Edited by TheBlue (371 posts) -

Are the kids in the sandbox like Kids in the Hall? Then YES.

#14 Posted by m4r71n2012 (49 posts) -

Are people getting hacked or something? Seems a lot of spam on here lately

#15 Posted by tourgen (4503 posts) -

We need some good games.

#16 Edited by OtakuGamer (1237 posts) -

VIDEO GAMES

#17 Posted by Meptron (1079 posts) -

@zolroyce: Yeah, this does seems like spam. But spam for what exactly??

#18 Posted by BigBoss1911 (2467 posts) -

The whole generation is being delayed into late 2015/ early 2016.

#19 Posted by dudeglove (7859 posts) -

TLOU has the answers.

#20 Posted by Zomgfruitbunnies (792 posts) -

Das deep, bro.