Answer to gay marriage debate

Topic started by Sushbag on June 13, 2009. Last post by HatKing 5 months, 1 week ago.
Post by Sushbag (186 posts) See mini bio

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I've got it right here. Heterosexuals simply need to invent a new synonym word for "marriage," circulate it into common, accepted linguistic usage, and have that word be taken to mean 'a legal union between one male and one female human'. Boom.

This way, normal people have an exclusive term for marriage again, and gays and any other groups pushing for marriage rights can have the word "marriage" forever. The way I understand the debate is that gay people and supporters of gay marriage feel they are being denied a basic right afforded to heterosexuals. The tradition of marriage predates any sort of public tolerance of homosexuality, probably because marriages between male and female couples follows the biological evolution of our species; that is to say it was the accepted idea of two people who wanted to reproduce forming a socially acceptable bond. Given this, I'm not really sure why homosexuals want to be able to be "married" in the traditional sense anyway, since the entire point of it is contrary to their lifestyle.

As you know sexual contact between gay couples amounts to nothing more than pleasurable co-operative masturbation rather than reproduction. So, I don't think the idea of marriage in the traditional sense applies to them. But if the debate is about being able to use certain words to describe your relationship ("Married," "Husband," "Spouse," etc.) then I say the easiest way to solve the debate is to change the words. The problem with not changing the words (and having every civilized culture recognize gay marriages) is that eventually marriage will mean precisely nothing. If there is such a push for gay marriage, then I suppose if I want to marry three horses and a chicken simultaneously, it should be my right to, correct? I suppose then "marriage" may mean, "A union between any number of organisms of any species and sexual orientation, recognized when at least one of them is a rational, intelligent being." But to me that really devalues the word and makes it hard to properly define.

So, again, we can just have different words for different legal unions. One for traditional unions, one for gay unions between two people, and perhaps even several more to describe multiple-partner and multiple-organism unions.

One problem with this solution is that gay people may eventually start rallying for the ability to engage in this new word for traditional marriage, since they could feel alienated and that they are being treated unfairly. But when that happens, heterosexuals can just start the process over again by making another word, staying one step ahead. Thoughts?


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This thread. Why?


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You mean civil union?


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ballsack


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Butt-buddies?


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Scissors Get!


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in b 4 gay rights activists.


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@tekmojo said:
" in b 4 gay rights activists. "
Too late, I posted before you did up there. Maybe another time?


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@Fr0Br0 said:
" Scissors Get! "
unbelievable


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@Snipzor said:
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@tekmojo said:
" in b 4 gay rights activists. "
Too late, I posted before you did up there. Maybe another time? "
i suppose :(


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@Origina1Penguin said:
" You mean civil union? "
That's probably an entirely different thread right there, one that calls into question whether or not marriage (traditional marriage) still applies in the 21st century.


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@Snipzor said:
" Butt-buddies? "
I was just going to say that, but less sarcastically. Personally, I'm a fan of civil unions with all the rights of a marriage. It's 2009, we're used to getting our other rights trampled on. It's time we man up and except that in this case, "separate yet equal" is a perfect compromise.

EDIT: Also, @Fr0Br0 said:
" Scissors Get! "
Let another religious/abortion/gay rights thread die.


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@Fr0Br0 said:
" Scissors Get! "
this thread is over.


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@Brundage said:
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@Fr0Br0 said:
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this thread is over. "
Obviously, because we all knew this was either going to go nowhere, or become so heated. . . it would also go nowhere. Well it wouldn't move two different ways.


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You mean something like a...Civil union maybe?


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gay marriage is for homosexuals


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@Fr0Br0 said:

"Scissors Get!"


Win!



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yey for gay, yey for gay, yay for gay,yay for gay *repeat*


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This.


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@Sushbag:
i like the way you think. how 'bout smarraige; "we're getting smerried" or maybe narraige or parraige


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@Brundage said:
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@Fr0Br0 said:
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this thread is over. "





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@TooWalrus said:
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@Snipzor said:
" Butt-buddies? "
I was just going to say that, but less sarcastically. Personally, I'm a fan of civil unions with all the rights of a marriage. It's 2009, we're used to getting our other rights trampled on. It's time we man up and except that in this case, "separate yet equal" is a perfect compromise.

I hope you realize that in a civil union, for example, if one partner gets rushed to the emergency room, the other can't be in there with him/her, because they're technically not "family".


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@Sushbag: why would you want to give the gays the word 'marriage'... i think the more obvious choice would to give THEM a different word... which in my opinion is what they should do. that way they don't have to screw around with people's religion and they can still have all the benefits they are fighting for.


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First of all, marriage was traditionally not a relationship between a man and a woman, it was a relationship between a young man and an underage girl organized by the parents of the two. The marriage also included mistresses. Secondly biological evolution was never helped by a union between a man and a woman, it was helped by many many unions between many men and many woman, polygamy is actually the most traditional form of marriage (a tribe all fucking together and looking after each other, marriage, adultery and exclusive dating are all quite new things).

Also should a couple not be allowed to get married if one member is infertile or the couple never wants to have kids, would that not be "co-operative masturbation" as you called it?
Your slippery slope argument about marrying animals is also incorrect, first of all slippery slope arguments suck, they only bring irrelevant material to the discussion and argue that people cannot make progress without also using choice. The argument you used about marriage meaning nothing is the equivalent of   "I oppose lowering the drinking age of 21 to 18. this will only lead to further demands to lower it to 16. Then it will be 14 and before we know it our new-borns will be suckled on wine rather than mother's milk"  

The proposed change to the meaning of the word marriage will be that any two consenting human adults will be allowed to be married, so lets focus on this issue because chicken fucking has nothing to do with it.

Also homosexuality somewhat predates marriage. I say somewhat because the word "homosexuality" was invented by man in the late Victorian era (late 1800s), but same sex relationships have been around since before language. Numerous studies have shown that when animals are in heat they will have sex with members of the same sex as well the opposite and dolphins (one of the only other animals to have sex for fun) will also have sex with both genders. The truth is the words homosexual and heterosexual have nothing to with the natural world, they are socially constructed words, Alfred Kinsey's work showed rather than people existing in one of the three categories (gay, bi, straight) they actually exist on a range. Think of it as a line where one side is exclusively homosexual and they other is exclusively heterosexual, the truth is that most people lean towards one side but actually being on the edge is incredibly rare (being on the edge would essentially mean you lack the ability to even recognize members of your own sex's attractiveness e.g. You don't know if John Goodman is uglier or hotter than Daniel Craig).

Marriage is just a social constructed word and it's meanings have changed many times in history (for the good, for a very long time old men would take 14 year olds as their brides and interracial marriages were once not respected). Today we live in society where marriage is about love, unless you're gay. I say we should improve marriage once again.    


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@cdstacker said:
" First of all, marriage was traditionally not a relationship between a man and a woman, it was a relationship between a young man and an underage girl organized by the parents of the two. The marriage also included mistresses. Secondly biological evolution was never helped by a union between a man and a woman, it was helped by many many unions between many men and many woman, polygamy is actually the most traditional form of marriage (a tribe all fucking together and looking after each other, marriage, adultery and exclusive dating are all quite new things).

Also should a couple not be allowed to get married if one member is infertile or the couple never wants to have kids, would that not be "co-operative masturbation" as you called it?
Your slippery slope argument about marrying animals is also incorrect, first of all slippery slope arguments suck, they only bring irrelevant material to the discussion and argue that people cannot make progress without also using choice. The argument you used about marriage meaning nothing is the equivalent of   "I oppose lowering the drinking age of 21 to 18. this will only lead to further demands to lower it to 16. Then it will be 14 and before we know it our new-borns will be suckled on wine rather than mother's milk"   The proposed change to the meaning of the word marriage will be that any two consenting human adults will be allowed to be married, so lets focus on this issue because chicken fucking has nothing to do with it.Also homosexuality somewhat predates marriage. I say somewhat because the word "homosexuality" was invented by man in the late Victorian era (late 1800s), but same sex relationships have been around since before language. Numerous studies have shown that when animals are in heat they will have sex with members of the same sex as well the opposite and dolphins (one of the only other animals to have sex for fun) will also have sex with both genders. The truth is the words homosexual and heterosexual have nothing to with the natural world, they are socially constructed words, Alfred Kinsey's work showed rather than people existing in one of the three categories (gay, bi, straight) they actually exist on a range. Think of it as a line where one side is exclusively homosexual and they other is exclusively heterosexual, the truth is that most people lean towards one side but actually being on the edge is incredibly rare (being on the edge would essentially mean you lack the ability to even recognize members of your own sex's attractiveness e.g. You don't know if John Goodman is uglier or hotter than Daniel Craig). Marriage is just a social constructed word and it's meanings have changed many times in history (for the good, for a very long time old men would take 14 year olds as their brides and interracial marriages were once not respected). Today we live in society where marriage is about love, unless you're gay. I say we should improve marriage once again.     "
You, you are my favourite poster. Ever.


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@cdstacker: Marriage will never be a good thing, there's no way to improve it.


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@Tarsier said:
" @Sushbag: why would you want to give the gays the word 'marriage' "
Because we're not living in the nineteen-fucking-forties anymore and "separate but equal"/denying rights to citizens is blasé for a supposed world superpower that is supposed to be setting an example for the rest of the world?

Also cdstacker makes me wish that voting was still around so I could give him many +s.


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Absofuckinglutely

@iAmJohn

Your avatar is made of cuteness and win.



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@cdstacker said:
" First of all, marriage was traditionally not a relationship between a man and a woman, it was a relationship between a young man and an underage girl organized by the parents of the two. The marriage also included mistresses. Secondly biological evolution was never helped by a union between a man and a woman, it was helped by many many unions between many men and many woman, polygamy is actually the most traditional form of marriage (a tribe all fucking together and looking after each other, marriage, adultery and exclusive dating are all quite new things).

Also should a couple not be allowed to get married if one member is infertile or the couple never wants to have kids, would that not be "co-operative masturbation" as you called it?
Your slippery slope argument about marrying animals is also incorrect, first of all slippery slope arguments suck, they only bring irrelevant material to the discussion and argue that people cannot make progress without also using choice. The argument you used about marriage meaning nothing is the equivalent of   "I oppose lowering the drinking age of 21 to 18. this will only lead to further demands to lower it to 16. Then it will be 14 and before we know it our new-borns will be suckled on wine rather than mother's milk"   The proposed change to the meaning of the word marriage will be that any two consenting human adults will be allowed to be married, so lets focus on this issue because chicken fucking has nothing to do with it.Also homosexuality somewhat predates marriage. I say somewhat because the word "homosexuality" was invented by man in the late Victorian era (late 1800s), but same sex relationships have been around since before language. Numerous studies have shown that when animals are in heat they will have sex with members of the same sex as well the opposite and dolphins (one of the only other animals to have sex for fun) will also have sex with both genders. The truth is the words homosexual and heterosexual have nothing to with the natural world, they are socially constructed words, Alfred Kinsey's work showed rather than people existing in one of the three categories (gay, bi, straight) they actually exist on a range. Think of it as a line where one side is exclusively homosexual and they other is exclusively heterosexual, the truth is that most people lean towards one side but actually being on the edge is incredibly rare (being on the edge would essentially mean you lack the ability to even recognize members of your own sex's attractiveness e.g. You don't know if John Goodman is uglier or hotter than Daniel Craig). Marriage is just a social constructed word and it's meanings have changed many times in history (for the good, for a very long time old men would take 14 year olds as their brides and interracial marriages were once not respected). Today we live in society where marriage is about love, unless you're gay. I say we should improve marriage once again.     "
Good post, here is my rebuttal:

  • I didn't mention arranged marriages where there was potential for underage brides or grooms because it doesn't matter, it's a male and a female, they could either reproduce upon marriage or wait until it was possible to do so.
  • I didn't say biological evolution resulted from many monogamous couples reproducing, maybe I wasn't clear enough about that. I meant that marriage followed the basic evolutionary form of reproduction, males and females engaging in sexual intercourse.
  • The infertile argument, which a lot of people use when there is talk about marriage primarily being about reproduction, is an interesting gray area. I didn't say (and wouldn't ever say) that someone shouldn't be allowed to be married if they knew they were sterile. I wouldn't say that because in the natural world, if you had not enjoyed success in your mating attempts, the solution wasn't to try and mate with a member of the same sex. That's just silly.
  • You can't argue against my slippery slope position about recognizing gay marriage and still be for gay marriage. It's just not logical. You're saying you want to change the way an established norm functions to serve your idea about sexuality, but that you would turn around and deny someone else the same freedom to change that establishment. Hypocritical.
  • I didn't say marriage predates homosexuality, why would I? I said it predates public tolerance.
  • The words heterosexual and homosexual actually do correspond to real, physical implications, I don't understand your argument about these terms not applying to the natural world. With one of the words, the human race survives due to reproduction and evolution. With the other, we go extinct. You're right about saying there is a sexual range most people exist on, that doesn't change the function of human reproductive organs.
  • Marriage is about love? "Love" might simply be a neurological state our brains use to prepare our bodies for an attempt at reproduction, even if some people never actually do so. Again, gay sex is masturbation. You can trick your body into thinking it's having sex, and thus have all of those pleasant feelings of  "love" that go along with that, but you're not following biological form.

By the way, I'm not religious, and since marriage has so many religious implications (traditionally, obviously not with gay marriage) I probably won't ever consider it as an option for myself. However, I don't agree with the gay marriage supporters' attempt to fit their sexual orientation into a pre-existing tradition just to be able to say "we're married." What's the point.