Well, shit. You guys are convincing me to watch DS9. I super love TNG, but I'm down for a different flavor of Star Trek.
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I feel like the subject of "drunken mistake" is coming up a lot. I feel getting super drunk is a conscious effort (maybe unless she's never drunk alcohol and she overdid it by accident, but let's not forget the dirtbag who would take advantage of that situation), as well as having sex. Here's why I feel that way.
From my own experience, being black out drunk is not entirely out of your control, I clearly remember the point at which I decided "hey, sure let's do it." But I weighed the options, was I single? Yes. Was she single? Yes. Was she totally for it? Yes. Condoms? Yes. I have been incredibly drunk other times in which I decided not to go ahead and do something stupid. More importantly, the times I have been that drunk were because I, or my buddies were planning on doing that. We had the plan to get shitfaced. I say, it's nary a person who randomly gets put in a situation of being incredibly drunk as well as being surrounded by dudes/chicks in a similar ordeal. Maybe I'm in the minority, but I feel I can retain a certain level of control over where I stick my dick in. The decision begins way before the actual "drunken mistake" happens, is what I'm saying.
Just typing out loud here.
@pandabear: Well, that's what I'm asking. What is YOUR opinion on the matter; it's simply trying to get a conversation going.
I'll give mine then, cheating does involve a breach in trust and like Clonedzero trust is a cornerstone of any relationship, be it romantic or otherwise. Cheating to me says "I think I can get away with it and I don't respect you or your feelings," it's basically a giant fuck you. To put a wrinkle on the subject, what if we were on a "break," it depends what kind of break we were taking. What if there are kids involved? For me, as a guy without kids and in an ongoing relationship, I just see it as a matter of respect. I respect you and your feelings and I hope I get the same respect back. If you wanna bang another dude, go ahead, but let's end it so that I may not have a romantic relationship based on lies.
I emphasized the monogamous aspect of this question because obviously in more complex types of relationships, this becomes an even grayer area. Neither am I talking about fuck buddies.