@Pezen said:
I've come to realize that I spend more time having quality conversations with complete strangers on the internet than I do with real people in real life. People in real life are consumed with the monotony of daily life. Talking to my spouse, coworkers or friends you see more than once a month hardly triggers a conversation worthy of memory. But online I've found plenty of fun and engaging conversations about anything and everything. Why do people in general keep insisting on talking about mundane crap? Some people talk and I can't do anything other than look at a mouth move to form waves in the air but nothing of value is actually reaching my brain. We might as well just make noise for the sake of it. And if deity forbid I bring something up that takes brain power to discuss, it's as if I was throwing a ball against a wall.
Am I the only one in the world tired of "What did you do at work today?" or "How was your weekend?" not to mention "How are you?" -- Work was the same as yesterday. My weekend was uneventful. And I am feeling shit, but you wouldn't ask a follow up question to that last one, would you? Because you don't really want to connect, you just want to be polite. But I've always passionately hated polite talk for the sake of it. It's entirely pointless. Get to a point or shut up and leave my ear alone.
Is someone else feeling like this? Or do you all have friends you actually meet regularly enough that you get some decent conversations in real life that doesn't revolve around monotone bullshit? Do some of you actually enjoy these polite conversations?
It's why the old notion of friendship is true, there's nothing like sharing silence with a real friend. Because a real friend doesn't need to fill the silence with crap to keep the connection.
Granted, you can cherry pick the conversations online, so perhaps there's an element of personal editorial power that goes into making internet conversations more engaging than real life.
This problem is easily solved. Lead a more interesting life/surround yourself with more interesting people and you'll find you have a lot more to talk about to those around you. It's a cycle, internet socialization. The more you do it, the less you are integrating with people in the flesh, the less you do that, the more you have to rely on the internet. People won't say anything that interests you unless you inspire it in them. Real life doesn't have the advantage of having thread titles and sub-reddits for you to browse. It takes more "work" to have an interesting conversation/friendship but it's infinitely more satisfying.
Also, assuming those around you have nothing interesting to bring to the table is incredibly self-centred and immature (I'll take a stab in the dark and assume you're not yet in your twenties).
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