Man, that's a tough question. My mind immediately went to pause-able strategy type games that I've been playing a ton of lately, like Cities Skylines or Banished, cause I never do any reading in those now a days, but it could be tricky while trying to learn the functions of different buildings. Then again I learned most of that stuff by watching people play on Youtube, so that may be able to get you over the hump.
You may also have some luck with slower moving top down dual-joystick shooters like those Lara Croft games or Renegade Ops. Because stuff is happening all over the screen, I find they rely more on general awareness than any precise bullet-hell type dodging. Other than that, adventure games or puzzle games without text could be fruitful, have you tried Puzzle Quest?