darkedhunter

Yo, I'm bi. I thought the "game" was super interesting. I think it is always important to bring up the "sexuality is a spectrum" argument when discussing sexuality. I personally believe that the very this idea may make people uncomfortable, but it really is imperative to understanding what bisexual people feel. Unfortunately, as the game stated, bisexuals are often on the receiving end of a lot of prejudice in the LBGT community. This can quite possibly be a result of us having more of a choice in what relationships we pursue. If I was gay, I'd be pretty pissed if someone had more of a "decision" than I did. I personally have been in a straight relationship for a while. Does that mean I am straight or gay and in denial? No. It ebbs and flows. When i'm single, one day i can totally be crushing on a guy, and the next I can feel like I need sexual relations with a girl. And a lot of people don't really understand or accept that. It's not constant in the same ways other sexualities are. For me (other bisexuals mileage may vary) the only constant thing is that things are constantly in flux. It's also confusing as fuck. The bright side is that whenever I'm in a relationship I am pretty locked down. Since I've been in my current relationship I've not really felt the need to be with anyone other than my partner. I think another part of the prejudice against bisexuals constructs this image that we need to have sexual relations with everyone all the time, and are very likely to cheat because of it. It's complicated. I did a terrible job explaining it.

What do I do if I'm vegetarian?

You are all right. Minus the "kill her" advocates (you're wrong but your hearts in the right place).

It was a bad way to handle the situation. My communication was inappropriate and I acted like a tool. My boss is fairly forgiving (someone did heroin in the bathroom once and did not get fired) so things will most likely improve from here. I've learned a lot about workplace etiquette and how to treat people in general from this whole debacle, and I feel like a better employee and person for it.

Thanks for the honesty and advice Giantbomb community. It was hard, but I appreciate it.

@Karass: Just to clarify, the email was sent to me and another coworker. I did not leave faucets off or whatnot. And I will admit that there are other things contributing to my anger. There are documents on the office computer where she bashes people who choose to use storage facilities because they are "cluttering up their lives and wasting money." Further, I have covered two 9 hour shifts for her in the last 2 weeks, and have not got so much as a "thanks." I already mentioned that she makes more 50% more than me despite having less responsibilities. Finally there are the mistakes that she makes and never owns up to. It's all very frustrating.

And yes I know this is petty and immature. =( That partially the reason I feel so fucking awful about it.

Edit: Any censored words were names.

@stryker1121 said:

@darkedhunter said:

Should I post what I sent her here just for some perspective?

No. Don't give it a public forum at this point. Water under the bridge.

I really shouldn't have. Sorry. I just, I don't know how to handle dealing with it. =/

Blah, here is the whole 4 emails. I feel as though I must purge it like a poison from my body. I'm not arguing for me, again I feel terrible.

Her: "just a reminder, it’s going to be in the 30’s during the night this week so before leaving, please turn the faucets on a slow trickle. I came in this am and they weren’t on and luckily there were no issues. Before I leave today, they will be turned on."

Me:"The weather forecast put the lows in the low 40s for Sunday night Monday morning. I'm not huge on wasting water. Please check the forecast before assuming they need to be turned on. Also, please don't have C***** open doors for you during NMS hours when you are in the office (it can put her in situations she is not equipped to handle), that is your job."

Her:"Thanks for the response. I did check the 7 day forecast and It showed lows in the upper 20’s and low to mid thirties and I didn’t want to take a chance on the pipes freezing as I know what kind of expense that can lead to.

I was on the phone with Dave about another issue when I asked C***** to open the door in D so a customer could get in. I wasn’t aware that she isn’t suppose to open the doors or I wouldn’t have asked her. I thought we were all crossed trained on that. I’ll clarify with J*****."

Me:"Thank you for checking the forecast. Being aware is the best way to safeguard against unnecessary costs. In regards to training, you don't have to clarify anything with J*****, you can just ask the other employees. I'm sure C******* is capable of going to D section (she has had the NMS training), but generally when you are in the office you should be attending to customers, that is why you are there. I'm sure Dave would understand as well. Furthermore, please don't leave F section locked from the outside overnight. It's a security issue. Also, leaving the lights on in M section and A section overnight is also something that should not happen. Please be mindful."

All those points are incredibly fair. I'm not going to try to argue or justify sending those emails as right, as that would be pretty ridiculous. I never see anyone at the office by the way, when I work I'm alone for the nine hours I am there. I would have probably been more up front to the co-worker if I saw her more than one every couple of months.

I do regret what I did, it was a "I just snapped" kind of moment. I swear I normally don't lose my cool like that. It's possible that I was more likely to do what I did because the other employees and myself have been complaining about the person I sent the emails too since she arrived at the office. I don't really know...

I do feel disappointed that the situation ended up the way it did. Should I post what I sent her here just for some perspective?

So today at work, I got in trouble for the first time at my new job. I've worked at a storage facility for about 6 months, and everything has been fairly smooth so far. Unfortunatly, about three months ago my boss hired an older lady (50ish) to work here as well. I cannot STAND her. She, by virtue of being older, makes 50% more than me but has less responsibilities and does less. She also believes that because she is older, she is in charge.

She has this habit of sending emails pointing out painfully obvious things. Yesterday she emailed all the younger employees, "just a reminder, it’s going to be in the 30’s during the night this week so before leaving, please turn the faucets on a slow trickle. I came in this am and they weren’t on and luckily there were no issues. Before I leave today, they will be turned on." Not too bad right? Maybe, except for this exact warning is taped on the monitor of the computer. This has happened multiple times, and I kinda snapped last night. I sent a pretty mean spirited email, pointing out a few of the mistakes she has made in the past week in a fairly callous manner. She emailed me back this morning making up excuses, but I sent another rather harsh email back (worth noting that I didn't call her out as a person or swear at her, I just kinda pointed out some mistakes she been making. So she should not really exercise so much authority).

I guess it kinda took me by surprise that she forwarded the whole conversation our boss. The boss said we need to have a "serious chat" and she called me on my cell phone. She gave me a long lecture about how disappointed she was in me, and how I need to learn how to act in the business world. Of course she was right, but I still cannot stand what my co-worker is doing, and I'm having some trouble.

I feel pretty shitty. Should I be? First time really getting in trouble at a job.... I'm not sure how I should feel. Have you guys ever gotten in trouble at work like this? Does it happen frequently? I want to know...

Weight gain can be a common side affect of many medications, anything from antidepressants and antipsychotics to physical sedatives. If you are combating mental illness, I wish you the best, friend. There is nothing worse than battling your own thoughts.

This thread also makes me uncomfortable. =/