My daughter just turned 5 and she has similar problems with kinect. It is frustrating watching them fumble with the menus. I found if I just walk away and let her make mistakes with the menus, she'll call me over, I'll fix it for her or tell her what's wrong, then I'll WALK AWAY again. This way she get's to spend 2-3 minutes messing it up without me knowing and getting frustrated. Then she calls me over, I explain it and move on.