Is thanking your friends weird?

Is it weird to want to really show your appreciation towards friends for helping you in life? I went through an incredibly rough breakup lately, and I was having a real struggle just getting by. Everything felt like the end of the world, and I became incredibly depressed.

I've got a couple of friends (a literal couple) that live together across the side of the country. They invited me down for a week, and not only did they really look after me, and kept me distracted, but they've made an active attempt to really pick me back up since my breakdown, calling me every day on skype and letting me know that I shouldn't keep blaming myself for things.

I wrote a letter for them earlier today, just kind of outlining how I really appreciate their friendship, and how they really went out of their way to help me out, when they didn't have to. Should I send it, or is it too weird to do things like that? It's just that friendship means a lot to me, and I want them to know.

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Posted by Fallen189

Is it weird to want to really show your appreciation towards friends for helping you in life? I went through an incredibly rough breakup lately, and I was having a real struggle just getting by. Everything felt like the end of the world, and I became incredibly depressed.

I've got a couple of friends (a literal couple) that live together across the side of the country. They invited me down for a week, and not only did they really look after me, and kept me distracted, but they've made an active attempt to really pick me back up since my breakdown, calling me every day on skype and letting me know that I shouldn't keep blaming myself for things.

I wrote a letter for them earlier today, just kind of outlining how I really appreciate their friendship, and how they really went out of their way to help me out, when they didn't have to. Should I send it, or is it too weird to do things like that? It's just that friendship means a lot to me, and I want them to know.

Posted by mpgeist

Absolutely send it, don't be silly.

Posted by klimdeeni

that's not weird at all. send it

Edited by NMC2008

Nope, people like to be thanked, it shows appreciation and if you love your friends they deserve the most appreciation. Send the letter.

Posted by sonicrift

Yes. Thank them. If you feel weird doing it, do it with a jokey ecard or something. I think that's what those things exist for...

When you say you wrote a letter, do you mean to send it in the mail? Everyone likes getting stuff in the mail that isn't a bill.

Posted by TEHMAXXORZ

No, it's pretty much one of those things that are normal, regardless of what you think normal is.

Posted by Jolt92

That's okay. Just don't make it too long wided I guess.

Edited by Jeust

send it :)

Your friends will appreciate it. I like showing my fondness, as like you said your friends didn't need to help but they did something great anyway.

Posted by Fallen189

@sonicrift said:

Yes. Thank them. If you feel weird doing it, do it with a jokey ecard or something. I think that's what those things exist for...

When you say you wrote a letter, do you mean to send it in the mail? Everyone likes getting stuff in the mail that isn't a bill.

Yeah, I figured it was the best way to show my appreciation- by putting in that effort

Posted by JasonR86

No.

Posted by SMTDante89

I don't think there's anything weird about that at all. It shows you really appreciate what they've done for you, and I would think the fact that you sent them a letter instead of sending an e-mail, using Skype or some form of social media further shows how much you appreciate them.

Posted by Jams

It would be worse if you didn't send it. They'll probably feel used and unappreciated if you don't. I feel like a fucking chump for all the times I've helped my friends with money troubles and letting them stay with me. They've never paid me back or even said thanks for helping them and it's made me sour towards friends ever since.

Posted by CrazyBagMan

People enjoy helping friends, but they enjoy it even more when they can see it's appreciated.

Posted by CookieMonster

Send it, definitely.

Posted by FateOfNever

I don't think it's weird at all. They may just end up saying something like "well that's what friends are for so it's not a big deal" or whatever, but I still think it's important to let friends know that you appreciate what they've done for you and don't think it's weird or awkward in the slightest. Not only does it let you let them know how much you appreciate who they are and what they've done for you, which can make you feel good, but it lets them know that what they're doing is, in fact, having an impact on your current situation and that their efforts aren't wasted/not enough/not working.

So I say send the letter.

Posted by jayjonesjunior

yes.

Posted by Mesoian

@Fallen189 said:

Is it weird to want to really show your appreciation towards friends for helping you in life? I went through an incredibly rough breakup lately, and I was having a real struggle just getting by. Everything felt like the end of the world, and I became incredibly depressed.

I've got a couple of friends (a literal couple) that live together across the side of the country. They invited me down for a week, and not only did they really look after me, and kept me distracted, but they've made an active attempt to really pick me back up since my breakdown, calling me every day on skype and letting me know that I shouldn't keep blaming myself for things.

I wrote a letter for them earlier today, just kind of outlining how I really appreciate their friendship, and how they really went out of their way to help me out, when they didn't have to. Should I send it, or is it too weird to do things like that? It's just that friendship means a lot to me, and I want them to know.

Totally, let them know you appreciate them. It goes a long way.

Posted by InternetCrab

Send it, that isn't weird at all.

Posted by Bollard

Send it already!

Posted by Hockeymask27

No. Send it.

Posted by Strife777

Dude, of course it's not weird. We never say those things enough, it's important to let people know.

Posted by BrockNRolla

Sounds great. I'm sure they would like to know they helped.

Posted by deskp

send it, both you and your friends sound to be the same type of people

Posted by Fallen189

Thanks everyone, you're all swell.

Will throw it in the postbox later. Thank God I got some stamps before the price went up! £3.60 for 6? That's bloody mental

Posted by natetodamax

Nothing wrong with thanking people, especially your friends.

Posted by Cloudenvy

I think it's sweet! I feel like people should do such things more often!

Posted by Tim_the_Corsair

Wanking your friends is completely natur...


Oh whoops, I misread the title.

Seriously, though, send it. Good friends are as rare as good partners, and should be treated much the same (barring the sex, unless you're all into that)

Posted by DonutFever

Duder, it's okay. Send it.

Posted by KillyDarko

Of course it's not weird, it's actually a really nice gesture and I'm sure they'll appreciate it and value your friendship even more for it. Send it :)

Posted by NegativeCero

Dude, send the letter. They will feel glad that they were able to help you out regardless, but it never hurts showing your appreciation for them.

Posted by the_OFFICIAL_jAPanese_teaBAG

Send it motherfucker

Posted by Video_Game_King

I sure as hell wouldn't know.

Posted by buzz_clik

Nope, not weird. At the very least it's the polite thing to do, but at its core it's exactly the kind of exchange that real friends should have.

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Posted by Cube

No, that's a nice thing to do.

Posted by Jay444111

I always say thank you for any favors that are done for me by someone else. ALWAYS.

I also tend to thank people for food they have bought that everyone in the house can eat. I feel... wrong if I don't thank someone for food even when I have bought it with my own money.

Posted by StarvingGamer

It's a bit weird that you think it might be weird.

Posted by DarthOrange

Dude don't be an asshole and just send the letter. Why the hell didn't you thank them in person though? That's the weird part.

Posted by PenguinDust

What does it say about modern society when showing gratitude is considered awkward? It used to be the honorable thing to do.

Posted by SeriouslyNow

Not is it not weird that you want to thank them in written form but it's also even less weird that you feel confused to ask if you should.

I'm not kidding. This is what a psychologist would refer to as being well adjusted.

Posted by MindChamber

The only thing weird about this, is that you thought it was weird to do so.

but really I dont blame you just your generation

Break the trend, show some appreciation

Posted by rockyhorrorgerri

Awe send it, It's be amazing if someone wrote me a heartfelt letter for something I did :)

Posted by SpartanAmbrose

Of course you should send it!

Posted by kgb0515

I agree. Send it. Good friends never expect a thank you for stuff like that, but it's always awesome when you get one. Makes you feel appreciated. Even if you decide to take their advice and do the opposite of what they say, they will always remember that you thanked them for their help.

Posted by Gamer_152

Of course not, your friends will probably be very happy to see that you truly value their help.

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Posted by VipeR

Send it! The best thing you can do for them is letting them know that you appreciate them!

Imagine if you were in their shoes, you'd like you got the letter!

Posted by Fallen189

I did send it by the way. I was a bit embarassed because I really depended on them when I hit rock bottom, and I just had to let them know, and have proof, that they really saved my life, in a lot of ways.

Posted by Demoskinos

Fuck yeah dude show em how you feel no need to be embarrassed. I've got a friend that I damn near consider family. We've been through a lot. Good friends are hard to come by.