You know that Beatles song "all you need is love"? Well the Beatles were wrong! If love is truly all you have, your relationship isn't going to last long living out of a cardboard box in an alley way. Women (and men!) do care about financial stability. It really makes a difference. Also, having a job implies that you are more successful than those without a job. Women, like most rational people, are drawn to those who are successful. It's not money itself that makes men "sexier" - it's that someone with a job is seen as being more responsible, hardworking and the relationship is more likely to be successful in the long run. Honestly, if you were a woman, wouldn't you look for a successful man? If I were a woman, I would. It wouldn't be the only factor, but it would be A factor. Marrying the penniless poet with a beautiful soul might seem like a good idea, but when you're 45, still penniless, with children to support, facing foreclosure on your home and unable to enjoy much of anything in life due to financial stress, the relationship will quickly sour.
Both Men and Women have certain things they look for when they want to choose a partner. I've never had a problem with this. Most (not all!) men want a beautiful, kind woman who cares for them. Most (not all!) women want a tall handsome, strong, kind man who is someone they can respect. That's fine. I've never had any issues with women wanting certain things from their partners. Both Men and Women bemoan the fact that the other side does have certain criteria. Women constantly complain that men are "only interested in looks" whereas men constantly complain that women are "only interested" in money or success or height (I've had women say to me, point blank, that I am simply too short for them to date. And that's fine! They want a tall partner, and god speed in their search for one! I have no bitterness towards them - they have a right to desire what they desire).
As with many things, attraction is often multifaceted and complex. But everyone has a right to desire what they desire in a partner.