#NotRightForAlyssa

Is there anything that spreads hate, fear, and lies like the Internet? (Insert your Fox News / Huffington Post jokes here).

I’m just amazed at the number of people who are upset at Alyssa Bereznak. The way people are treating her is just wrong. Yes, she was wrong to write a blog about her date, but is #NotRightForAlyssa the appropriate response?

We all have our preferences for dating someone be it: blondes, brunettes, redheads, old, young, smart, dumb, thin, fat, conservative, liberal, religious, completion or whole host of other characteristics. Not dating someone because they play Magic is just as inane as not dating someone because they wear glasses. She is still a human being, and the way some people on the Internet are treating her is just abhorrent. What ever happened to treating people the way you want to be treated?

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Posted by l4wd0g

Is there anything that spreads hate, fear, and lies like the Internet? (Insert your Fox News / Huffington Post jokes here).

I’m just amazed at the number of people who are upset at Alyssa Bereznak. The way people are treating her is just wrong. Yes, she was wrong to write a blog about her date, but is #NotRightForAlyssa the appropriate response?

We all have our preferences for dating someone be it: blondes, brunettes, redheads, old, young, smart, dumb, thin, fat, conservative, liberal, religious, completion or whole host of other characteristics. Not dating someone because they play Magic is just as inane as not dating someone because they wear glasses. She is still a human being, and the way some people on the Internet are treating her is just abhorrent. What ever happened to treating people the way you want to be treated?

Edited by MattyFTM

It's not that she didn't want to date someone who was the world champion of Magic the Gathering that is so bad. She is entitled to date whoever she wants, and if she doesn't want to date someone like that, then that's her choice. We do all have preferences when it comes to people we date, and I can totally understand why someone wouldn't be attracted to a geek.

What is wrong is that she tried to publicly humiliate him by writing that article. She made his private life very, very public. She didn't change details to hide his identity. She didn't do it in a sensitive way. She went out there and posted an article that was sure to cause him a great deal of embarrassment. And why? For pageviews. She did it to get a big fat pay cheque from all the pageviews her article got. The way she treated him was abhorrent, and while the #NotRightForAlyssa stuff is dumb and stupid and I certainly wouldn't do it myself, I can totally understand why the internet are reacting in such a way.

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Posted by MrKlorox

#littlemorecontextplz

Posted by hedfone

@MrKlorox said:

#littlemorecontextplz

#this

Posted by nomorehalfmeasuresdoctor

@MattyFTM: I agree with everything you said. How would she feel if someone dated her picked apart her interests/life and than posted an article on the internet for everyone to see. It was rude and uncalled for and I don't see what in the world would make her do that unless it really was just for her career.

Posted by Pezen

What's the actual article? I found one on gizmondo if that's the one, and honestly I don't see the big dealif so.

Edited by mnzy

#whoisthat

Posted by 9cupsoftea

Some woman dated a dude who she thought was a normal, nice guy - but it turned out he was a disgusting magic the gathering player and rightly wrote an article in gizmodo (which she is an editor of, fine woman) talking about how these disgusting people are 'infiltrating' okcupid and ruining it for the normals.

Posted by MattyFTM

For those of you who aren't familiar with the story, Alyssa Bereznak wrote this article on gizmondo (I think it has since been edited a little, but the core sentiment remains) of the article is about her dates with Jon Finkel, a former world champion of Magic the Gathering. She basically talks about how disgusted she was that he didn't disclose this beforehand and whatnot. People have since been using the hashtag #NotRightForAlyssa on twitter as a joke stating examples of people who she wouldn't want to date.

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Posted by Weltal

@l4wd0g said:

I’m just amazed at the number of people who are upset at Alyssa Bereznak. The way people are treating her is just wrong. Yes, she was wrong to write a blog about her date, but is #NotRightForAlyssa the appropriate response?

The two seem kinda comparable as far as the severity of the actions taken. Really it seems like it's nothing if not exactly appropriate.

Posted by AngelN7

A Gawker editor doing an article with a cheap "controversial" tittle to get them page views?! this is outrageous fuck Gawker editors (Kotatu, Gizmodo Im trowing all of them in there), and about the article that was totally unnecesary , she should´ve kept that for herself or her personal Blog (facebook whatever) posting that in a broad Blog like gizmodo was a bitch move so I can´t feel simpathy for anyone like that.

Posted by Bwast
@9cupsoftea said:
Some woman dated a dude who she thought was a normal, nice guy - but it turned out he was a disgusting magic the gathering player and rightly wrote an article in gizmodo (which she is an editor of, fine woman) talking about how these disgusting people are 'infiltrating' okcupid and ruining it for the normals.
Hollywood movie inbound. Jon Finkel played by Michael Berryman. Alyssa Berzerawqkask played by Jessica Alba. Not to spoil the ending but Jon Finkel tries to rape our intrepid heroine with a huge dildo made of Magic cards but is saved at the last minute by none other than Leonardo DiCaprio(playing himself). It's faithful to the original story and has an important message for young women: Don't talk to nerds. 
 
Seriously though, people need to take a deep breath. It's going to be alright. She didn't kill your dog or rape your mailbox, she's just an idiot. Ignore her and move on.
Posted by Brodehouse

Aw this seemed like it had the potential to get lulzy, but it's just kind of eh.

Posted by Mr_Skeleton

I think she is s shitty person but aside from that I don't care, I'm not going online in order to hate her.

Posted by playastation

I clicked into this thread because my ex girlfriend's name is Alyssa. I am leaving now.

Posted by PenguinDust

I read the article as it sits now on Gizmondo and it seems like clumsy satire to me.  I don't know how anyone could get bent out of shape over it, but it might have been different in the original post.

Posted by wolf_blitzer85

Sounds like the dude dodged a bullet.

Posted by Oldirtybearon

The fact that she can be so judgmental when she's so damn ugly frightens me.

Posted by Mirado

@Bwast said:

Seriously though, people need to take a deep breath. It's going to be alright. She didn't kill your dog or rape your mailbox, she's just an idiot. Ignore her and move on.

Someone did! And if not her, then who else?

Posted by Example1013

Petty bitch posts petty article on the internet, over-sensitive nerds outraged. More at 11.

Posted by wefwefasdf

@KingWilly said:

The fact that she can be so judgmental when she's so damn ugly frightens me.

I'll probably get slaughtered for saying this, but oh well... A lot of girls that I've met have been raised and treated like they're princesses. So, when they get older, their standards and attitude reflect that.

Posted by benjaebe
@Example1013 said:

Petty bitch posts petty article on the internet, over-sensitive nerds outraged. More at 11.

Yup. She nerd-baited everyone pretty hard and she's laughing all the way to the bank, since Gawker writers get paid for hits.
Posted by Rawrnosaurous

It's a Gawker blog, people if it's not that woman trying to gain page views by being a bitch it's Tim Rogers.
 
and I fucking hate Tim Rogers.

Posted by Bocam

And again Adachi is proven right, women are all just a bunch of Bitches and Whores. Because I think like this I'm #NotRightForAlyssa

Posted by CL60
@benjaebe said:
@Example1013 said:

Petty bitch posts petty article on the internet, over-sensitive nerds outraged. More at 11.

Yup. She nerd-baited everyone pretty hard and she's laughing all the way to the bank, since Gawker writers get paid for hits.
Is she even getting paid? She's an intern.
Posted by Rawrnosaurous
@CL60: Interns at a gawker site don't get paid.
Posted by benjaebe
@CL60 said:
@benjaebe said:
@Example1013 said:

Petty bitch posts petty article on the internet, over-sensitive nerds outraged. More at 11.

Yup. She nerd-baited everyone pretty hard and she's laughing all the way to the bank, since Gawker writers get paid for hits.
Is she even getting paid? She's an intern.
Was she interning? A Forbes article I read claims that she was a freelancer. I mean, US law says that interns have to be compensated with academic credit or pay, but I know from personal experience interning at a newspaper that no one really pays attention to that law anyway.
Posted by CL60
@benjaebe said:
@CL60 said:
@benjaebe said:
@Example1013 said:

Petty bitch posts petty article on the internet, over-sensitive nerds outraged. More at 11.

Yup. She nerd-baited everyone pretty hard and she's laughing all the way to the bank, since Gawker writers get paid for hits.
Is she even getting paid? She's an intern.
Was she interning? A Forbes article I read claims that she was a freelancer. I mean, US law says that interns have to be compensated with academic credit or pay, but I know from personal experience interning at a newspaper that no one really pays attention to that law anyway.
Yes she was an intern. Her twitter says  
 
" NYU grad student. Former  @ Gizmodo intern. Forever suspended from the food coop." 
 
And her latest tweet says  @ gizmodo didn't fire me. my internship ended friday. sorry to disappoint you all.
Posted by benjaebe
@CL60 said: 
Yes she was an intern. Her twitter says  
 
" NYU grad student. Former  @ Gizmodo intern. Forever suspended from the food coop." 
 
And her latest tweet says  @ gizmodo didn't fire me. my internship ended friday. sorry to disappoint you all.
Geez, so she dragged her name through the mud and all that for college credit? Man, that's gotta be depressing.
Posted by Manhattan_Project

FYI the Gizmodo article up now has been edited.

Posted by Branthog

Of course she deserves the hate she's getting. Unlike the guy she is naming and shaming permanently on the internet in front of millions of people for *gasp* having a past-time that she's uptight and judgmental about, she actually did something very low and hurtful. How would you feel if someone tore you apart for absolutely no meaningful reason on a site with traffic in the tens of millions?

The guy spent his time taking her out, paid for the date, was otherwise a decent and seemingly nice person except for enjoying a game she was a prig about and he's rewarded by being treated like something short of a child molester in some internet chick's blog. Because he's a huge nerd, apparently. (Because blogging for a tech site and searching the internet for dates is totally not nerdy, I guess?).

Man, I have dated some really awful women in my life time. Not just women who were annoying or vain or had little things I didn't like about them. Actual awful human beings. And yet, I have the decency not to air their dirt forever on the internet for a few hits. Even the worst of them don't deserve to be torn to bits online like that. In fact, I suspect that if the sexes were reversed here, people would be calling the guy out for being some sort of misogynist or committing a "hate crime" for treating some poor woman like that on the internet, who was so kind as to let him take her out and pay for her night at dinner and a show.

And now, we're calling people out for calling someone out for - in addition to genera shitty website linkbait content - being a pretty awful human being? It's deserved. It's fair. The only unfortunate thing is that the response to it isn't going to result in anyone thinking twice about being such complete asshole in public, but is instead going to serve as an example of getting lots of traffic next time someone wants to bait an audience (I never go to gizmodo or any of their family of shitty sites, so it clearly worked). Even worse, this person is likely to be rewarded for being a pretty loathsome human being by getting a job out of their infamous internet celebrity generated at that dude's expense.

I mean, really, an internet blogger for a gadget site who finds her dates on the internet judging someone for playing Magic: The Gathering is like me (a fairly avid video gamer) judging a girl because she has an LOTR tattoo. Don't nerds and geeks have enough shit to deal with from the rest of the world without treating each other like shit? God damn.

Posted by GunslingerPanda

She seems very shallow, and I don't care.

Posted by Hats

why cant this just stay on reddit :/

Posted by oatz

If I had over $500K in Magic winnings then I'd make damn sure my standards were a little higher than that.

Posted by ThePickle

This is important how?

Posted by TeflonBilly

I wish her ill

Edited by BraveToaster

What the fuck are you talking about? Who the hell is Alyssa? 
 
Edit: Oh, she's a bitch.

Posted by TeflonBilly
@Axxol said:
What the fuck are you talking about? Who the hell is Alyssa?  Edit: Oh, she's a bitch.
Nah, she's a 
 
  
Posted by TheJohn
Edited by Do_The_Manta_Ray

@Branthog: God knows I have fantasies regarding encountering a woman with "Speak 'Friend' And Enter" tattoed in elvish on her lower belly. On a more serious note, mind; you're unfortunately right. In one deft blow to another's character, she's established for herself a reknown that's not likely to be easily forgotten. And the fact that we are even discussing this on a gaming-site only goes to prove how wide-spread the matter is. The truly tragic thing, in my opinion, isn't that some man's reputation was slandered, despite the fact that he seemed like a nice guy, and treated her fairly; what's truly disturbing is that her post racked up as many views as it did.

Naturally, the internet is in an uproar, screaming for her blood, her sweat, and her head on a platter; but I feel this to be a very expected reaction, rather than an honest one. Most of the people who went to that site enjoyed the article, I've no doubt. Hell, the editors approved it before it was posted and they'd certainly already considered the fact that this could be considered a court-case of slander. They understand that their readers want this sort of thing, as it makes them feel empowered to know that another person can be so easily brought down. The woman's a bitch, no doubt about it. But what's it say about all the people who came to read her articles and enjoyed it?

I just hope that she won't be setting an example that others will follow, which at the moment is a danger that just might come to pass, seeing how much screen-time she's getting. I fear for an overload of teenagers and want-to-be celebrities popping up and taking their frustrations out by publicly humiliating others in the hopes that it'll garner them a fragment of the same attention she's recieving. Very much like in the old Papal state, all you need is a pretense.

Posted by nemt

#alyssawho?

Posted by Vinny_Says

Wait, she wrote the article and kept the names and all that? Not cool.

Posted by nemt

She's bashing nerds - on Gizmondo?

She knows she's the away team in that game, right?

Edited by believer258
@KingWilly said:

The fact that she can be so judgmental when she's so damn ugly frightens me.

The fact that she can be so prejudiced against a nerd when she writes articles for a popular GADGET site... doesn't really frighten me but it does piss me off. As overused as this phrase is, it's the pot calling the kettle black.  
 
Seriously, has no one noticed this fucking hypocrisy? 
 
EDIT: Also, I've never seen a picture of her. Why is she ugly? Overweight? Wrinkly? Bland?
Posted by nemt

I bet she's got glasses and a ponytail.