I'll jump in on this. Why not. I am a Christian but I have several atheist/agnostic friends... so at ease.
First off, I am sorry for your losses. A couple of years ago I had experienced a series of losses around me so I understand that you can start to that WTF feeling. Introspection is totally healthy and asking questions about life is also really good. Take a walk through a nursing home and you can get the reality check that we all die at some point in time. It is an inevitability not an option.
There really are two parts when thinking about death. What do I think about (deal with) the death of others, and what do I think about my own death? Beliefs aside the most that any person can do is put the simple fact into perspective - I'm still alive. What do I do with my life? Actually, I think Gandalf said it best when he told Frodo, "All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us."
I actually really appreciate when I stop to think about death because it puts things into a real perspective. I want to do this, this, this and this with my life. I better get off my butt and do it. Or maybe take a little more risk. Why not travel? Why not ask that person out? Why not learn how to ski? The answer to that last one is because I don't like cold snowy mountains and I'm apparently not that coordinated. Once was enough.
But you get my point. The idea is to take a totally sucky situation and turn it into a positive. Grandma is gone but I am still here. What am I going to do with my life? If we don't have moments like those now and again we become complacent, stagnant, and bored.
Keep and cherish the memories you have with the person you lost. Allow yourself some time to grieve. But also make sure you focus on yourself as well. And that is WAY more deep than anything I've written on GiantBomb before but I suppose it is good to talk about something other than games now and again.
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