I'm a crowdfunding researcher so I just have to give a few points to this...
By the way, nice blog. It made me think.
With Kickstarter and other crowdfunding sites/companies there are rules in place for funding ANY project. When a user funds a game, the project's owner sets what the "goodies" are when they fund the game, however, these users do not become "stakeholders" or even part of the staff. Let's say you surf around and found a blog you really like. Then you see a "donate to keep this blog running" button and since you like the blog so much or believe it has potential, you decide to donate. Do you then communicate to the editor of the blog telling them what to write, how to write it, and when to write cause you "contributed" to the blog? Of course not. You're just helping someone out. So the same applies with funding a game via crowdfunding.
People are putting too much into this. It's simply individuals who think something sounds cool enough to donate money. That's how charities work. When the charity doesn't exist anymore or you might hear news of them doing something foul, you don't go sue for your money back. You suck it up and move on. If you can't bare to be apart from your money then don't give it away.
Also, on Kickstarter specifically, one of the rules in place is a time limit. Each project has a certain time to obtain funds for the project. If they do not make the amount they signed the project up for, ALL THE MONEY that was funded goes back into the user's account. So no harm no foul.
It is true that this generation of Gamers have a lot of entitlement where it shouldn't be. I would say about this is that if you are so worried about where your money is going then I suggest you stop buying the things that give you worry. It's really simple. We all have choices. But if you choose, then don't complain about your decision too. In my case, I try not to buy launch games because I ended up buying games that weren't worth what I paid for. My solution is to wait a few months until price goes down. But you don't see me signing any petitions or complaining everyday how this game and that game sucks. It's all a "gamble".
Thanks for reading, sorry it was so long. ^_^