If a girl rubs your leg... you run away?

I was out at a party in a bar. I was hitting it off with a girl. I bought her a drink. She was a little drunk. She was all over me, rubbing my leg. Her place was around the corner.

You know what I did next? I left. To go to a friend's house and play board games. True story.

Why did I do that? Why? I do a lot of strange things which I don't fully understand, but this truly takes the cake. The job is halfway done. And something stops me. Maybe she's too drunk. Maybe I know it's just lust. Maybe it's too soon. But why should that matter?? I'm a hot-blooded male created to stab everything that moves with my... handle of power ? Why would I stop myself from doing the inevitable? I didn't get her number, will probably never see her again.

Why do I keep myself miserable. And usually I know my primal purpose and why I've done such a thing, but in this case, I have no idea why. It's not like I'd have been doing anything wrong. I just said "Done" and walked off. Why? Maybe deep down I knew I'd probably have screwed it up anyways.

I didn't even ENJOY myself that much at my friend's house. It all makes little sense. It's safe to say I'm a tortured soul. I try to do everything right and I'm miserable. Even when I'm not doing anything wrong, I feel like I am and deny myself.

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Posted by SpawnMan

I was out at a party in a bar. I was hitting it off with a girl. I bought her a drink. She was a little drunk. She was all over me, rubbing my leg. Her place was around the corner.

You know what I did next? I left. To go to a friend's house and play board games. True story.

Why did I do that? Why? I do a lot of strange things which I don't fully understand, but this truly takes the cake. The job is halfway done. And something stops me. Maybe she's too drunk. Maybe I know it's just lust. Maybe it's too soon. But why should that matter?? I'm a hot-blooded male created to stab everything that moves with my... handle of power ? Why would I stop myself from doing the inevitable? I didn't get her number, will probably never see her again.

Why do I keep myself miserable. And usually I know my primal purpose and why I've done such a thing, but in this case, I have no idea why. It's not like I'd have been doing anything wrong. I just said "Done" and walked off. Why? Maybe deep down I knew I'd probably have screwed it up anyways.

I didn't even ENJOY myself that much at my friend's house. It all makes little sense. It's safe to say I'm a tortured soul. I try to do everything right and I'm miserable. Even when I'm not doing anything wrong, I feel like I am and deny myself.

Reply. Laugh. Comment.

*Cry*

Posted by EvilKatarn

What board games?

Posted by haffy

Maybe you just need to get more drunk next time.

Posted by themangalist

I've been a "goodie two shoes" all my life and I'll tell you this: If you're not prepared, don't put yourself in situations that would potentially turn bad.
 
Also, thumbs down for not being a gentleman and at least carry her back to her place.

Posted by N7
@EvilKatarn said:

What board games?

Yeah. What game did you play? In my opinion, Candy Land is a free pass for skipping out on some poon.
Posted by BlinkyTM

I don't see anything wrong with that, I would've done the same thing. Except I would be playing Video Games, not board games. What's wrong with you?!

Posted by McAwesome

Try to think what the next morning at her place would feel like.

Personally, when I'm drunk I try to limit myself as much as I can, and leave the all sexy things to a time when I'm sober, because I'm afraid that I'll end up with some grave consequences.

What I want to say, is that I don't see anything wrong in your actions. Why are you feeling miserable?

Edited by SpawnMan

@themangalist: She was with her friends. At the party. Not +1 for not sleeping with a partially drunk girl? Hmmm....

Okay okay everyone, the game was Munchkin. Sounds gay, probably is kinda gay, but it takes forever.

EDIT: Okay I guess I shouldn't be so sad, but it's just, ya know. Any normal guy would be "Yep, let's go!" I dunno I guess I just get sad when girls are involved. I always feel sad when I leave parties early anyways. But in this case there was basically no reason for me not to do anything - I wasn't drunk myself and I've found it hard finding girls that are into me. Sure she wasn't my type at all, but surely that shouldn't matter? Maybe I've been doing things wrong all this time?

Posted by Mr_Skeleton

She spends an entire evening with you and you don't invite her to play board games with you and your friends? You are are a terrible person.

Posted by mylifeforAiur

Board games are rad.

Posted by SpawnMan

@Mr_Skeleton: Different social circles - Disapproving Christians versus Young smoking wastrel with her slutty friends. : /

Posted by mandude

I would have done the same. Drunk girls are horrendously unsexy.

Posted by dudeglove
Posted by SpawnMan

@mandude: Buttt she was on the cusp. Completely capable but lathered enough she thought my flirting was attractive. Yeah I dunno I honestly don't know why I'm so depressed about this! Sigh. I hate socializing. Too complicated. I'd prefer to just stay home and play video games. Mmm Dark Souls.

Posted by dudeglove

Wait, aren't you the same guy who wrote about his ex-girlfriend being convinced by her pirate psychic friend that you were going to kill her in a windowless gray room?

http://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/girlfriend-issues-and-a-psychic-just-missing-the-donkey/426029/

http://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/girlfriend-issues-and-a-piratepsychic-part-2/426492/

http://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/girlfriend-issues-and-a-piratepsychic-part-3/441571/

Even if you embellished the truth somewhat, those stories were fucking hilarious.

Posted by Azteck

You need some of that tequila. That'd set everything alright for you.

Posted by Caegn

I wouldn't have touched her either. I'm generally not too paranoid or anything, but a girl who goes to the bar, gets drunk and rubs on strange dudes... Not exactly the herpes free seal of approval material there. Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know you so maybe you're like Fabio Jr. or something, but usually if she does that to you, it makes you wonder how many other guys were presented with the same choice you were.

Real question is, why do you care? That was the past. If you'd banged her, you'd be done by now (unless of course you ARE Fabio Jr.) And I'm not thinking you'd be planning your wedding with a girl like that, so it would most likely be a one or two off thing. How would your life be improved now by sleeping with her then? At best you'd only have a story to brag about (in which case, you'd be a douche and so no sympathy at all) and at worst, new and exotic itching. No upside, only down. Let it go.

Posted by sungahymn

@dudeglove said:

Posted by themangalist

@SpawnMan: Lol CONTEXT man CONTEXT. If she was with her friends, I don't think they'd care if you were making out with her in the corner or something cuz, privacy n' good timez. So...

.... WAIT. So what you're saying is... you weren't miserable because you DIDN'T sleep with her!!?? What's the point of this thread then!!??

Whoops. I mean, props man. Good job not being a fag and doing one night stands with the random girls who got drunk off your drinks. Bring a condom next time and good luck, I guess :/

Posted by countinhallways

Did you actually say "done" out loud before leaving to play board games? If you did... then that is awesome.

Also: @mandude said:

I would have done the same. Drunk girls are horrendously unsexy.

Edited by AhmadMetallic
@SpawnMan said:

I just said "Done" and walked off. 

There's your answer. When a man is done shooting hot milk, he loses interest.
Edited by SpawnMan

@dudeglove: Yes that is me. I'd have wished there was as much embellishment as you claim, but really there wasn't. Thanks for reminding me of that depressing chapter in my life lol. Sadly been out of a relationship with the woman I mention at the end for a few months now. She wanted to move to Australia. I didn't want to. She chose to move. Been single ever since. And a struggling single person. I guess you could call this a spiritual part 4 then... : /

But okay okay, enough have replied asking why I care and that I did the right thing, so once again Giantbomb you are correct and I shall move on. Damn you, why are you always right!! ; )

Posted by mandude

@SpawnMan said:

@mandude: Buttt she was on the cusp. Completely capable but lathered enough she thought my flirting was attractive. Yeah I dunno I honestly don't know why I'm so depressed about this! Sigh. I hate socializing. Too complicated. I'd prefer to just stay home and play video games. Mmm Dark Souls.

Haha. Butt.

Seriously, though. No one will ever find you attractive. She was obviously past the threshold.

Even more seriously, though. I do feel for you. I've done many similar things, but looking back, they seem insignificant in the grand scheme of things and more awkward than anything else.

Posted by Mmmslash

I'll take Parcheesi over pussy any day, bro.

(My apologies for the crudeness, but I can't pass up a chance for alliteration)

Posted by Shirogane

Rule #1

If she's throwing herself at you, it's gotta be a trap.

Ok, maybe not #1, but it's one of them...

Posted by IkariNoTekken

@Mr_Skeleton said:

She spends an entire evening with you and you don't invite her to play board games with you and your friends? You are are a terrible person.

Ha ha.

Posted by SpawnMan

@Shirogane: IT'S A TRAP! *Dies by death star*

And no I didn't say Done and walk off, but yeah, that'd have been friggin awesome.

Posted by fullmetal5550

@themangalist said:

I've been a "goodie two shoes" all my life and I'll tell you this: If you're not prepared, don't put yourself in situations that would potentially turn bad. Also, thumbs down for not being a gentleman and at least carry her back to her place.

I would opt to watch her stumble out into the street and get hit by a bus.

Posted by Arabes

Dude, nut up and stop playing munchkin instead of getting laid or you will find yourself in a dark place where you can only play munchkin and never get laid. And more importantly, instead of writing about how fucking sad you are on the internet, just go out again and have some fun. You know, with girls, or boys or whatever you happen to prefer. And for all the ones talking about how he did the right thing and she was probably a skank etc etc how is your life of celibacy suiting you? If a girl can't get a bit drunk and go out and get herself laid and have a laugh then this is truly a sad and sexist world in which we live.

Posted by SpawnMan

@Arabes: Lol. You're too funny...

Posted by Jimbo

@countinhallways said:

Did you actually say "done" out loud before leaving to play board games? If you did... then that is awesome.

lol'd at this too. "I am done with you! Good day, harlot!"

Posted by marvin_martian

At my brother's wedding, I was dancing with a bridesmaid all night.  We ended up kissing a couple times throughout the evening and I ended up taking her back to her hotel room.  It was the walk over there where I deemed her too drunk for me to go through with it, so when we got there I just let her pee and pass out.  Shit happens.  Not that big of a deal.  Actually, the next morning she woke up and saw me, freaked out because she thought I was my brother and that she just slept with the groom.  Eh.

Posted by siaynoq

Bars make me anxious.

Posted by ryanwho

Claude has some competition.

Posted by kingando420

@siaynoq said:

Bars make me anxious.

you should be anxious, I like alcohol but it makes people f'ing crazy

Posted by deathstriker666

Maybe you have some standards, ever thought about that?

Posted by Still_I_Cry

That is what I would do.

Except I would trump you by playing a videogame boardgame :D

Posted by thevigilanteoflove

It's not an easy situation to be in. It's awkward and I would have been done the same thing, or something to that effect. Don't get down on yourself.

Posted by mandude

Ah, see? You can take comfort in the fact that you are in the same boat as the legion of sex depraved nerds. :)

Posted by spilledmilkfactory

Never heard of Munchkin before, but I'd drop a girl for some Scrabble action any day

Posted by imsh_pl

Dude, I love Munchkin! Did you, like, play Super Munchkin? Cause that's my favourite in the series!

Posted by chmod

Chicks dig tortured souls.

Posted by Mooks

Its natural for guys to be turned off if a girl is too forward, we are genetically programmed to take the lead, its no fun if there is no chase/you dont have to put in any effort, so i think you have nothing to worry about.

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Posted by wewantsthering

@EvilKatarn said:

What board games?

Posted by awesomeusername

Read the first 10 sentences. Concluded that you are.... Well, playing for the other team. Yeahhhhhh.

Posted by DriveupLife

The answer is obvious. You're a pussy.

Posted by Doppelgamer

I would have taken advantage of her...    ...current lack of board game playing ability and played for cash. ^_^

But then, I'm not too keen on drunk women, especially one that I'm not really interested in.  I try not to be ruled entirely by my instincts, and prefer relationships.  Plenty of time to meet somebody more "real" later, after that woman's been robbed of her cash in a hardcore game of Settlers!! :P

Posted by thehexeditor

Given the context, with you being in a bar and the girl in question being inebriated, what you did is perfectly fine.

As many others in this thread have said or implied, drunk girls are not sexy. Probably not safe either.

Posted by Bollard

@dudeglove said:

Wait, aren't you the same guy who wrote about his ex-girlfriend being convinced by her pirate psychic friend that you were going to kill her in a windowless gray room?

http://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/girlfriend-issues-and-a-psychic-just-missing-the-donkey/426029/

http://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/girlfriend-issues-and-a-piratepsychic-part-2/426492/

http://www.giantbomb.com/forums/off-topic/31/girlfriend-issues-and-a-piratepsychic-part-3/441571/

Even if you embellished the truth somewhat, those stories were fucking hilarious.

That is some really good shit ahahahah!

Posted by mnzy
@EvilKatarn said:

What board games?

I really like that this is the first answer.
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