My anxieties aren't so bad any more, but as an adult they were always cranked way higher due to people trying desperately to change me from top to bottom, like a makeover except they wanted to mold me into exactly what they themselves were. The number of times I heard people tell me that they can help "fix" me is kind of ridiculous, and until the past few months constantly made me think I was some kind of terrible thing. They weren't even subtle most of the time - straight up telling me I needed to be different.
My anxiety levels have have lessened recently, though not to the degree that I'd like. At 33 I'm more sure of who I am than I've ever been, which really helps. Another chunk of my improvement has come from me tossing people out of my life if they do terrible things to me and knowing that it's not disloyal to do so - I have to be loyal to myself, too, which I never have been compared to others.
Right now my bouts of depression or self-anger last at most a day rather than weeks like it was two even years ago, and my social anxiety is there but smoothed out quite a bit. Usually by the end I'm just thinking "why is this a thought process?" or "why do I care?" Sometimes remembering how a couple of people treated me recently will spiral me downward, and those bouts barely last a few hours because in the end I think "I didn't deserve that. I was kind and was abused in return, and I'm still kind and loyal and honorable. I won."
There's a lot more to say on this topic, for everyone whose posted here obviously, but that's all for me. I hope everyone sharing about their issues here is getting better and better over time.