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Just going to throw an update here for those who care. I'll address some comments and suggestions that I've seen in this thread:
 

• Looks like I'll be able to keep the house. The property value has gone up significantly, and we've decided that we'll get it appraised and she will get half of what the profit would have been had we sold it. It's a crazy huge amount (I'll be cutting a check for approx $40k),  but I'll manage. Bottom line: I get to KEEP THE FUCKING HOUSE!!
• I pay her 25% of my pay per pay period for the next 5 years.
• She gets half the pension. With my job, and in my country (Canada), this is inevitable. 
• Asset division shouldn't be a problem. It hasn't been thus far. I know what's hers and she knows what's mine and I don't really care enough about the stuff we both claim to fight for it.
  

• Don't get  married. At least not without a pre-nup. Even if she is the girl of your dreams, ten years down the road she may not be and then all the hard work you've put into your career gets burned.  
• Don't have kids. This could be so much worse. 
• Duders...live for your happiness. Fight for your happiness. If you are in a rotten relationship, get the hell out. Getting this divorce, even though money is going to be brutal here on out, is the best decision I've made. I haven't felt this free or this happy in decade. 

This thread sucks. Heart goes out to the OP.

Also, out of curiosity, you just called it quits one day and she agreed or what?

You can tell me to shut up.

You guys damn near made me choke up. Nothing like having complete strangers (but who share the love games and Giant Bomb and geekiness) rooting for you.  
 
Fighting for the pension is some good advice. I think the worth of the house would offset it.

Because I just called it quits. Married for 9 years and 10 months. Couldn't quite make 10. 
 
It's rough. No pre-nup because I thought it would be ludicrous when I was marrying her.  Now....I know I'm going to be giving up my house, half my pension, a huge chunk of my salary and be back to living in the basement of my parents' place after being independent for 13 years. Even with all that, I still feel free. No kids, thankfully. But I think my dog is going to be a war. All in all, I hope the relationship is still amicable. Not sure if it will be though.  I feel like a shit, but I can't live my life unhappily. 
 
So, I'm just wanting to know how many fellow Giant Bombers out there have gone through this shit. Advice /jokes/ idiocy would be welcome.

This is Sunny. She's my 4 year old Golden Retriever.  She's my buddy.
 

Good luck man. This kind of stuff is never easy. You are brave to be doing this, and you are doing it for your own happiness and the freedom to live your own life. Don't forget that. 
 
I've had to have some absolutely brutal conversations ("I want a divorce" and a few years before that  "Hey, I was diagnosed with a mental illness"), and none of them are easy. But your sister has your back. We have your back even though we are faceless.  
 
Be brave. You have to do this for yourself.

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