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#1  Edited By Whamola

Where do I start?

First of all, She's your sister, guy. It doesn't matter if it's by blood or not. It's creepy as shit. This seriously sounds like one of those messed up Japanese cartoon sex games. In short, don't have sex with your sister.

Second: She's 19. She's a 19 year old girl. You're thirty plus. Normally there wouldn't be anything wrong with this, assuming both parties are mature enough to know what they're getting into. Let's say you DO move to Florida with her. Once she gets to that age where everyone grows up emotionally, what's going to happen? There's the very real chance that she's going to realize that getting involved with you wasn't a good choice and she'll find herself stuck in a state where she doesn't know anyone, and she's at the complete opposite end of the country from her family. If you actually care about her, and it's not just you pathetically clinging on to her because she's the first girl who showed interest in you in a long time, would you really want this to happen to her? You're potentially putting her in a very terrible situation. Also, you don't seem like you're emotionally stable, but we'll get to that.

Third: You really need to get your life in gear. Go to community college, get at least an associates, and do yourself a massive favor: While you're there, talk to everyone, make as many friends as you can. You really need to socialize with normal people. The internet is a pretty neat place, but it's not going to help you right now. You're blaming your mom and step-dad for your current problems when in reality, they're all on you. You had three years to establish yourself in your life. They let you live in their house rent free and paid all your expenses when they had no obligation to do so. It's not their fault you spent your time doing nothing and begging them to give you a job. I know you think you're stuck in a shitty apartment with nowhere to go, but everyone has to start somewhere. Go to the DMV, get a new personal ID, work whatever job you can get locally until you can afford a beater car, then start looking for better jobs farther away. I won't lie to you, your life will probably suck for a while, but that's how it has to be if you want to be a functioning adult.

As an aside, I think you need to give your mom a break. Your step-dad sounds like a jerk, but we're only hearing your side of things, I know you're trying to make him sound worse than he might actually be. I mean, maybe your mom actually loves him, you know? I know you don't understand why she might love a controlling jerk, but look at it from his perspective: He probably doesn't know why his daughter is infatuated with a thirty year old jobless shut-in loser. Love is a weird thing and I'd assume you'd be able to realize that.

I think what's most important is that you get your mind straightened out. You're not insane or anything, you're just not living in the real world. I'd need to know more about your past relationships but just the fact that you say you've been "friend-zoned" many times tells me something's not right. Here's a pro-tip: "friend-zoning" doesn't exist when you're a healthy functioning adult. You either take a girl out and it doesn't work out and that's that, or you're friends with a girl because you actually want to be her friend and nothing more. if a girl is "friend-zoning" you, she's not into you and she never will be, that's all there is to it. No amount of poking and prodding, or suggestive actions are going to help you, and moping about how she won't date a great guy like you and instead only goes after "jerks" isn't just pathetic, it's offensive to her.

I think your problem with your sister is that she's convenient for you. I know you'll disagree, but maybe you AREN'T really in love with her. Maybe you're in love with the idea that someone's interested in you. Honestly, from what you've shared with us, it makes me think that Nabokov could've written a book about you. I know you think your step-dad is a jerk, and he may very well be, but he's just trying to protect his kid. Let me ask you this: Did YOU know everything you wanted out of life when you were nineteen? Sure, he should know that kids make mistakes all the time, and you have to let them so they'll learn, but moving across the country with a guy ten years older than her who's jobless and currently has no prospects or even a realistic plan set up is a MASSIVE potential mistake.

Basically, you're currently a man-child, and until you get your life fixed, you really shouldn't be romantically involved with ANYONE, let alone your sister.

I'm sorry if anything I said pissed you off, and I'm sure you just posted here assuming everyone was going to say, "Screw your step-dad! Run away with your sister!", but that wouldn't help you. Honestly, you remind me of my best friend (well, besides the fact that he never had sex with his sister). He was stuck in a low spot in his life, but I was lucky enough to see him do a complete turn around, and I know you can do one too. You're in a much better position than a lot of other people in the world, so take advantage of that.

I doubt you'll even read this, but if you do, at least consider thinking about what I'm telling you.