It's not necessarily toxic. I feel like a large part of the problem with it, though, is that it's segregated from a much larger discussion about the inequalities in our society as a whole. Most people would agree, I imagine, that hating someone for something that matters as little as what equipment they're packing downstairs, or what color they are, or who (within reason, obviously) they feel like fucking. Anyone who pulls something like that is pretty easy to label as an asshole, and they more than likely are.
There aren't a lot of women in Game Development, that's true, but you can look pretty much everywhere around the world and see that shit's unbalanced all over. I tried to get a job a few years back at a gas station, and was flatly refused because I was a guy. The store owner didn't see anything wrong with this; he said that men were more violent and as such, if someone tried to rob the place, I'd probably try to play hero and fight back or something and get killed, thereby ruining the location's reputation. Not taking into account the fact that I have a very well developed survival instinct and know some real aggressive ladies; His opinion is offensive to both genders, and I feel like that's something that's missed in a lot of these discussions.
I mean, take the old-timey logic that women are just gentler and kinder and not really cut out for fighting; Not only is that bull in the sense that I know plenty of women who could kick the shit out of me if they felt the need, it's also ignoring that I've known some dudes who were almost absurdly forgiving and kind. One day, I imagine, we'll finally throw off the stupid ass gender differences to the curb and just start looking at each other as individual people, unchained from whatever the hell we happened to be born with, but it's gonna take a while.
In the end, I feel like that's the best thing to do; stop treating people as representative of anything but themselves. If someone is an asshat, then yes, that person is an asshat; it's not some wider commentary on where they come from, what their belief system is, or anything but that one person. Call people out when they act like jerks. Praise people when they do something you feel is deserving of praise. Never judge a group by the worst or most visible examples.
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