I miss you Ryan.

I've been doing the same thing. It's great to hear "Hey Everybody. It's Tuesday." I missed a ton of the early Bombcasts so it's been fun to listen to them and hear the early days of Giant Bomb.

But, I'm with you. Still grappling with the fact that he is gone.

TUESDAYS FOREVER!!!!!!!

This isn't a contest about who handles what better, it's about looking at your own life and asking yourself "why does the death of someone who I have never met or had any meaningful two-way interaction with affect me so much?". If it's not a cult of personality thing than what is it? Do you understand what that means? Look at these posts, it's all about how much Ryan would love something, what he did on some Quick Look a year ago or how he would react to a topic on the Bombcast. I mean this was his job, not his life. And if you only know someone because of their job you don't know them at all. It's like mourning the passing of an actor or musician like they were your friend...

I have an unhealthy level of empathy with my fellow human beings? I've cried when people close to me have been diagnosed with cancer. I've supported others when they've lost friends or family. I can empathise with people in my life who I know and care about. But I don't think it's normal to be this depressed as people are claiming to be over the passing of someone who they knew only as an entertainer and not as a person. Think about the stories Jeff told about Ryan on that faithful podcast... those were the stories only a friend could tell. I'm willing to be RandomUser99 on the Giant Bomb forums didn't have a connection even remotely as close to the man.

I'm saying these things because, as evidenced by others here, I'm not alone. Think about how the people who actually knew him would feel. There's people saying they want to get Ryan's name tattooed on their arm. Tell me that level of 'honouring' is healthy when, once again, these same people didn't actually know the man. It's almost like the people who knew him are coping better. I never said "I'm coping better! You losers aren't!". I said that if his friends, his real honest-to-god friends who lived with him and shared important life experiences with him, and his family, who helped raise him and shape him as a human being, should be the ones we feel for and a should be ones grieving to that extent.

As I said, this isn't about me being superior, it's about people needing to frankly grow up a little. Respect the people who are still in mourning, remember Ryan fondly (as I do) for all the great things he did for us and move on with your life. Save your tears for people who you actually know...

It's not about trying to put people down or respond better, it's merely expressing that I am somewhat perplexed by the reactions as I can't relate, unlike the passing of a family member or actual friend.

It's really arrogant of anyone to tell someone else how to grieve, yes we didn't know him... and? No ones claiming that they did. It doesn't stop you from being upset that the man died at 34 only 5 days after his fucking wedding, jeez some people...

Still really miss him, I really wonder how the guys have got through the last month or so. If we feel bad I can't imagine how they must be coping. Like a lot of people in this thread have said, I keep expecting him to come back from holiday or something, still can't quite believe he has gone. I keep noticing it in weird places, like Brad asking whether he should still say 'emails', and there are times when Jeff makes jokes on the Bombcast and then there is a silence, and it really feels like a space where he was expecting a response from Ryan, and there was none. Makes me sad.

Also to the people on this thread who are telling others how they should feel or react need to take a step back. People deal with things in different ways and at different speeds and it shows a disturbing lack of empathy to want everyone else to feel the same as you do, or accuse them of obsession or overstating because they don't.

Just because you have never met some in the flesh does not mean you can't feel affection for them or be sad when they go. Ryan was a part of lots of Giant Bomb users lives over many years and asking people to brush of his death in a few months is unfeeling. The way this site is run brings the community much closer to the producers than other media, so saying it is some sort of celebrity worship is silly. There is a reason people send them crazy stuff from all round the world, give them breast milk to drink and create all sorts of art and content around Giant Bomb and that is because this site is built on the relationship between the users and the staff. It can be very personal at times because we get to speak and interact with guys and see a huge amount of what goes on in their lives. If Giant Bomb was just a TV station, or a webpage with a comments bar at the bottom then I would maybe understand your reaction, but its not - its a community, and this is how communities work.

We all do, bro. We all do.

Forever missed.

Even if we didn't know him personally there is absolutely nothing wrong or strange about feeling sad and grieving that he is gone. For some of us he has been a big part of our lives for a number of years, so it does have an impact that he is no longer with us. Of course it is a much bigger deal for his friends and family, but no one is saying otherwise.

So please try and be respectful towards other users feelings.

Me too, man. It still doesn't feel real. Last weeks bombcast they were having some silly discussion and I couldn't help but thinking how Ryan would be adding to it.

I loved me some Ryan Davis. I'll miss him with all my butt.