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Edited By Godwind

 On valentines day, in my psychology class, when class had just ended, one of my classmates came up to me and asked "Do you have a valentine?"
My answer was no.
Then she asked "Would you like a valentine?"
I then replied "No, I am not interested"
I think when I said it, I sounded a little cold.  However at the time I was sick a few days prior carrying 64 oz of Gatorade just so I can avoid
dehydration while in school.

It isn't uncommon for women to hit on me.  Then let it play out casually until she falls out of interest.  It's not that these women are unattractive or anything, its just that I find dating to be a vice in the current point in time.  It eats away at ones resources rather than acquiring assets.  In addition I am trying to make life more comfortable when I get older.  Rather than working for thirty years because I need, I want to choice to work or not to work. Maybe I'll have a family, and I know I can support my son at his little league games or something.  I do like the idea that I can give someone else a better life than I got when I was a kid.  I always took measures to look into future and neglect most of the experiences I could have in the now, because it has been extremely important to me to have a strong future with as many doors available to me of all different sizes.

However, this is the first time I have been seriously been reflecting on my decision to effectively reject a woman.  I remember being asked out at prom by a handful of different women and rejecting each and everyone of them. Never went to prom either. Never was considered important to me.  Never regretted the decision either.  Now a random person asks me to be their valentine and NOW I am reconsidering my stance on dating.  It has been eating away at me. I think it was because of the way she frowned the following class.  I looked into her eyes and saw in her facial expression of despair.  But why should that bother me? I already rejected women who showed similiar expression.  Whats wrong with me?

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#1  Edited By Godwind

 On valentines day, in my psychology class, when class had just ended, one of my classmates came up to me and asked "Do you have a valentine?"
My answer was no.
Then she asked "Would you like a valentine?"
I then replied "No, I am not interested"
I think when I said it, I sounded a little cold.  However at the time I was sick a few days prior carrying 64 oz of Gatorade just so I can avoid
dehydration while in school.

It isn't uncommon for women to hit on me.  Then let it play out casually until she falls out of interest.  It's not that these women are unattractive or anything, its just that I find dating to be a vice in the current point in time.  It eats away at ones resources rather than acquiring assets.  In addition I am trying to make life more comfortable when I get older.  Rather than working for thirty years because I need, I want to choice to work or not to work. Maybe I'll have a family, and I know I can support my son at his little league games or something.  I do like the idea that I can give someone else a better life than I got when I was a kid.  I always took measures to look into future and neglect most of the experiences I could have in the now, because it has been extremely important to me to have a strong future with as many doors available to me of all different sizes.

However, this is the first time I have been seriously been reflecting on my decision to effectively reject a woman.  I remember being asked out at prom by a handful of different women and rejecting each and everyone of them. Never went to prom either. Never was considered important to me.  Never regretted the decision either.  Now a random person asks me to be their valentine and NOW I am reconsidering my stance on dating.  It has been eating away at me. I think it was because of the way she frowned the following class.  I looked into her eyes and saw in her facial expression of despair.  But why should that bother me? I already rejected women who showed similiar expression.  Whats wrong with me?

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#2  Edited By LiquidPrince

Kinda. They way you speak about life and women and asset building reminds me of someone I know. He's also in the grey jerk area.

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#3  Edited By evildeadron

to answer your question, YES 
 
also, have you thought that maybe it's time to come out of the closet?
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#4  Edited By Video_Game_King
@Godwind said:
" It isn't uncommon for women to hit on me. "
Mind sharing your secret? Women avoid me like they instinctively know that my sperm is poisonous.
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#5  Edited By choffy21

Kinda. You sound cocky.

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#6  Edited By WickedCestus

I think the idea that having a partner is just eating away at one's resources is a terrible way to think about it and if you are going to treat your girlfriend like that I'm happy you reject so many ladies. They probably deserve better. 

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#7  Edited By Punk1984

Yeah that was a jerk-ish thing to do. The road your on ends with you alone, if that isn't something you want better amend your ways.

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#8  Edited By rjayb89

Fuck women. Play video games. Eat calzones. LIVE LARGE. 

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#9  Edited By Brendan

Are you that annoying character from the Big Bang Theory?  Because I hate that show.

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#10  Edited By Godwind
@evildeadron said:
" to answer your question, YES  also, have you thought that maybe it's time to come out of the closet? "
I don't have a closet.
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#11  Edited By Turambar
@Godwind said:

It eats away at ones resources rather than acquiring assets.

That type of attitude on life does make me think that you're a jerk, yes.
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#12  Edited By AgnosticJesus

jerk kinda

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#13  Edited By Snipzor
@Godwind said:
" @evildeadron said:
" to answer your question, YES  also, have you thought that maybe it's time to come out of the closet? "
I don't have a closet. "
Where the hell do you put all of your gay clothes then?!
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#14  Edited By evildeadron
@Godwind: 
 
 
settle down princess
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#15  Edited By ComradeKritstov
@Video_Game_King said:
" @Godwind said:
" It isn't uncommon for women to hit on me. "
Mind sharing your secret? Women avoid me like they instinctively know that my sperm is poisonous. "
@choffy21 said:
" Kinda. You sound cocky. "
There's your answer.
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#16  Edited By LiquidS

If only she had dressed up as Princess Peach you would never have never said no.

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#17  Edited By Video_Game_King
@ComradeKritstov: 
 
But I'm already an egotistical douche-monger; clearly, that strategy has failed.
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#18  Edited By BraveToaster

You're a jerk in a world filled with jerks. 
 
I don't understand why everyone is calling you gay, though.

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#19  Edited By ColinWright

Sounds like you need to get your ass kicked. Seriously, you speak of women like an object that needs to help you "acquire assests". You're not a jerk, you're a chauvinistic asshole who thinks that he is greater than all.  

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#20  Edited By sameeeeam

Nah, you sound alright.

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#21  Edited By Icemael

One day, that girls is going to kill herself because of your rejection.

KILL HERSELF, I TELL YA!

I bet she's sitting at home cutting herself right now. You have made her hollow inside, and pain is the only thing that can fill the void.

Really though, come on. Unless you're being a dick about it, like "Do I look like someone who would want to be your valentine, you fat, ugly bitch?", how exactly does rejecting a chick make you a jerk?

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#22  Edited By TheDudeOfGaming

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#23  Edited By blueduck

You have 2,607 posts on giantbomb, it's a nice fantasy though!

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#24  Edited By csl316
@Turambar said:
" @Godwind said:

It eats away at ones resources rather than acquiring assets.

That type of attitude on life does make me think that you're a jerk, yes. "
Agreed.  It's not what you did with the girl, but how your reflection on it reflects on you.
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#25  Edited By evildeadron

since the responses in the thread  are clearly  not giving you the affirmation of your "lifestyle" choices that you were  seeking, maybe this picture will help cheer you up, considering...well you know. 
  
 

 
 
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#26  Edited By HandsomeDead

This is all a lie. No one is going to ask Godwind to be a Valentine unless they're hideous or mentally unfit.

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#27  Edited By Terry_Bogard
@HandsomeDead: lol 
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#28  Edited By Sin4profit

hormones'er finally kickin in. 
 
but to answer the question honestly, yes, it's kind of a jerk move to pigeonhole anyone the way you do women. For all you know that girl has the same ideas about building assets. Walk and talk with the girls, get to know them before you make these assumptions. explain to them your point on dating being a vice and your need to retain resources for the sake of securing your future. They'll either lose interest naturally, leaving you in the same position, or they'll be on board and manage to be an extended resource themselves. I think you'd rather reject them from the start rather then have one dump ya for bein kind of a stiff.  
 
that's my take on it.

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#29  Edited By buzz_clik

Jerk? No. Sociopath? Mmmaybe.

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#30  Edited By Dtat

Wow glad to see this conversation quickly deteriorated into people making accusations of homosexuality. We've come so far since the heady days of elementary school. 

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#31  Edited By antonyhawk65

Too much homophobia in this thread

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#32  Edited By McGhee

Nothing wrong with rejecting someone, but the whole tone of your post is a little dickish. 
 
I'll go with my usual, "If you have to ask, then you already know the answer."

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well u seem like a decent guy.  i usually think people are decent until they prove me wrong.  but i think you sound like youre bragging a bit.  after all, this is a video game forum.  at least you didnt brag about how the hottest chicks u know keep asking you out and u keep rejecting them.  that would be fucked up. 

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#34  Edited By MarkWahlberg

 I think this should answer your question. 
 I think this should answer your question. 
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#35  Edited By awesomeusername
@Godwind: You're probably going gay.  
 
Seriously though, when was the last time you had a girlfriend? Did you have any feelings for any of your ex 's and did they dump you? If so, you probably just don't want someone to hurt you again. Maybe you're just not interested in having a girlfriend. But if you're feeling different now, maybe you just feel like you're becoming interested in seeing someone.  
 
Also, you don't seem like a jerk. You seem like a    chauvinistic asshole "
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#36  Edited By KaosAngel

If I was a chick or if we were both into dudes, you'd be my kind of guy.

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#37  Edited By BraveToaster
@MarkWahlberg said:
"
 I think this should answer your question. 
 I think this should answer your question. 
"
Have I just seen the face of God?
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#38  Edited By FunExplosions

Yeah, but you can't tap that young poon when you're older. Get it while it's fresh. Plus, that dismissive attitude vanishes as soon as you get into a relationship. There's a reason why society revolves around pleasing the opposite sex.

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#39  Edited By cornbredx

No.
 
It sounds as though you may be similar to me in this thought process. On top of that, I personally do not want to put my own issues on someone else again (I am currently divorced) but would rather be a strong responsible companion in my next relationship (which may never happen for reasons best left not discussed right now).
 
I also tend to be lonely because of this view and over the past couple years have been wondering if maybe I am approaching some thing wrong- but then the divorce memory creeps in and I suspect... maybe not.
 
Point being, you are not a jerk although it may have been in your better interest to have explained why you said no. A girl giving you a valentine isn't the end of the world nor a request for marriage or a serious relationship. 
You, like me, may be thinking too much. Know what I mean?

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#40  Edited By KaosAngel
@FunExplosions said:

" Yeah, but you can't tap that young poon when you're older. "

You could just go up to Canada or Europe to score high school girls legally?   
 
EDIT:  Or Asia if you're into the creeper shit.  
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#41  Edited By iam3green

kind of, but i have been in that seat. it's your inner, inner, inner, inner, ect, self saying you want a girl. it's your outer self saying you don't want a girlfriend. 
 
girls are jerks, they dont' show emotion to guys that they like. a girl in one of my classes liked me. she was alright looking. when the class was over i found out that she liked me. i never saw her again.

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#42  Edited By audiosnag

Sorta yeah, but girls are crazy an you probably just ended up making her like you more. Cause they're like that.

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You are becoming a man.
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#44  Edited By HandsomeDead

Wait a second. Are people taking this seriously? Does no one remember this: 
 
  

   
This is Godwind. No one asked him out on Valentine's Day.
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#45  Edited By cornbredx

I find it odd all the claims of chauvinism to the OP. I mean I know I'm tired, but I got more the impression he has had bad girl friends in the past and he feels they have done nothing but take- giving no recourse or support (emotionally or financially).
 
The homosexuality claims are from the youngins that are in the thread. I am ignoring those.
 
If I am misreading the OP somehow, and he is just being a chauvinist or some other weirdness then we are not at all alike and I rescind my previous comments.

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#46  Edited By Muddy_Cheeks
@Axxol said:
" You're a jerk in a world filled with jerks.  I don't understand why everyone is calling you gay, though. "
standard internet homophobes ftw.
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#47  Edited By evildeadron
@HandsomeDead: 
 
 
AHHH HA HA HA 
 
notice one of the first things he says is telling another dude to get down and "suck it" 
 
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#48  Edited By MarkWahlberg
@Axxol said:
Have I just seen the face of God? "
Perhaps. But I can't take the credit.  
 
  
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#49  Edited By Claude
@HandsomeDead:  The fact that Godwind made this thread. Blows my mind. Maybe he's changed?
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#50  Edited By FCKSNAP

Too much Jerk in this thread.