Well, do you?
Aside from my many friends across the internet, I have few "Friends" that I speak to. I have a few from college and school and work, but not very many.
Do you have friends?
Yes. Not the massive group of friends I had growing up and in school, but that's pretty natural. You grow up, move away, get a job, you just don't have time for as many friends.
My friends seem to be pretty evenly split between my gaming savvy friends and friends I've made over the years through working at my company.
Tons of "internet friends" as well from a small gaming community (Seasoned Gamers) I'm a part of. Pretty much have a place to stay almost anywhere in the country which is nice.
Brace for another depressing thread!
I have a best friend, but aside from him there's basically nobody else I talk to frequently. I've drifted apart from all my other school friends and I don't use Facebook and all that anymore either. I still talk to my parents of course, but it's far from a friendly relationship.
On one hand I could say I have a lot of friends. But when I think about close friends, people I can count on when I need to just pick up the phone, etc... it's very limited. Even my best friend doesn't really seem to be in that category anymore since she got serious with her man. My husband is my only true best friend. Otherwise, some of my internet friends are better friends than most of my RL friends.
Funny this comes up because it's something I bitch about with the hubby every so often, like this past weekend. I don't understand it really. I'm a very likable person. I look at how others have described me in the past. The top words they use are loyal, honest, etc etc. I mean, those seem like good friend attributes, right? I'm always there for my friends when they're down, though I don't sugarcoat shit for them. I make my home open and welcome, and... have learned not to expect the same from others. Then again, we've also realized that most of our friends still act and live life like we're all 18 and just out of high school, which is one reason we just don't click the way we all used to except whenever I host a party it seems.
Anyone who's read many of my posts has probably figured out that I'm generally an upbeat person. But this is one topic that seems to get me down lately. But enough of that here. Maybe I'll blog more on it or something.
Yes, but as I've gotten older I find that I just don't go out as much. That's not to say that I have any less friends than I did 10 years ago, merely that I don't go out/hang out with the same 20 people or whatever every weekend. I have my two or three good friends that I hang out with every weekend or a couple times a week and then my other friends that I'll see on a monthly basis or whenever there is some kind event (concert, party, art exhibit, whatever) that some one's hosting. I'm going on 30 now and at this age you really don't run into many situations where you are going to meet new friends so you hold onto the friends you made in highschool and college and you keep in touch, but I just can't go out and party like I did in college anymore. Some of my friends can, and that's great, and they are still fun to hang out with, but I just can't party until sunrise every weekend anymore.
I grew up with the same group of guys since grammar school. We've grown up together, went to high school together, and are still friends after college. We are all each other's "best" friends. We're too close and know too much about one another to be anything but. As we got to Jr. High and High School we've added people to our group--namely girls, girlfriends, and some like-minded folk. We were all pretty popular in school so friends were never an issue. We all just went to the same parties together and our group of friends grew. In college, we visited each other every month or two, and we all made our own group of new friends. The best friends from each of our respective "college crews" followed us all to our new, current group, so it's grown larger since we graduated.
We're still all really close, despite jobs, or law school, or grad school, or different groups. We don't exclude the others from our lives. It really is probably the best possible situation you can be in. I currently live with two of the guys I grew up with, and two of the girls that we met in Jr. High. I see the rest of my friends pretty much every weekend. I'm pretty blessed. The count is 6-10 "best friends" about 30 "friends" and hundreds of acquaintances or "maybe I'll see you at my party" type friends.
In terms of "internet friends" (you people actually count those?) I only have one, and she's pretty awesome. I don't consider people online as real friends, under normal circumstances. There are a lot of aspects of friendship that don't reach across the internet that well. My "internet friend" is more of a pen pal that I wished lived close enough to be a real friend. Otherwise, I don't really interact with people online much.
Of my friends, I'm the only gamer that plays anything besides sports, shooters, and Nintendo games. They're all gamers--both the boys and girls--but none of them would have any idea what Persona (or probably even Bioshock) was.
Yes, of course, but oddly none that I can enthuse about video games, sci-fi, anime or other geeky hobbies I enjoy. Maybe, it's not so odd as when I got older, I just acquired friends based off my life's circumstances rather than mutual interests. It's not a big deal since the internet alleviates that occasional need.
I find it sad that this thread is titled "do you have friends?" rather than "how many real friends do you have?"
I have a core of 8 good friends who I hang out with once or twice every week. Flying in the face of current trends: I have no internet friends whatsoever. I've deleted my Facebook some time ago, and came to my senses and quit Final Fantasy XI many, many years ago. No e-friends for me, I got shit to do.
wow... that's a depressing question... but, uh... yeah..?
I've ben best friends with someone for the past 12 years (since 3rd grade); but I've made a bunch of friends at college, most of whom I can talk to about anything.
I also still talk to some of my friends from my first high school even though I haven't seen many of them in like 3 years.
It's funny because I had tons of friends in elementary school and high school but being in university has made me a loner. It's a nice change of pace not having to worry about anyone else but I can see after another year I'll get bored and throw myself out there again.Or out of a window.
@Hizang: if your friend is a dude unless you're gay dont expect much when you get to level 10 lol. Thats what persona 4 taught meyou clearly missed his post a while back about him worrying because a dude he went on a date with wouldn't respond to his texts
it was adorable
I have a friend, who I talk to somewhat often. I never make many friends (at least I never call my relationship with another person a "friendship"), usually having no more than three at a time. When I started college a few years ago, I didn't keep in touch with anyone but my best friend. While I was at college, I rarely talked to anyone and didn't know anyone better than a passing acquaintance. Nowadays, I take classes online (due to some events out of my control) and don't leave the house enough to make any other friends.
Part of my lack of friends stems from my laziness but I would love to have some more if I could. The main thing that really irks me about not having more is that I don't have anyone to play co-op games with. My best friend limits his game playing to League of Legends and Call of Duty/Halo due to being busy all of the time and not liking many games. That leaves me with tons of co-op experiences I never get to see, since I don't see the point of playing most of them with a stranger.
I don't really understand how some people can say internet friends don't count. To each their own and everyone has a right to their own opinion, but I consider my internet friends to be very close to me. Just because we haven't physically been together doesn't detract from that. I mean, I've known one of my internet friends for about four years now and I'll be meeting him for the first time in a few days on a trip I'll be making through his city. And I feel a lot safer having somebody I know close by in case I get lost, since I've never been in the state before.
I guess it depends on how comfortable people are with putting themselves out there to 'strangers on the internet.' But it's not really that hard to decipher after a while someone's personality online and whether you can befriend them seriously or not. Some may say you run the risk of them being totally fake, but how many people act fake in real-life? Not that much difference. (Except maybe in the extreme case of someone acting as a different gender, but they usually get caught anyway.)
All in all, I'm really grateful to have my internet friends. I consider them to be just as important as my real-life friends and I wouldn't want to change that for anything. <3
It's totally normal to have very few friends as long as those that are there are close. Lots of people have tons of "friends"; people who they have little more than facebook interaction with. In my opinion, these people aren't friends and such facile connections don't mean anything.
A real friend would show up in the middle of the night and help you bury a body, no questions asked. But then again, that's just my standard. Lesser standards would probably also be applicable.
I have a pretty good group of friends. I guess I can split them into two groups, where one is the people I have known all my life and the other is people I have gotten to know through music, school etc.
I'm at an age where people are starting college/jobs, and moving all over. But I have never had problems getting to know new people, so yeah, it's all good.
This was a pretty depressing/silly thread btw... I don't know that many people are interested in reading about my and other peoples average social lives.
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