Excuses 101

All this talk about my "dad" and how he's not good for much, made me realize that I'm almost following in his image, as I do pretty much nothing. I don't even have anymore excuses. I usually come up with a good one right about now, for covering my inability or motivation to achieve just about anything, but today I realized a couple things. I've run the well dry, baby.
 
There's so many things that I DON'T like about my life, and the logical response to all this would be to change it. Why is it then my human nature which causes me to idle and let everything pass me by? I mean I'm really struggling to find an answer to this. If we look at a comparison of what I like about me and what I don't like about me, what do we get?

PROS

• I'm good at Street Fighter
• I make Music and Videos!
• I have an awkward sense of humor
  

CONS

• I live with my mother
• I am unemployed
• I hate my skin complexion
• Stopped working out, gaining weight
  
• My sleeping schedule is fucked
• No fucking motivation
• I make excuses for everything
• I'm sort of an asshole to people
• I have a really short temper
• Need dentist work, procrastinating
• I'm socially awkward
  

All this talk about my "dad" and how he's not good for much, made me realize that I'm almost following in his image, as I do pretty much nothing. I don't even have anymore excuses. I usually come up with a good one right about now, for covering my inability or motivation to achieve just about anything, but today I realized a couple things. I've run the well dry, baby.
 
There's so many things that I DON'T like about my life, and the logical response to all this would be to change it. Why is it then my human nature which causes me to idle and let everything pass me by? I mean I'm really struggling to find an answer to this. If we look at a comparison of what I like about me and what I don't like about me, what do we get?

PROS

• I'm good at Street Fighter
• I make Music and Videos!
• I have an awkward sense of humor
  

CONS

• I live with my mother
• I am unemployed
• I hate my skin complexion
• Stopped working out, gaining weight
  
• My sleeping schedule is fucked
• No fucking motivation
• I make excuses for everything
• I'm sort of an asshole to people
• I have a really short temper
• Need dentist work, procrastinating
• I'm socially awkward
  

Good for you, dude!

Try working out at a local gym, you need to exercise and it will also help your social skills. Get involved with something else outside of video games, music, video, ext. And you have to be passionate about something, use that as motivation to get a job or something. Just some tips you could consider to improve your life.

Try to be best,‘Cause you’re only a man, And a man’s gotta learn to take it, Try to believe, Though the going gets rough, That you gotta hang tough to make it, History repeats itself, Try and you’ll succeed, Never doubt that you’re the one, And you can have your dreams!, You’re the best! Around!, Nothing’s gonna ever keep you down

Kinda in the same boat as me with a few differences, i'm already overweight lol, and i'm at university. I'm also not a mod.

Don't be so hard on yourself, judging by your list you've got all the advantages of a young Steve Buscemi.

"@The_A_Drain: Right on, although I'd say I'm definitely overweight in the clinical sense, as my BMI is about 10 over, I should weigh 140-160 lbs., not 200. Also, I have a gigantic gut from drinking and eating tons of crap, so it's more my physical appearance that I'm worried about. I understand that's probably not what you mean by overweight, but yeah. Self-confidence seems to stem to absolutely all of my failures, so I figure looking good and feeling better is probably the best place to start.As for the sleeping patterns, I was more saying that I wake up at midnight, and go to bed at like 4pm. I get plenty of sleep it's just completely back-asswards."

I wouldn't normally share this online, no particular reason I guess same as yourselves, embarrasment/self confidence issues etc. I mean i'm not a complete whale some of it is muscle, the rest of it is what 3 years of education involving sitting at a computer 7 hours a day will get you when you dont have the motivation to exercise, i'm something like 260 - 270 lbs, and i'm hardly tall, so that's pretty overweight I reckon. I gotta shift some of it, hopefully when i'm back at uni i'll start losing some more as i'll be walking farther. Motivation is a helluva killer though if you can't find any.

" @TeflonBilly: Eat lightning, shit thunder! I'M ON IT, STAT. "

Start reading a bunch of Samurai books, I mean the oldschool samurai texts. The Bushido shoshinshu (code) is a good one. I know those guys were a little fucked up, but they were very focused and motivated in their teachings. I used that as my motivation in college when I could still run a 21 minute 5k. Sadly a desk job put an end to that.

Ahaha I feel the same way man, except I'm 18 and hoping to start college after one year of being a lazy butt. I even have been procrastinating on dental work, it's kinda scary how similar this is.

Try being an unemployed 44 year old caregiver. Yikes, and I hangout on a website devoted to video games. I need a life or that's what my wife tells me. I just take it one day at a time and have some fun along the way.

I have some opposite problems to you, I'm just too skinny. I need to put on some weight or muscle but whenever I eat I can't seem to gain any weight (it sounds great but it's not really).

working out will help your selfesteem and maybe will make you better socially. Then you'll get tired and sleep better and have more energy to go out and work.

CONS

• I am unemployed ( I've never ever had a job, I've tried, but if you've no experience there's no place for me)
  
• I hate my skin complexion (I used to)
  
• My sleeping schedule is fucked -Mine's incredible, I slept at 6pm today, woke up at 9pm, won't go back to bed till 4am now.
  
• No fucking motivation (Failed my first year of Uni for this reason)
  
• I make excuses for everything (See above)
  
• I have a really short temper (Yeah so do I, there are a few people that just grate me the wrong way and I just wanna hit, even if they've done nothing wrong)
  
• Need dentist work, procrastinating (My front 2 teeth are so of it's wrong, I once bit my gf, looked at the bite marks it was weird)
  
• I'm socially awkward (Big groups result in my silence, I always have to know who's going out before I evaluate if I'm going)
  

I feel like I'm in a tavern or something.

It's like I'm really on livejournal!

 I won't bore you guys with reps and results as this is a video game website

:O I'm pretty much the exact same as you.

For those of you a little overweight, a bit of bulemia is worth a shot.

Don't feel bad. I don't have any motivation for anything. I am still happy because I have almost everything I could want for now.

Looking at your two threads, I feel for you. But I feel a Fallout 3 vibe at the moment :|.

I think sharing what you're doing with us here and at your site can only be a good thing. Motivation is the main thing. I need to start exercising because while my weight isn't an issue I just want to feel healthier.

Also, getting a job and moving out, even temporarily would be great.

Yeah, I'm pretty much in the same boat. I'm 19, and still crashing in the basement, but my moms getting re-married soon, which is really fucking awkward. On the bright side, I think I may finally have settled on a career path in business, and  community college starts again this September...

On a related note, I "quit" drinking caffeine a few weeks ago, because it wouldn't do anything for me anymore,  only to relapse last night. I was so fucking tired, but I lie there and couldn't sleep. Great.

At least you have come to terms with your problems man. I have a shit load of friends my age or older that will not even acknowledge they have some issues they need to resolve. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, you will be fine.

And yeah, get your ass in shape. That will make you feel a 1000x better about yourself. Good luck, I will be here eating twinkies rooting for you!

Ha, I feel lack of motivation all the time. But then again, high school tends to do that to you.

Kinda similar, 18 just finished school. Trying to use the long summer to get everything sorted. Excercise, diet and sleep help with a lot stuff I've just started losing weight and sleeping more regularly (if not entirely normally as I'm pretty nocturnal) and it really helps with mood, motivation etc. Healthy body = healthy mind and all that shit

Mood blog. Nothing to see here.

" @lordofultima: I feel the same way sometimes except I'm 16. Did you go to college? Also, I'm going to follow your workout journal on your website :) "

CONS

• No fucking motivation
• I make excuses for everything

" @lordofultima said:

CONS

• No fucking motivation
• I make excuses for everything

Kinda sounds like you're working out as an excuse to the one bullet point that actually matters IMO. motivation. Perhaps you should get some perspective by volunteering in a soup kitchen or homeless shelter, or just take what little pros you have to take them to the next level. Gootecks at 25 felt something similar except he had a job and a girlfriend at the time. He followed his passion and dumped everything he felt was holding him back (quit his job and dumped his GF), and went full pro at SF4. I'm not saying follow in his footsteps, but you aren't alone. "

" Mood blog. Nothing to see here.
Trust me, I've gone through this many times. It's best to just do things when you do them, rather than psyching yourself up because you feel you have to. If that's why you do them, you'll never be happy.
"

You are having an epiphany about life right now. I'm 22 and am just realizing all of this and trying to learn from everything and everybody how the world really works. We share some things in common and I have to say that I'm starting to realize everything. I think we all have this moment. 

I was in a similar position back in 07 and 08 but not as bad I feel as yours.  I felt my life was going nowhere as I couldn't bag a job after getting a degree in university, I was overweight and wanted to lose it but I just couldn't be bothered exercising and sometimes I cried because of that.  Its what some people like to call depression and also I suffered it during university as well due to the people I lived with being the opposite of me but luckily that changed towards the end.  Right now, I have a job, which while not necessarily the ideal job, its a lot better than the hellhole I was in last year and due to this whole recession thing happening, I am lucky to have one.  I have lost quite a bit of weight thanks to said job and overall, I feel happier that what I was over a year ago and beyond. 

You are not the only one out there now who feels this way Michael since there is a lot of people your age who feel like they are doing nothing with their lives and they want to do something about it.  Some manage to do so and others don't.  If you put the dedication and willpower to it, you can achieve your goals also and honestly, I hope you do as from what I know of you, you are a pretty down to earth guy who has some humour to him, which is one aspect I like about people.

Also, about your previous post concerning your father.  Its sad to hear about this situtation, as I never knew this side of your story.  I wouldn't necessarily know what to do if I was in your situation.  It will be like the angel and the devil side of things you see in cartoons where one tells you to go visit him for several reasons while the other tells you to forget him and don't bother saying he never did anything for you your whole life.  I know you ain't going and you may regret it down the line but if you feel you made the right decision, then that's all that can be said about it.