Friends Vs. Family

Who holds the higher spot on your priority list? Your friends or your family?

I gotta say, my closest friends upstage my family pretty soundly.
Yeah, true, I was born into my family, and there will always be that blood connection, but I chose my friends. I got to say "yeah, I like you, I want to hang out with you", and I think that's a stronger bond than blood could ever be on it's own.

Yeah, there's the saying "blood is thicker than water," but there's no rule written anywhere that says you have to get along with your family. My parents annoy the crap out of me and my sister overreacts to everything and isn't very mature for her age. As family members, sure, I love them very much, but if they were people I had no blood connection with, I probably wouldn't want to spend time with them.

Plus, there's that whole bit about needing both blood and water to survive.

Now, before people pass this off as an angsty teen ranting about how his parents suck, let me just say that I do love my family, and it's not like they abuse me daily; I just don't get along with them and find them very annoying.


So, family or friends?

My family have done a lot for me, but I definitely feel closer to my friends. Maybe it's because I don't know my dad, that has pushed me away from my family somehow, I don't know, but I appreciate my friends a lot more.

Depends.  Family if it's immediate family.  Friends if its extended family.

I hate my "extended family"  bunch of loud mouth italians and hispanics.  Very annoying.  At least I know I can trust most of my closest friends.  Can't say the same about most of my family.

That being said I probably trust one of my brothers (oldest) the most out of anyone I know. 

If you have a sibling you're close to, then it would definitely be the other way around. Most people are closer to them because they're around them often, and you're not with your friends all the time.

"If you have a sibling you're close to, then it would definitely be the other way around. Most people are closer to them because they're around them often, and you're not with your friends all the time."

If one of my friends were to threaten my family, I'd have no problem ending their existence then and there.

I think you got some pretty decent points..  I'm closer to my friends no doubt, but I think you're forgetting a thing. As you said, we pick and choose who we bond with, outside our family, which makes them, well, friends.. or should I say better friends? Anyway, to the point.
You choose between people (that is not your family), which also involes them being individuals that has no 'real' reason to bond.. That means, as you choose one, they may not choose you, etc.. a friendship can die easily, and a new can start just as easy, get my drift?..
Family however, them, you're bond is 'forced' upon you, in most cases that is, which also makes them more reliable?
You're nearly bound to make up with family if something goes wrong.. You're not with a 'friend'..  I know this probably sounds weird, but I hope you can understand my philosophy on this point.. I think it's hard to compare, it's really situation based.
Anyway, nuff' from me, that's my view.

LooM

"I think you got some pretty decent points..  I'm closer to my friends no doubt, but I think you're forgetting a thing. As you said, we pick and choose who we bond with, outside our family, which makes them, well, friends.. or should I say better friends? Anyway, to the point.
You choose between people (that is not your family), which also involes them being individuals that has no 'real' reason to bond.. That means, as you choose one, they may not choose you, etc.. a friendship can die easily, and a new can start just as easy, get my drift?..
Family however, them, you're bond is 'forced' upon you, in most cases that is, which also makes them more reliable?
You're nearly bound to make up with family if something goes wrong.. You're not with a 'friend'..  I know this probably sounds weird, but I hope you can understand my philosophy on this point.. I think it's hard to compare, it's really situation based.
Anyway, nuff' from me, that's my view.

LooM"

Pretty tough...

Some of my friends are really close to me, but I feel that I'll eventually lose contact with some of them. Whereas, that can't really happen with immediate family. They're always there. And some friends, if you have a big argument with them, it takes longer to get back on terms with them than family, I think. I'm pretty split here. I'd say really good friends and immediate family are on the same line for me.

"xruntime said:

"If you have a sibling you're close to, then it would definitely be the other way around. Most people are closer to them because they're around them often, and you're not with your friends all the time."

My sister is in college and has a job, so I barely see her. Sure, she's gotten alcohol for my friends and I on occasion and she can be cool, but the whole non-maturity overrides that and she can be very annoying.
And, I hang out with my friends very often; I talk to them far far more than I do my family. I have everything I need in my bedroom, so I'm always up here; I don't really talk to my mom all that much. I do, however, talk to my dad."

"DarthMaul said:

"xruntime said:

"If you have a sibling you're close to, then it would definitely be the other way around. Most people are closer to them because they're around them often, and you're not with your friends all the time."

My sister is in college and has a job, so I barely see her. Sure, she's gotten alcohol for my friends and I on occasion and she can be cool, but the whole non-maturity overrides that and she can be very annoying.
And, I hang out with my friends very often; I talk to them far far more than I do my family. I have everything I need in my bedroom, so I'm always up here; I don't really talk to my mom all that much. I do, however, talk to my dad."

Yeah - you should do stuff with your family more often. I don't consider getting wasted a very family-bonding activity...

Like, back when I was younger, I used to play basketball with my older brother often, as well as play Rainbow Six, Triple Play Baseball...things like that.
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The only person in my family I'm even remotely close to is my mom. I am not close to my friends either we're more about having a laugh and being immature, but none that I can relate too.

I fight with my brother alot and not the petty stuff, the one with fists invovled.

Just another point I want to bring up:

Normally, maybe 95% of the time, when one gets a girlfriend/boyfriend, they go to their friends first.
Reasons for this include:

• They're scared whether or not their family would approve
• One just doesn't know how to tell their family
• Friends are always more accepting and one can see eye-to-eye with them
• Family members always feel the need to look on the downside to everything

I'd choose my family, which also includes some of my closest friends because i love them as brothers

"I am not close to my friends either we're more about having a laugh and being immature, but none that I can relate too."

Family of course. You can never turn away blood. Blood truly is thicker than water. Family will be there for you whether you like it or not. Most likely you've know your family your whole life and your friends..not so much.

"AaronBelfast said:

"I am not close to my friends either we're more about having a laugh and being immature, but none that I can relate too."

I used to have that problem a long time ago. It goes away when you grow up.
I assume you're young >.>"

"DarthMaul said:

"AaronBelfast said:

"I am not close to my friends either we're more about having a laugh and being immature, but none that I can relate too."

I used to have that problem a long time ago. It goes away when you grow up.
I assume you're young >.>"

I'm 15, we're not immature but more of the people that don't like being serious. It probaly will go away, but as soon as it does, we'll be moving on to jobs and having girlfriends etc."

XD see? My point had been proven.

My friend is interested in this one girl and he came to me first. Well I guess it's just normal, but you know.

Family, by far. But it all depends on the circumstance

"Who holds the higher spot on your priority list? Your friends or your family?

I gotta say, my closest friends upstage my family pretty soundly.
Yeah, true, I was born into my family, and there will always be that blood connection, but I chose my friends. I got to say "yeah, I like you, I want to hang out with you", and I think that's a stronger bond than blood could ever be on it's own.

Yeah, there's the saying "blood is thicker than water," but there's no rule written anywhere that says you have to get along with your family. My parents annoy the crap out of me and my sister overreacts to everything and isn't very mature for her age. As family members, sure, I love them very much, but if they were people I had no blood connection with, I probably wouldn't want to spend time with them.

Plus, there's that whole bit about needing both blood and water to survive.

Now, before people pass this off as an angsty teen ranting about how his parents suck, let me just say that I do love my family, and it's not like they abuse me daily; I just don't get along with them and find them very annoying.


So, family or friends?
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My friends are my family.

"DarthMaul said:

"Who holds the higher spot on your priority list? Your friends or your family?

I gotta say, my closest friends upstage my family pretty soundly.
Yeah, true, I was born into my family, and there will always be that blood connection, but I chose my friends. I got to say "yeah, I like you, I want to hang out with you", and I think that's a stronger bond than blood could ever be on it's own.

Yeah, there's the saying "blood is thicker than water," but there's no rule written anywhere that says you have to get along with your family. My parents annoy the crap out of me and my sister overreacts to everything and isn't very mature for her age. As family members, sure, I love them very much, but if they were people I had no blood connection with, I probably wouldn't want to spend time with them.

Plus, there's that whole bit about needing both blood and water to survive.

Now, before people pass this off as an angsty teen ranting about how his parents suck, let me just say that I do love my family, and it's not like they abuse me daily; I just don't get along with them and find them very annoying.


So, family or friends?
"

If you had children of your own would your views change any?

Family first for me but I also consider my best friends to be a part of my family. They know my parents well, I know theirs. We drink and party, we are there for each other."

It's a tough call. I put a few friends above everyone if they really need my help.  On the other hand, my immediate family can go die and I'd take their belongings. It's my cousins that really matter to me.

I consider my best friend to be part of my family so they are equal.

Well my "family" ...is a bit complicated. So I would say that friends are more important to me. And also, friends choose to be your friends and choose to hang out/talk to you, your family is essentially stuck with you (not trying to say a family doesn't care).

"I consider my best friend to be part of my family so they are equal."

Immidiate family, then friends (but this has been know to change with immidiate family depending on where I am in my life) then rest of family I guess. But I wouldn't just support my family no matter what, I just happen to like mine. Relationships and people you choose to > blood relations

So I actually had a conversation with my mom without getting annoyed. I was surprised >.>

My family and my dogs. I've had a huge falling out with all of my friends and as of now I'm friendless, that'll change with school time though. Gotta get back into my skin.

My brother always put his friends on the top list over the family, I sorta dispise him when I think about it like that. What kind of family was you raised in to put your friends over family non the less your mom..pretty pathetic imo.

my friends, since they are more accepting of me. but i still love my family, and if i had to choose one over the other i would choose family since i know they care about me more.

"My brother always put his friends on the top list over the family, I sorta dispise him when I think about it like that. What kind of family was you raised in to put your friends over family non the less your mom..pretty pathetic imo."

Probably just one person from my family I greatly care about, other than that friends > family in every way for me.

...Except I like hanging out with my family. I like hanging out with my friends too, and convos and reactions are certainly different between family and friends. But 9 times out of 10, I'd choose family.

Family are the only people I'd tell everything to. Friends get a slight cover job.

"Family are the only people I'd tell everything to. Friends get a slight cover job."

Friends.

"get2sammyb said:

"Family are the only people I'd tell everything to. Friends get a slight cover job."

I'm the exact opposite. I don't tell my family anything really, whereas my best friend knows everything about me, and normally the only person I tell any secrets I have to."

"If one of my friends were to threaten my family, I'd have no problem ending their existence then and there."

Haha I didn't want to respond to what Jayge said because I didn't know if he meant ending his family's existence or his friend's >.> XD

"Haha I didn't want to respond to what Jayge said because I didn't know if he meant ending his family's existence or his friend's >.> XD"

Yeah, I'd probably kick a friends ass if they ever threatened them, too.

My parents and I consider my close friends family.  So I guess I can say family.  I was born with them and they support me the most.

Family then friends.

It would be interesting to see where people would place their girlfriend/boyfriend, more or less important then family and friends.

"It would be interesting to see where people would place their girlfriend/boyfriend, more or less important then family and friends."