How to get out of a party you don't want to go to.

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#1  Edited By Hizang

It's one of your colleagues birthday, they have invited everybody at work to a club for drinks. You like this person, you have the money to go out, you just don't want to go.

How do you explain this in a way that doesn't make you sound like a jerk?

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#2  Edited By AhmadMetallic

A serious-sounding excuse. No one fucks with serious excuses ;)

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#3  Edited By IAmNotBatman

Tell the truth, they just have to deal with it.

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#4  Edited By C0V3RT

Tell them it's not your thing but you'll make it up to them by treating them to lunch/drinks sometime.

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#6  Edited By Hizang

@BraveToaster: Thats what I ending up doing recently, before I would make up excuses and I would get questioned nonstop about it (Because they ovoiusly know its a fake one) but on this occasion they really had nothing to say.

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#7  Edited By NickBOTT

@Hizang: Is there something specific about why you don't want to go out? (You don't like clubs, don't like a certain person whose going, etc) Or do you honestly just don't feel like going out?

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#9  Edited By Hizang

@NickBOTT: Not really, clubs are alright, I like the majority of the people there. Its just that staying in sounds so much more appealing to me than going out in the cold, I am much happier at home doing what I want.

I'm 19 by the way, weird right!

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#10  Edited By MezZa

This sounds like the movie Yes Man waiting to happen. Anyway, either tell the truth and say you aren't feeling up for it, or think of some serious personal reason that no one would dare question.

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#11  Edited By ShadowConqueror

Say you're busy. If they ask with what, say it's personal.

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#12  Edited By napalm

You just don't go. There was a holiday party at work that I didn't want to go to because I just didn't want to. That, and it was all the way downtown in an area where there is little parking. I also didn't feel like paying for inevitable broken windows.

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#13  Edited By crusader8463
  • You haven't been sleeping well the last few days and don't feel up to going out.
  • You have had other plans for awhile and you can;t make it.
  • Or just be blunt and tell them that you don't feel like going out. If they are anyone worth associating with they won't care if one less person shows up.
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#14  Edited By coakroach

Go to the persons birthday for fucks sake.

Have a couple of drinks and then tell them you have to get up early tomorrow and bail, or just sneak out when no ones looking and give the same excuse when they ask you next time you see them.

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#15  Edited By NickBOTT

Lol nothing weird about not wanting to go out in the cold when you can stay nice and warm at home and still have fun. If that's truly the case then just say you're not really up for going out tonight.

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#16  Edited By JasonR86

@Hizang:

Just lie. Say something about family or a date or something. That's what I do.

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#17  Edited By PulledaBrad

No excuses. Just don't go. When asked, just respond "I didn't feel like going out."

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#18  Edited By TheSouthernDandy

Basically you have three options.
1. Tell the truth, you don't feel like going out. As it's this persons bday, you run a pretty high risk of offending them. If that's not an issue then all's good.
2. Lie, make up something. They'll either believe it an your free and clear or they won't but unless they're crazy aren't gonna go out of their way to find proof. They still may resent you for it.
3. just go for a few hours an either have fun or leave a little early. 
 
I've used all three options. The first one kinda sucks. The second one sorta does but sucks less. The third one may not be your preferred choice but sometimes if you wanna maintain friendships you have to put yourself out a bit. If it were just out for drinks I'd say ditch it but it's his bday. If you're friends you kinda should be there. Maybe.

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#19  Edited By Enigma777

Don't go and when they ask why you didn't go the next day, tell em you had diarrhea. I guarantee they will not ask any more questions.

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#20  Edited By Hizang

@TheSouthernDandy: @coakroach: I suppose its the little things.

  • Clubs kinda far.
  • I would end up staying late because I would have to rely on a lift.
  • I would end up buying drinks for everybody.
  • I don't really know the birthday girl to much, our convo's usually "Did you have a nice weekend" basis.
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#21  Edited By Ramone

@Hizang said:

@NickBOTT: Not really, clubs are alright, I like the majority of the people there. Its just that staying in sounds so much more appealing to me than going out in the cold, I am much happier at home doing what I want.

I'm 19 by the way, weird right!

I know this might sound stupid but there's been plenty of times where I've been adamant that I'm not going to go out, then subsequently went out and actually had a ton of fun. If you're 100% sure you don't want to though just say you can't be arsed. Works for me.

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#22  Edited By Aus_azn

Induce vomiting. Say that you aren't feeling well, and show a pic if they don't believe you.

/sarcasm

Do you have a lot of work to do? That's usually the best excuse if it actually exists. Else, claim that you're already living over budget this month, and bring an empty wallet to the party. Or claim that you have a stomach virus (minus the picture), and look dead at work the next day.

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#23  Edited By Sooty
@Hizang said:

It's one of your colleagues birthday, they have invited everybody at work to a club for drinks. You like this person, you have the money to go out, you just don't want to go.

How do you explain this in a way that doesn't make you sound like a jerk?

Tell them you got ass cancer from playing Cards Against Humanity.
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#24  Edited By neurotic

@Hizang said:

I'm 19 by the way, weird right!

Me too, and I feel the same way a lot of the time, although what Ramone said is true sometimes. If you really feel you need an excuse then you can make up most anything (illness/family commitments/work) and so long as they're normal people, they won't have a reason to doubt you.

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#25  Edited By Doctorchimp

Sorry man I have work/school early tomorrow.

It's usually true anyway...

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#26  Edited By Rattle618

Just don´t go, from what you are describing it´s not like you care about this person.

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#27  Edited By Hector

I just don't pick up the phone on the day of the party, when they call me the next day I just say I wanted to rest up before the party and just ended up sleeping.

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#28  Edited By DukesT3

@coakroach said:

Go to the persons birthday for fucks sake.

Have a couple of drinks and then tell them you have to get up early tomorrow and bail, or just sneak out when no ones looking and give the same excuse when they ask you next time you see them.

Yeah, I agree with this. Just show your face, wish him/her happy birthday, have a drink or two then tell them you have plans to take care of in the morning and bail.

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Just be a fucking adult and say you're not up for it. Christ, how hard is it.

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#30  Edited By Aetheldod

@Frostmane said:

Just be a fucking adult and say you're not up for it. Christ, how hard is it.

Amen bro .... Why is there a social impossition that you HAVE to go? Screw that ... wheres ma freedom????

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#31  Edited By ImmortalSaiyan

If you really don't want to go they can't force you.

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#32  Edited By wjb

Full blown AIDS...from an African prostitute...country is ravaged by starvation...selling her body was the only financial recourse she had left...

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#33  Edited By GunslingerPanda

Ear infection. Bus didn't show up. Fell asleep. Diarhea. Got called in to work. Took the dog to the vet. Anal Bleeding.

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#34  Edited By benpack

I don't think I can make it man, sorry.

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#35  Edited By Sooty

Boys, we got a flaker.

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#36  Edited By DagobahDude

Throw up on someone during the afternoon.

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#37  Edited By stinky

@IAmNotBatman said:

Tell the truth, they just have to deal with it.

this. be a grown up, tell the truth, and in actuality they probably don't care.

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#38  Edited By YI_Orange

If you don't have to give a response, just don't go, if they ask why you didn't then either make something simple(yet last minute) up or tell them you weren't feeling up to it.

If you do have to give a response, just say you don't feel like going. If they get pissed at you then there's no guilt to be had because fuck them for getting mad at you for not celebrating them. If they don't care(though maybe preferred you were there) then they're probably cool and no harm done.

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#39  Edited By deathstriker666

In my experience, grown-ups always lie

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#40  Edited By landon

You have to take your mother to the doctor. If they ask why, just say it's nothing serious but she'd be embarrassed if you told anyone and would probably pretend not to know what your talking about if you asked her.

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#41  Edited By invasionone

"I am currently on fire".

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#42  Edited By MikkaQ

Well if it's because you just don't want to go out, then you are being a jerk, no other way to put it.

Fake being sick, and take the person out for food to make up for it.

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#43  Edited By geirr

"I don't feel like it, sorry." and if they can't respect that, they're the jerk.

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#44  Edited By kpaadet

Tell them your dog eat your invitation, just tell the truth that you dont feel like going out.

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#45  Edited By billyhoush

Fake your death then tell them Monday you were resurrected.

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#46  Edited By CaLe

This is one area where I have absolutely zero problems. I can say no to anything. I said no to my sisters wedding. It's so easy for me. I feel sorry for those who find it difficult. I came here to gloat about this ability I have. And to make short sentences. Short and to the point. Like simply saying no.

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#47  Edited By tekmojo

Tell them you're playing butt darts instead.

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#48  Edited By Lifestrike

Tell them you died.

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#49  Edited By OmegaChosen

Say you're not feeling well and look sad. Maybe place a hand on your stomach if you really want the point to get across. This is usually enough for me to get out of things.

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#50  Edited By Winternet

Tell you have someone coming to your house for .. you know.