is it odd to have friends 3 years younger than you?
I am about to turn 16 in less than 3 weeks.. and it got me thinking... i have a friend who 13.. and i have never had any friends 3 years older than me.. so do you think it odd to have friends 3 or more years younger?
"not really, if it wasn't odd to be friends with him when you became friends then its not odd now. "
what?!?
The old you get, the less age matters. Many of my friends are 1-3 years younger than me. This was kind of weird in highschool, but now that I am almost 30 I don't even think about it. What's most important is if they are good friends. That's all that really counts. Plus, you'll be able to give them their first bar experience, which is a lot of fun.
" @kashif1 said:let me put it another way, you guy probably became friends before you hit puberty, therefore your friendship was not odd back then. now that youve hit puberty and he hasnt it feels odd to be friends with him. That'll only last until he hits puberty at which point the odd feeling will be gone"not really, if it wasn't odd to be friends with him when you became friends then its not odd now. "what?!? "
"The old you get, the less age matters. Many of my friends are 1-3 years younger than me. This was kind of weird in highschool, but now that I am almost 30 I don't even think about it. What's most important is if they are good friends. That's all that really counts. Plus, you'll be able to give them their first bar experience, which is a lot of fun. "This.
If theyve been friends for a long time I dont think that the younger ones will feel strange about it. I imagine they all kind of look up to Ishouturface" @Ishoturface said:
" @kashif1 said:let me put it another way, you guy probably became friends before you hit puberty, therefore your friendship was not odd back then. now that youve hit puberty and he hasnt it feels odd to be friends with him. That'll only last until he hits puberty at which point the odd feeling will be gone ""not really, if it wasn't odd to be friends with him when you became friends then its not odd now. "what?!? "
I think it's fine. Nearly all my friends were atleast 2 years older than me, and if they had thought it weird, I wouldn't have had some of the best experiences in my life.
In 5 or so years when my little brother turns 16, he's gonna be shown a good time ;)
Not really, I'm friendly with a couple people a few years younger than me. Albeit, my parents are great friends with their parents, and well, we're all friends with each other. So yeah. Technically when you get into your adult life, you'll have friends that are probably a few years your junior or a few years your senior.
Not really that weird, as long as your friend looks a little older then 13 and acts like you it doesn't reallt matter, but if your hanging around with some short ass kid that doesn't know what "Masterbation" is, then I would steer clear.
my friendships will my little brothers friends lasted much longer than they did with my own friends from high school. So I was roughly 2-3 years older than most of my friends, and it was fine. as will everyone one above, the older you get the more it doesnt matter. Once everyone is over 21 the age thing disappears entirely. If you like who the person is and you arent ashamed of him for being younger than you, then your fine.
If you are 16, in two years it won't even occur to you whether or not it's odd. I have friends 5 to 10 years on either side of my age. High school confines us to artificial boundaries which, in truth, are meaningless at every other point in our lives. If you enjoy their company and they like hanging with you, then don't worry about it. Good friends are hard to find. Don't lose them to something as insignificant as high school's peer conformity.
EDIT: Just be careful when they eventually ask you to buy beer for them. ;-D
That is fine dude. I have friends that are years younger or older than me, on each side of the spectrum. I don't really see them that much in school (props to PenguinDust ^ for telling it how it is) but I see them often and, if they are good people that you enjoy spending time with, there is no problem with it.
" Not really that weird, as long as your friend looks a little older then 13 and acts like you it doesn't reallt matter, but if your hanging around with some short ass kid that doesn't know what "Masterbation" is, then I would steer clear. "Or as long as you're not hanging out with a kid who can't spell masturbation. :P
Seriously though, Buckdeth makes a valid point, as long as the kid is not way younger than you. It is a little bit of an odd occurrence when you're on the younger end of the spectrum, but it's not really strange. As long as you're good friends, that's not weird to do at all. The more you age, the less it'll feel strange. As long as you're able to maintain the same interests and do the same things with out age or life experience getting in the way, it seems fine.
Steve Wozniak is 4 years older than Steve Jobs and yet they were good friends when Jobs was in High School.
When I was at school I had friends younger than me. Most were just a year or two, but some were 3 or more. It's not weird at all.
What is weird, is that after I finished school and went to uni, it totally flipped over the opposite way. All my friends at uni are mature students, and the people I'm mates with in the pub are all older. Anywhere from aged 30-70. I'm not friends with anyone around the same age as me. I'm weird. Or maybe all the young people at my uni and in my pub are idiots. Either way, I'm getting off topic here and should stop typing.
Shit, I'm 13, I have freinds that aren't even 10 yet. It doesn't bother me one bit though, they're pretty mature, if they weren't I probably wouldn't even hang out with them.
All of my friends have been been either a couple years young or older for some reason. On the plus side, I remember reading a study saying those with older and younger friends opposed to peers of the same age normally are more intelligent. Who knows though.
It might seem to matter at that age...but I'm 21 and I've pretty much stopped caring how old my friends are...although it might be an issue when it comes to going to a bar.
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