TLDR: I'm looking to find an online community that is platform agnostic that I can talk to and ask questions about learning to program and what development software to use.
The longer version, is that I want to take learning to program more seriously then I have in the past. When I was a kid I spent hours playing with RPG maker, and later in life I have dabbled with Game Maker and made my shitty pong and asteroid clone games but have never gone beyond that. I would always hit a wall and stop, or bad stuff would happen in life that would erase an progress I made in learning. Maybe this will end up being another fly by night whim that doesn't go anywhere, but I'm going to keep trying and hope it sticks this time.
I want to make sure I'm setting myself up for success this time instead of failure and want to do so by discussing things with people who have knowledge about the current state of indie game development. People who have taught themselves this stuff and can answer questions like what software is best for 3d or 2d games. What platforms offer support for cross platform development. How to build from the ground up to release on as many different systems as possible. What platforms have user friendly support, and a community of tutorial makers and welcome dumb questions as I learn. And a million other questions I'm sure I will have.
I don't want to be an armchair developer who has a million ideas and lack the ability to make them real anymore. I know some people in the game dev community frequent Giant Bomb, and there is/was the game jam community here. So I'm hoping someone from there may be able to help point me in a direction to head. I have been out of the loop for about 4-5 years due to a bad relationship I found myself in and feel like I don't know where to even start. So any help that can be offered is appreciated.