Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. Well anyways It wasn't until recently that I started to notice and believe that the reason I had the depression (maybe anxiety, and low-self esteem tie into this too) in the first place was because of my parents. My parents divorced when I was 3. I was too young to notice what was actually going on or the fact that they were getting divorced. But what I did notice was the fact that they really made little time for me. My mom was constantly working as a school teacher and even a home tutor for a while, so she was always busy. I would see my dad on weekends (if I was lucky enough). But because they were busy they never had time to make it to my school plays, my dad rarely came to my birthday parties. But I think the indecent that I remember most in my life was when I was 8. I can see it like it was yesterday, I was in the second grade, it was show and tell day, and all of the kids were excited and overly rambunctious. As part of the show and tell we got to make arts and crafts and present them to our parents. Like I said before my dad never took an interest in what I had to do, but I remember telling my mom all week and even before I went off to school that it was show and tell day and that I really wanted her to come. I don't think she was paying attention because she was just murmuring the whole time as she made lunches. Well as the clock went from 1 to 2 I was next to present a drawing I had made for show and tell. I remember sitting in the show and tell chair and watching the clock count down and every second or so looking back at the door hoping that my parents would walk through the door...Well they never did and I remember that moment as being the moment in my life that hurt me the most. I remember all of my other classmates with their parents showing them what they had made for show and tell and how happy and proud the parents were and I remember how I just sat there in the show and tell chair feeling so lonely. Every time I think about it I get teary eyed and for years I always thought that I had did something wrong that made them not want to take an interest and was always trying to seek their approval. Most kids I knew gave up on their parents, not me, I got up time after time even if it meant getting hurt. It's painful even looking back on it and I remember repressing the memories for quite some time (because like I said, it wasn't until recently that I started to remember). Should I tell my parents or someone this? Because this has been bugging me for years and I need to get it off my chest.
I feel for you...especially the obvious lack of paragraphing skills but this really isn't the place to be bringing this up. You'll only get even more hurt..
Go to /adv/ or something. It's basically the same community only a more fitting board.
Either way, I lost my parents as a teenager. I strongly recommend you do whatever you can to make the strongest memories of your parents good ones. A good way would be to talk with them, like you said.
Yeah dude, I agree with Jazz. You might get trolled. But I understand, it really does suck. And yes, you probably should talk to them about it. It's the best way to get it off your chest and hopefully solve your inner qualms.
But you might wanna chop that post up a bit more because it's really hard to read atm and you're not gonna get much help if people have to strain themselves to read it.
I don't have my degree yet, and I'm certainly no expert, but I've done enough research and had enough experience to know that this will only get worse if you don't confront it.
While this may not be the best place to bring this up, I would say, yes tell them. Even if they don't care at least you can get some closure as a result of getting this off your chest.
You should definately tell your parents. I went through something similar and didnt tell my mother. It lasted for months until she noticed that something was wrong with me and took me to a specialist. I ended up getting diagnosed with psychosis and am now on medication and doing great. It would have been much easier and I probably would have done better in my exams if I had told my mother something was wrong earlier but instead I ended up missing alot of school due to me being extremely paranoid when going outside.
" Maybe they had to work? Life is gonna throw you some tougher challenges than a second grade show and tell. "
I know they had to work. I think they are great parents. Infact, I would go so far as to say they were damn good parents. But I just always remember feeling like nothing I did was ever good enough to catch a moment of their attention for even a second. The reason why I have brought this up is because I've told my psychiatrist about incidents where my parents get hurt and I am constantly paranoid. This has been eating at me for years. You have to understand that the "second grade show and tell" was more than just a second grade show and tell. It was an incident in my life that brought pressing issues to light.
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
So you're telling me that the real world is a cold and dark one? A world where no one cares for each other? If yes, then you've also proved my point in the fact that I should see life in a pessimistic view huh?
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
So you're telling me that the real world is a cold and dark one? A world where no one cares for each other? If yes, then you've also proved my point in the fact that I should see life in a pessimistic view huh? "
That's right. If you ask me, which you did by making this post on the internet as far as I'm concerned, your problems are pathetic and are a perfect example of the current problems humanity faces in the modern world.
As for caring for each other, I certainly don't care at all - AT ALL - about your pathetic parent issues and desire to feel special because you have 'clinical depression'. I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine. You don't compare, at all, to any degree. You're not unique, you're not special, and speaking as someone whos parents also split up when I was 3: get over it. be a god damned man, because the real world isn't going to treat you like you're a special little broken person who needs to be treated nicely. Because you aren't.
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
So you're telling me that the real world is a cold and dark one? A world where no one cares for each other? If yes, then you've also proved my point in the fact that I should see life in a pessimistic view huh? "
That's right. If you ask me, which you did by making this post on the internet as far as I'm concerned, your problems are pathetic and are a perfect example of the current problems humanity faces in the modern world. As for caring for each other, I certainly don't care at all - AT ALL - about your pathetic parent issues and desire to feel special because you have 'clinical depression'. I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine. You don't compare, at all, to any degree. You're not unique, you're not special, and speaking as someone whos parents also split up when I was 3: get over it. be a god damned man, because the real world isn't going to treat you like you're a special little broken person who needs to be treated nicely. Because you aren't. Thus; grow up and take responsibility. "
Obviously your feelings of interest and concern have shown me that if this world is really a cold and dark place. It's because of people like you.
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
So you're telling me that the real world is a cold and dark one? A world where no one cares for each other? If yes, then you've also proved my point in the fact that I should see life in a pessimistic view huh? "
That's right. If you ask me, which you did by making this post on the internet as far as I'm concerned, your problems are pathetic and are a perfect example of the current problems humanity faces in the modern world. As for caring for each other, I certainly don't care at all - AT ALL - about your pathetic parent issues and desire to feel special because you have 'clinical depression'. I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine. You don't compare, at all, to any degree. You're not unique, you're not special, and speaking as someone whos parents also split up when I was 3: get over it. be a god damned man, because the real world isn't going to treat you like you're a special little broken person who needs to be treated nicely. Because you aren't. Thus; grow up and take responsibility. "
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
So you're telling me that the real world is a cold and dark one? A world where no one cares for each other? If yes, then you've also proved my point in the fact that I should see life in a pessimistic view huh? "
That's right. If you ask me, which you did by making this post on the internet as far as I'm concerned, your problems are pathetic and are a perfect example of the current problems humanity faces in the modern world. As for caring for each other, I certainly don't care at all - AT ALL - about your pathetic parent issues and desire to feel special because you have 'clinical depression'. I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine. You don't compare, at all, to any degree. You're not unique, you're not special, and speaking as someone whos parents also split up when I was 3: get over it. be a god damned man, because the real world isn't going to treat you like you're a special little broken person who needs to be treated nicely. Because you aren't. Thus; grow up and take responsibility. "
Obviously your feelings of interest and concern have shown me that if this world is really a cold and dark place. It's because of people like you. "
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
So you're telling me that the real world is a cold and dark one? A world where no one cares for each other? If yes, then you've also proved my point in the fact that I should see life in a pessimistic view huh? "
That's right. If you ask me, which you did by making this post on the internet as far as I'm concerned, your problems are pathetic and are a perfect example of the current problems humanity faces in the modern world. As for caring for each other, I certainly don't care at all - AT ALL - about your pathetic parent issues and desire to feel special because you have 'clinical depression'. I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine. You don't compare, at all, to any degree. You're not unique, you're not special, and speaking as someone whos parents also split up when I was 3: get over it. be a god damned man, because the real world isn't going to treat you like you're a special little broken person who needs to be treated nicely. Because you aren't. Thus; grow up and take responsibility. "
Internet tough guy is tough.
As for the OP yeah this is an odd place to talk about this stuff but if you talk to your parents about this an they still don't care, they're shit parents. Write em off and move on with your life. Best thing to do.
Even if it goes horribly awry (which it certainly might, I know from experience) JUST Knowing that you did your part in broaching the subject with your folks will help immensely.
Also, I really hope there aren't any soul-less pricks in the GB community who decide it's funny to kick someone when they're down.
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
So you're telling me that the real world is a cold and dark one? A world where no one cares for each other? If yes, then you've also proved my point in the fact that I should see life in a pessimistic view huh? "
That's right. If you ask me, which you did by making this post on the internet as far as I'm concerned, your problems are pathetic and are a perfect example of the current problems humanity faces in the modern world. As for caring for each other, I certainly don't care at all - AT ALL - about your pathetic parent issues and desire to feel special because you have 'clinical depression'. I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine. You don't compare, at all, to any degree. You're not unique, you're not special, and speaking as someone whos parents also split up when I was 3: get over it. be a god damned man, because the real world isn't going to treat you like you're a special little broken person who needs to be treated nicely. Because you aren't. Thus; grow up and take responsibility. "
Obviously your feelings of interest and concern have shown me that if this world is really a cold and dark place. It's because of people like you. "
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You know what pisses me off? When a guy expresses his feelings and then someone responds "shut up emo". I have no ill feelings toward you though. Infact I pity you. God help us if you were to ever have children. Because you sound like a "perfect" role model.
Talking is a good way to sort out things for yourself. You should think about what you are going to do in the future it sounds cliche but you just got to accept life kinda sucks you just gotta make it work
This was obviously a bad place for you to post this, but I say you really should tell them. Whether they listen or not, at least it's a step forward. Good luck.
Bundling up negative emotion and memories is a bad thing to do--but so is making it a common discussion point. With that said, if you think good can come from that talk, go for it. Change that atmosphere. Get some stuff off your chest. Then, when you look back on this, remember all the good, and forget the bad. It's a difficult spot to get out of, but positivity can work miracles. If you're feeling stressed, anxious, or depressed, don't think of what you're currently feeling, but rather, think of what you can--and want--to feel.
@Pinworm45 said:
" @dr_nefarious said:
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
Society's lack of remorse is an issue. And you're contributing to it. GTFO.
When a guy expresses his feelings and then someone responds "shut up emo".
He said cheer up emu kid. Actually it was kinda funny. You opened yourself up to this when your broadcasted " your so called problems" on a open internet forum.
" This was obviously a bad place for you to post this, but I say you really should tell them. Whether they listen or not, at least it's a step forward. Good luck. "
Thank you. @project343 said:
" Bundling up negative emotion and memories is a bad thing to do--but so is making it a common discussion point. With that said, if you think good can come from that talk, go for it. Change that atmosphere. Get some stuff off your chest. Then, when you look back on this, remember all the good, and forget the bad. It's a difficult spot to get out of, but positivity can work miracles. If you're feeling stressed, anxious, or depressed, don't think of what you're currently feeling, but rather, think of what you can--and want--to feel.
@Pinworm45 said:
" @dr_nefarious said:
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
Society's lack of remorse is an issue. And you're contributing to it. GTFO. "
Yes, Thank you. I've always felt and realized that talking things out has always helped me.
Society's lack of remorse is an issue. And you're contributing to it. GTFO. "
I have absolutely no remorse for someone who has absolutely no issues in a world full of an incredible amount of issues, and acts like a whiny child seeking attention over it, particularly on the internet. I have remorse for people with real problems. Not some guy who whines about being depressed because his parents split up. Wow man, that's rough. It's only what close to half of all children have to deal with.
Coddling this guy at your teet isn't going to prepare him for life, nor is it going to make him anything of value beyond a narcissist who thinks the world should revolve around them, thanks to our current "there are no losers" mentality.
It's pathetic. It's selfish. It's childish. And his life is a fucking dream to the lives of many people who live in legitimate suffering and have legitimate problems.
" Just a little background information to start off, I have been struggling with clinical depression for years now. I've been seeing a psychiatrist monthly and I've always thought the reason I've been struggling with clinical depression was because of that fact that I was always stressed out because of school work to the point where it started to carry over into depression. I had problems with anxiety as well. "
Grow up. The real world has no care or remorse for such childishness. "
So you're telling me that the real world is a cold and dark one? A world where no one cares for each other? If yes, then you've also proved my point in the fact that I should see life in a pessimistic view huh? "
That's right. If you ask me, which you did by making this post on the internet as far as I'm concerned, your problems are pathetic and are a perfect example of the current problems humanity faces in the modern world. As for caring for each other, I certainly don't care at all - AT ALL - about your pathetic parent issues and desire to feel special because you have 'clinical depression'. I definitely don't care about your non-problems when there's thousands of children who can't eat every single day, constant war and famine. You don't compare, at all, to any degree. You're not unique, you're not special, and speaking as someone whos parents also split up when I was 3: get over it. be a god damned man, because the real world isn't going to treat you like you're a special little broken person who needs to be treated nicely. Because you aren't. Thus; grow up and take responsibility. "
Obviously your feelings of interest and concern have shown me that if this world is really a cold and dark place. It's because of people like you. "
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You know what pisses me off? When a guy expresses his feelings and then someone responds "shut up emo". I have no ill feelings toward you though. Infact I pity you. God help us if you were to ever have children. Because you sound like a "perfect" role model. "
Because you're such a perfect role model by telling someone expressing their own feelings to suck it up because you think their problems are pathetic. God help us if you have kids.
" When a guy expresses his feelings and then someone responds "shut up emo". He said cheer up emu kid. Actually it was kinda funny. You opened yourself up to this when your broadcasted " your so called problems" on a open internet forum. "
Really when you look at it though even if it was a joke they both have the same meaning behind them. Sure I can understand a response like this on an internet forum. Wanna know why? Because there are fucking pricks out there.
You know what pisses me off? When a guy expresses his feelings and then someone responds "shut up emo". I have no ill feelings toward you though. Infact I pity you. God help us if you were to ever have children. Because you sound like a "perfect" role model. "
All I got from this was improper use of quotations and emphasis.
Nor did I ever say I was a role model. I'm just expressing my feelings on this matter, maaaan.
@Pinworm45: Well no shit there's worse stuff out there. There's ALWAYS somebody who has it worse. Anybody living in developed nations already has a big advantage over most parts of the world. This is obvious. Doesn't mean you have to be a prick. When somebody's living in a really shitty situation going "well at least i'm not starving in africa" doesn't mean anything. Like i said this is probably the wrong place to post this sorta stuff but dude you just sound like a prick. In the same way that a persons not gonna find solutions on the interwebs, you telling him "grow up you little bitch" isn't gonna make him go "Heeey, he's right!" It just makes you sound like a dick.
" You can either: A) Pilot an EVA or B) Move in with a soap salesman you met on a plane who will start Project Mayhem while you sleep. Or you know... just tell them. "
This guy will forever now be known as Ikari Shinji to me. What has been seen cannot be unseen. DAMN YOU
Well, my parents and I have a similar situation of what you have. My problem is the fact my parents always let me know how ugly, fat or whatever failure of the day i was to them. But i told them everything and they told me they didn't care. To be honest with you, you need to look at yourself and say will they care?
I would personally write a letter to both of them. Tell them how you feel, and then let it go. Say you don't want any responses from it. All you need to do is let them know how you feel. Talking wont help you at all. My birthday was yesterday and my mother didn't care. I spent 10 years of birthdays without presents, love or anything. So all i did was write, told them, she still didnt care, my dad, cares but can't talk with me, we are to different know.
This is not about them, is about you moving on and letting the past in the past. I cannot begging to tell you all the things that has happened to me. And im 25 years old woman, that never gave up on anything, and never will. The past should make you stronger, not weaker. :) Smile. Live your life. As hard as it sounds, you are born alone, and you will die alone. Is how you make the most of it in between. :)
" When a guy expresses his feelings and then someone responds "shut up emo". He said cheer up emu kid. Actually it was kinda funny. You opened yourself up to this when your broadcasted " your so called problems" on a open internet forum. "
Really when you look at it though even if it was a joke they both have the same meaning behind them. Sure I can understand a response like this on an internet forum. Wanna know why? Because there are fucking pricks out there. "
What makes you think you're any better? so far all you've done is looked for attention to your non-problems. When it was denied by me and you were called on it, you responded by being aggressive and insulting. Which I don't mind, however, it certainly doesn't make you seem any better. No, what it makes you seem like a narcissist who thinks his problems should be cared about by everyone, and that you are special and deserve attention. Perfectly in line with my "there are no losers" mentality hatred that I predicted earlier.
Again, why should I care about your pathetically insignificant problems when compared with people who have real, legitimate ones?
As someone who lost a family member to depression, I can only recommend that you continue with therapy and perhaps start a journal where you can put down honest thoughts. This messageboard obviously isn't the place for it - not because it's wrong to share, but because, as the adage goes, normal person + anonymity + audience = total asshole. Some of the people in this thread are obviously proving that out, but if you take a second to imagine how empty their lives must be to have fostered such a complete lack of empathy, hopefully that will brighten your day in a schadenfreudish way.
Get better. Life's too short to live with regrets. Depression's nothing to be ashamed of, but there are probably support-groupish messageboards that would be more welcoming than this one, if the posts here are any indication.
" In the same way that a persons not gonna find solutions on the interwebs, you telling him "grow up you little bitch" isn't gonna make him go "Heeey, he's right!" It just makes you sound like a dick. "
I disagree. It might make him think about it and grow the fuck up. I used to be similiar when I was 14, and when I got a similiar speech, it did help.
It's certainly a better alternative to coddling him and feeding this ridiculousness.
Jeeeesus Beesus. Some of you guys are assholes. Sheesh. Fuckin' Internet, huh. I've been depressed and it's not anything to joke about. Shit sucks! Anyway, I agree, talk to them. You should discuss it with your therapist. Stay strong, man! The best of luck to you.
Society's lack of remorse is an issue. And you're contributing to it. GTFO. "
I have absolutely no remorse for someone who has absolutely no issues in a world full of an incredible amount of issues, and acts like a whiny child seeking attention over it, particularly on the internet. I have remorse for people with real problems. Not some guy who whines about being depressed because his parents split up. Wow man, that's rough. It's only what close to half of all children have to deal with. Coddling this guy at your teet isn't going to prepare him for life, nor is it going to make him anything of value beyond a narcissist who thinks the world should revolve around them, thanks to our current "there are no losers" mentality. It's pathetic. It's selfish. It's childish. And his life is a fucking dream to the lives of many people who live in legitimate suffering and have legitimate problems. "
I love the fact that you think I'm some "whiny child seeking attention over the internet" when in reality you know nothing about me. Sure I'll agree there are a lot of problems out there in the world. What I don't understand is when a guy talks about something serious and you make a joke out of it. What's wrong with expressing yourself? Even if I was whining wouldn't it be better to whine and let all of my emotions out than to bottle them up? That's what's wrong with people like you. I have a feeling you're one of those "tough" guys who think you should always bottle up your emotions and never let them out. Poor poor you..
You should really let your parents know. Maybe they never meant to hurt your feelings but were to pre-occupied with their own problems that they couldn't pay attention to you.
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